Aquaman83 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I was dating someone for 6+ dates - and i asked her this week if she saw something in the future. She wanted to keep things casual and see where things go, and she didnt know what she wanted.... .she wanted to keep trying to see if it will go anyplace... So I came on here and got people's thoughts - i told her : I wanted to grab a hold of you for a quick two minutes. I feel there is a possibility that we both want different things at this point in time. I know you have some confusion with running into ex's, and you might not know what you want. I feel by us trying to see where things can go, I think it could create more confusion for us and ultimately this not working out. I think it would be good for us to stop seeing each other at this point in time. If things change for you, and want to see where we can go. Reach out and we can see. ---- she responded and apologized that she couldn't give what i wanted and etc. I said nothing to apologize for - you aren't ready and no hard feelings.. I went on FB and restricted her - so she really cannot do anything but message me on FB. - I dont want her to see what I am up too, i want her to reach out to me if she is curious - and part i was mad and did this...( did this yesterday - last time we spoke) and i noticed today she did the same thing for me? 1.) Why would she do this? - More or less F**** you ill do the same to him? 2.) Does this mean anything to me? like does she show she cares? Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Turn about is fair play. You my friend are putting way more thought into a 6 date thing than you should 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aquaman83 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 we have history of longer +3 years we went out in the past, but she ended it - which was summed up in another thread.... which she told me this time around - Link to post Share on other sites
Whodatdog Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You are tossing so many mixed messages I dont even know where to begin. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Purepony Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I don't know how long you guys dated but Plain n simple she's not interested Link to post Share on other sites
Whodatdog Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 So now you say you were dating way longer than just 6 dates. Dont you think people need to know that? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 i told her : I wanted to grab a hold of you for a quick two minutes. I kinda got lost after this. What does this even mean?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aquaman83 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 talk to her on the phone... sorry, its a regional thing. Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Turn about is fair play. You my friend are putting way more thought into a 6 date thing than you should What you mean he is putting more thought into a 6 date thing? Link to post Share on other sites
CautiouslyOptimistic Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 talk to her on the phone... sorry, its a regional thing. Oh ok Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aquaman83 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 (edited) look - i was cutting out all the other stuff that you do not need to know. now you are bashing someone on the forums that is coming here looking for advice.. 9 dates (her + me) we hung out with a group of friends...countless times throughout the years mutual person we know (sort of step brother) (my mom is dating his dad) - and we grew up together. (my dad passed away 7 years ago) - (my dad's best friend got with my mom) passed away. I found out through my mom, and i reached out to her because she moved to the next town away (1.5 hours away is her hometown) --- I asked her out after we reconnected of dropping off for 3 years (we hung out in the same group, but i never called her she never called me) but I haven't seen her in a year +. So this time around is 6 dates.... yes (1 a week - with 2 weeks due to schedule conflicts) I am not some 12 year old in love (i am in my mid thirties) I am cutting down length in the post, because people will look at it and see its too long to read, im not reading it.... Edited June 30, 2017 by Aquaman83 typo Link to post Share on other sites
Marc878 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Obviously you are projecting your feelings for her onto her. She not thinking of you like that. No one can tell you anything at this time but her actions make it very clear yet you refuse to believe. Link to post Share on other sites
fred123 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 U did the right thing. If she was interested she would not say that to a guy after 6 dates 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I also think you did the right thing. You avoided being dragged into a casual relationship for months and wasting your time. She has known you for a while, it's not complicated you date exclusively or not, when someone says they are not sure it's just another way of saying *no*. From now move on. You should not look her up, or care what is her next move. Erase her from your mind and go out there and get yourself the relationship you deserve. Link to post Share on other sites
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