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Old 26th August 2017, 4:35 PM   #61
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Yeah - my experience is if it is bad before meeting it gets worse after meeting. If it is good before, it can get better after, but if you're not feeling it to start with - it is a huge time and emotion sink.
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Old 26th August 2017, 4:42 PM   #62
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Yeah - my experience is if it is bad before meeting it gets worse after meeting. If it is good before, it can get better after, but if you're not feeling it to start with - it is a huge time and emotion sink.
Oh I totally agree and have at least 2 other threads that support this theory

My gut tells me, no. I takes time and practice to listen to our intuition. I can safely say I've had plenty of both.

The date is off

Onto the next!
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Old 26th August 2017, 4:51 PM   #63
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Oh I totally agree and have at least 2 other threads that support this theory

My gut tells me, no. I takes time and practice to listen to our intuition. I can safely say I've had plenty of both.

The date is off

Onto the next!
Good for you, no need to waste time on guys who aren't into you. I had doubts about a guy I went on a 1st date w/ after him only texting me every couple of days. Since I worked the days he was free, I even switched a shift w/my co worker only to have him reject me. I am glad he was straight forward, but I would have appreciated him telling me before I went through all these hoops to hang out w/him. I ALWAYS listen to my gut now and refuse to be lead on by anyone.
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Old 26th August 2017, 5:39 PM   #64
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Good for you, no need to waste time on guys who aren't into you. I had doubts about a guy I went on a 1st date w/ after him only texting me every couple of days. Since I worked the days he was free, I even switched a shift w/my co worker only to have him reject me. I am glad he was straight forward, but I would have appreciated him telling me before I went through all these hoops to hang out w/him. I ALWAYS listen to my gut now and refuse to be lead on by anyone.
I like your posts Seriousperson

Thanks for all the support

I really cant fail to listen to my gut again so I know what I need to do

I dont think he's leading me on at all. I think he genuinely likes what he sees and hears from me. Its just we're super incompatible.
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Old 26th August 2017, 5:42 PM   #65
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TMI right here,

My fairy tale about this guy has offically turned into porn lmao

I know I'm going to call off the date but I'm about ready to call him up and get a hotel room instead

When did I turn into a guy?

My sex drive is insane
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Old 26th August 2017, 7:57 PM   #66
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Resist the temptation! A long shower may help After my recent misfortune on that front my dreams are getting wild but mind stays strong.

Don't meet him - it will turn messy. Very messy. You know how it goes...

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TMI right here,

My fairy tale about this guy has offically turned into porn lmao

I know I'm going to call off the date but I'm about ready to call him up and get a hotel room instead

When did I turn into a guy?

My sex drive is insane
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Old 26th August 2017, 8:40 PM   #67
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TMI right here,

My fairy tale about this guy has offically turned into porn lmao

I know I'm going to call off the date but I'm about ready to call him up and get a hotel room instead

When did I turn into a guy?

My sex drive is insane

hahahaha he must be fiiine
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Old 27th August 2017, 12:09 AM   #68
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I used to be like that myself and might still be if I still dated but I'm old now. I discovered that multi dating was easier on me emotionally and help with some of the anxiety of being too invested in someone. I discovered this after I forced myself to be social after ordering a big heart break. It was a good distraction and it boosted my confidence which had been torn down of course. But if you're going to multi date you need to let people know so you don't break someone else's heart and have that on your conscience. You don't have to make a big deal about it you certainly don't want to give them any details but it needs to be conveyed at some point that you are casually dating.
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Old 27th August 2017, 6:54 AM   #69
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I have re-started multidating and already feel tired of it. 2 dates today.

First guy was 35 and a lot less attractive than his pictures. We went to have lunch and I already knew I won't see him again. He was actually funny and good company but I didn't feel any physical attraction. I told him "see you around sometime", just to make sure he knows there won't be another date.

Second guy was 43 and more attractive but still not really my type. Conversation-wise, he was a bit of an over-sharer but we have few things in common. I am on the fence about him. He doesn't have kids but was married before. He is a teacher for special needs children which makes me think he is possibly a nice person? I dunno...I got a text from him when I got home to tell me that he had a great time and if I want to have dinner on Friday night. I agreed - no harm in giving it some more time.

I am meeting a third guy (39) on Wednesday - this one seems most promising. We chatted for days and he looks really attractive from the pictures. We will see I guess.

If I meet someone that I REALLY like, I know that I would cancel all the other dates in seconds.
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Old 27th August 2017, 3:07 PM   #70
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**Update***

I have a date with a new guy on Tuesday!

He lives super close by. We both live by the same lake. Such a small world. This guy made plans right away. Really like how he took the bull by the horns and looked down a time, place and date right away. He asks about me, is complimentary, has a stable job and his own house. He only has one picture on his profile but its recent and he's really cute. Tall. Dimples

I'm excited!

Confession time! When the rapper guy texted me I couldnt bring myself to cancel! I just wanted to go out, flirt, look at him and maybe makeout But the universe has a funny way of protecting us when we need it. He texted me today saying he couldnt make it tonight and offered some other days when he'd be free. That little push was all I needed to delete his number and put him in the spam folder. I'm relieved things unfolded the way they did because I knew I was making a mistake by going out with him.

Another guy messaged me. He's an orbiter. We went out 2 years ago. He was a total douche. He's actually the guy I mentioned previously in this thread (the drunk guy). After the first date I told him I wouldnt date him again. We ended up going out quite a few times since and just had fun. Theres always been a lot of chemistry and sexual tension between us but I know better now than to give him a chance. He's just fun to hang out with. And I really like teasing him

So excited about Tuesday!!!
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Old 27th August 2017, 3:34 PM   #71
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The one picture straight to date guy sounds a bit suspicious to me.
Maybe screen him a bit before meeting.
My ex was just like this and actually very pushy (nudged me when I stop responding) - turned that he's very socially awkward and these were learned techniques.
I could be wrong of course - look forward to Tuesday update !
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The one picture straight to date guy sounds a bit suspicious to me.
Maybe screen him a bit before meeting.
My ex was just like this and actually very pushy (nudged me when I stop responding) - turned that he's very socially awkward and these were learned techniques.
I could be wrong of course - look forward to Tuesday update !
He doesnt seem socially awkward at all. Although I never spoken to him IRL, he seems fun and well spoken over text

He wasnt being pushy about the date at all. He asked me if that time, date, and place would work for me. I really liked the masculinity he showed by locking down the date quickly. I HATE it when guys are wishy washy and cant make definitive plans

I did the usual screening. He has a great job, his own house...all the things I mentioned
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Old 27th August 2017, 6:55 PM   #74
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The one picture straight to date guy sounds a bit suspicious to me.
Is there something I should be on the look out for?

I'm not sure why my description of him seems suspicious
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Old 27th August 2017, 7:02 PM   #75
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Oh! I just noticed he has 2 other pics, not just one

He looks like Edward Norton from American History X

Except he doesnt seem like a skin head at all
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