Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 So I met this guy on OLD and we went out 3 times, the first date he left after 45 min. Second date he left after an hour because he had an "emergency with his dog" and the third one he left after an hour but didn't give a reason why he had to leave. I do like him, seems like a nice guy. However on the dates he barely asks me any questions about myself. I usually have to ask him questions to carry on a conversation. Well today he texted me asking if I want to be his girlfriend. I replied I do like you, but I don't think we're there yet. He said okay he rather me be honest. Is it normal for him to want to be in a relationship with me after 3 hours? I feel like I barely know him! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 He sounds like he's a bit lacking in understanding social norms. And I would guess quite inexperienced. Do you know if he's had a girlfriend before? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 He sounds like he's a bit lacking in understanding social norms. And I would guess quite inexperienced. Do you know if he's had a girlfriend before? He says he's been engaged before Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Any other thoughts, advice or opinions?? I would really appreciate the help. Is he normal? Link to post Share on other sites
whatnot Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I believe this will work it's way out in it's own time, in it's own way... You like him....and he likes you. More conversations will follow...and the answer to your questions....and his....will become more apparent. I wouldn't worry about scaring him off. If you do....that's how it worked itself out. ....for the best....if you let it... Personally...it would freak me out somewhat....but that's me...and I'm not you...and I'm not there.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 I believe this will work it's way out in it's own time, in it's own way... You like him....and he likes you. More conversations will follow...and the answer to your questions....and his....will become more apparent. I wouldn't worry about scaring him off. If you do....that's how it worked itself out. ....for the best....if you let it... Personally...it would freak me out somewhat....but that's me...and I'm not you...and I'm not there.... Thanks for your reply. I'm not afraid of scaring him off. Why would it freak you out? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Should I continue to date him, or is this a red flag? Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 If I really really liked the guy, I would do it. No problem. If I wasn't sure about him, I'd hold off. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 No, that request would not sit well with me. He is virtually a stranger and wants to be in a relationship already? Yeah, no. You barely know him. I am very skeptical of people who rush like this, because it's generally not a good sign. How old is he? What is his relationship history? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 He says he's been engaged before Wow. I had guessed he was a teenager. Part of me thinks that he's just a shy guy without much experience. The other part worries that he's a nut job and might stalk you. Perhaps give it another week or two and see if any more red flags rise up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 If I really really liked the guy, I would do it. No problem. If I wasn't sure about him, I'd hold off. I do like him, I wouldn't say really really like him because I have only spent 3 hours with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 No, that request would not sit well with me. He is virtually a stranger and wants to be in a relationship already? Yeah, no. You barely know him. I am very skeptical of people who rush like this, because it's generally not a good sign. How old is he? What is his relationship history? Exactly, he seems like a stranger to me. He's 25 and he said he has been engaged before. I do like him and it's not easy for me to find mutual interest with someone, just bummed out about him potentially being a needy stalker. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 You already said no. I just don't understand why you are still questioning.... If you want to write him off, just dump him and never speak to him again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Wow. I had guessed he was a teenager. Part of me thinks that he's just a shy guy without much experience. The other part worries that he's a nut job and might stalk you. Perhaps give it another week or two and see if any more red flags rise up. He's 25. Exactly, like if he's shy and inexperienced I could handle that, but I am worried he may be a stalker. He hasn't shown any other stalker signs. He only spends an hour on dates and doesn't really ask me anything on dates. We haven't talked on the phone, just texted. He seems normal when we're out, however again only been 3 one hour dates. I just don't know why he asked me to be his girlfriend so soon, it seems ridiculous. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 He's not going to be a stalker! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 You already said no. I just don't understand why you are still questioning.... If you want to write him off, just dump him and never speak to him again. Well I told him I don't think we're there yet. I do like him and it's not easy for me to find mutual interest. I just can't decide if this is dealbreaking. Would any of you still date him or just dump him because he asked this so soon? Like on dates he seems cool and normal. He did write in the text he couldn't bring himself to ask this question in person, that's why he texted it today. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 He's not going to be a stalker! Why do you say that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 I really appreciate everyone's advice and help, I really need it. I just do like him, but what's up with him Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Why do you say that? Believe it or not, some people don't like wasting time. They are decisive. They don't hum and haw. Plus, men like to lock it down so they don't have to worry about other men coming in. GF and BF doesn't mean marriage either. If you don't want to be with him, he likely will accept your decision and not stalk you (especially after only 3 hours). Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Believe it or not, some people don't like wasting time. They are decisive. They don't hum and haw. Plus, men like to lock it down so they don't have to worry about other men coming in. I understand what your saying. However it still seems too soon. 3 hours and now he wants to be in a relationship? The dates were okay, but it's not like it was love at first site. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 I understand what your saying. However it still seems too soon. 3 hours and now he wants to be in a relationship? The dates were okay, but it's not like it was love at first site. I understand that you're not feeling a strong attraction to him, but you like the level of attention he's giving you. He may keep doing it and go along with it in the hopes that he grows on you. It just depends on the guy and how experienced he is in the game. You will have to just wait and see. But don't call him a stalker if he does go along with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 I also think I should mention we have only hugged once. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 Is he too boring for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Katz123 Posted June 30, 2017 Author Share Posted June 30, 2017 Is he too boring for you No I like him, just why did he have to ask me to be his gf already Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted June 30, 2017 Share Posted June 30, 2017 No I like him, just why did he have to ask me to be his gf already To lock it down. And to take himself off the market. (it's tiring) Link to post Share on other sites
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