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hey!

 

I need to get something of my chest.

 

My girlfriend is going travelling for 6-7 weeks with an organisation who makes these trips, where people from all over the country can join. Now, she has had this trip planned for a long time, also before we started dating, and OFC i want her to go, no doubt. I've told her im not going anywhere, and we even have plans when she comes back...

 

I'm just thinking. Why am I worrying? I'm overthinking this a lot. Worried things will change a lot, even though I doubt it. I mean, she has never done anything or showed signs that she wants to break up or anything. So why this is worrying me, I have no idea.

I'm not scared that she will cheat on me as she has been cheated on herself, and that really tore her apart.

 

Have any of you been in a similar situation, and how did you manage/cope?

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May I ask how old is everyone involved? May I ask how long you've been together? May I ask if her trip has activities planned each day or is it simply a trip for people to make friends?

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Again you focus on one woman. While she meeting new people all sorts of ages, you can also have go out and look for other women while she's gone. You never know what you might run into someone who doesn't want to travel and be around you more. Do not show weakness with her let her go and do whatever she wants but you can now do whatever you want. You have have to stand-up and have some guts. Be a leader and you have some fun also. This girl you met she has other plans which doesn't include you. Take that as a hint if you don't want anyone else they wait for 6 weeks or more until she comes back if she has met another man while your were waiting for her to return. That would make you feel sad and hurt, sure you could trust her but you and her are not engaged, not married so she is free to do whatever she wants on those 6 weeks. You got see the whole picture your just seeing her leaving. Like I said you need options while she's away!

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Again you focus on one woman. While she meeting new people all sorts of ages, you can also have go out and look for other women while she's gone. You never know what you might run into someone who doesn't want to travel and be around you more. Do not show weakness with her let her go and do whatever she wants but you can now do whatever you want. You have have to stand-up and have some guts. Be a leader and you have some fun also. This girl you met she has other plans which doesn't include you. Take that as a hint if you don't want anyone else they wait for 6 weeks or more until she comes back if she has met another man while your were waiting for her to return. That would make you feel sad and hurt, sure you could trust her but you and her are not engaged, not married so she is free to do whatever she wants on those 6 weeks. You got see the whole picture your just seeing her leaving. Like I said you need options while she's away!

 

I completely disagree with this. Travelling is a great thing and it's the best class in the school of life! I've done a ton of it myself, and it has changed mineverything for the better. You have a girl that wants to see the world and experience life, and this person is telling you to see other people because of that? It's only six weeks! You sound like you have a trusting relationship that seems to be going well, so ignore this above advice and don't screw it up.

 

Anyone would be nervous about their partner going wawa travelling for an extended period, not just out of jealousy, but because there is risk involved with travelling. And yes, these experiences may change her a bit, but possibly for the better. If you're concerned, set a plan for regular skype sessions and have her reassure you that she is still committed to your relationship; it doesn't hurt to ask. And if all goes well with this one then maybe you can join her on the next trip!

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Again you focus on one woman. While she meeting new people all sorts of ages, you can also have go out and look for other women while she's gone. You never know what you might run into someone who doesn't want to travel and be around you more. Do not show weakness with her let her go and do whatever she wants but you can now do whatever you want. You have have to stand-up and have some guts. Be a leader and you have some fun also. This girl you met she has other plans which doesn't include you. Take that as a hint if you don't want anyone else they wait for 6 weeks or more until she comes back if she has met another man while your were waiting for her to return. That would make you feel sad and hurt, sure you could trust her but you and her are not engaged, not married so she is free to do whatever she wants on those 6 weeks. You got see the whole picture your just seeing her leaving. Like I said you need options while she's away!

 

I am speechless. Your advice is to be deceitful, dishonest and sneaky.

 

OP: Just relax. When I met my ex-husband we had only been dating 1 month and he left for middle-east (military) for 7 months and I waited for him. It never crossed my mind to find another man because he was gone.

 

You have to trust your relationship and you have to trust her. If she fails you in anyway than deal with it WHEN it happens. Don't start living through drama that don't even exist.

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OP, I think it's normal to have the jitters. I'm sure she does, too. But honestly, 6 weeks will fly past, it's not like she'll be away for years or even months. :)

 

How long have the two of you been together?

 

Again you focus on one woman. While she meeting new people all sorts of ages, you can also have go out and look for other women while she's gone. You never know what you might run into someone who doesn't want to travel and be around you more. Do not show weakness with her let her go and do whatever she wants but you can now do whatever you want. You have have to stand-up and have some guts. Be a leader and you have some fun also. This girl you met she has other plans which doesn't include you. Take that as a hint if you don't want anyone else they wait for 6 weeks or more until she comes back if she has met another man while your were waiting for her to return. That would make you feel sad and hurt, sure you could trust her but you and her are not engaged, not married so she is free to do whatever she wants on those 6 weeks. You got see the whole picture your just seeing her leaving. Like I said you need options while she's away!

 

Sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you're going to be a sneaky bastard, it's no wonder you end up with such women.

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How long have you been together?

 

I understand feeling a bit anxious about it. I think that is only natural. But if you have a trusting relationship, you shouldn't have to worry about her cheating or changing her mind about you.

 

This is a very exciting time for her, and you should do your best to be supportive! To get to travel the world is an amazing experience that not many people get. Sure, she may do a little soul-searching while she's abroad, but that is nothing to worry about. She will have the chance to grow - in her knowledge, and as a person, and you should be happy for her!

 

6 weeks may seem like a long time, but you can get through it! Good luck.

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The quickest way to lose someone is to try to prevent them from doing the things they have planned and the things they love with their friends, male or female. Trust me, even if you don't throw a fit, she will likely pick up on your jealousy and insecurity about this, so you better keep it in the can.

 

Young people can always get out in the world and stumble upon a new path or a new person, but your best insurance is by being totally okay with this and not acting like an insecure person about it, because that would only give her reason to act on something since insecurity isn't attractive. Send her off with a kiss and a smile and she will remember that and want to come home to it. And don't stew if you don't hear from her regularly. No one wants to be tied to their normal life when they're away on vacation. That's what vacation is about, immersing in another world.

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hey!

 

I need to get something of my chest.

 

My girlfriend is going travelling for 6-7 weeks with an organisation who makes these trips, where people from all over the country can join. Now, she has had this trip planned for a long time, also before we started dating, and OFC i want her to go, no doubt. I've told her im not going anywhere, and we even have plans when she comes back...

 

I'm just thinking. Why am I worrying? I'm overthinking this a lot. Worried things will change a lot, even though I doubt it. I mean, she has never done anything or showed signs that she wants to break up or anything. So why this is worrying me, I have no idea.

I'm not scared that she will cheat on me as she has been cheated on herself, and that really tore her apart.

 

Have any of you been in a similar situation, and how did you manage/cope?

 

Look into joining this organization so that you can travel with her next time. Because there will be a next time. It's like that for those of us who love to travel and love the experience of travel.

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I completely disagree with this. Travelling is a great thing and it's the best class in the school of life! I've done a ton of it myself, and it has changed mineverything for the better. You have a girl that wants to see the world and experience life, and this person is telling you to see other people because of that? It's only six weeks! You sound like you have a trusting relationship that seems to be going well, so ignore this above advice and don't screw it up.

 

Anyone would be nervous about their partner going wawa travelling for an extended period, not just out of jealousy, but because there is risk involved with travelling. And yes, these experiences may change her a bit, but possibly for the better. If you're concerned, set a plan for regular skype sessions and have her reassure you that she is still committed to your relationship; it doesn't hurt to ask. And if all goes well with this one then maybe you can join her on the next trip!

 

 

You may, by choice but what if it does work out like that? I just covering all that could happen. I don't even use my abilities on this one but sometimes I do. I just giving another point of view but we all still don't know what she will or will not do? She doesn't even know since she hasn't lift yet? Just have to wait out and see. Most likely anything goes today. Just can't follow the norm. I hope it works out in his favor but still he has doubt about it. That's why he's here asking..

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She planned this before you two met. Of course she will go on this trip. It's an experience to broaden her horizons.

 

 

Make a plan about contact while she's gone but be realistic. In a fledging relationship while she's having adventure, her contact back home won't be daily, nor should you expect that.

 

 

Be cheerful for her. Give her a small gift for her trip . . .travel neck pillow, small bag, even a pack of gum so her ears don't pop. Greet her when she gets home.

 

 

I had planned a trip over new years eve, months before I met the man who is now my husband. By the time I realized this relationship had staying power, the trip was sold out so he couldn't come along. When I got home he gave me a bag of Hershey's kisses for all the kisses that we missed out on while I was away. Oh boy did he get major brownie points for that!

 

 

Yes, it's unnerving that you will have this period of separation. All sorts of things could possibly happen. Then again, one of you could get struck by lightening at home. Change is inevitable. Have faith.

 

 

Do keep yourself busy while she's away so that you too have interesting things to talk about when she returns

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Again you focus on one woman. While she meeting new people all sorts of ages, you can also have go out and look for other women while she's gone. You never know what you might run into someone who doesn't want to travel and be around you more. Do not show weakness with her let her go and do whatever she wants but you can now do whatever you want. You have have to stand-up and have some guts. Be a leader and you have some fun also. This girl you met she has other plans which doesn't include you. Take that as a hint if you don't want anyone else they wait for 6 weeks or more until she comes back if she has met another man while your were waiting for her to return. That would make you feel sad and hurt, sure you could trust her but you and her are not engaged, not married so she is free to do whatever she wants on those 6 weeks. You got see the whole picture your just seeing her leaving. Like I said you need options while she's away!

 

 

 

 

 

Oh God...disregard this. She already had this plan, and this is something I would like to do myself if I could manage it. But I cant right now. You are worried about her traveling when she could cheat right here at home if she wanted like a bazillion other people do. Calm down. She's traveling; not being part of a on the road escort service.

 

Cut her some slack.

 

By the way..do you know the name of this travel club/organization? Id like to check it out myself. Sounds pretty kool.

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hey!

 

I need to get something of my chest.

 

My girlfriend is going travelling for 6-7 weeks with an organisation who makes these trips, where people from all over the country can join. Now, she has had this trip planned for a long time, also before we started dating, and OFC i want her to go, no doubt. I've told her im not going anywhere, and we even have plans when she comes back...

 

I'm just thinking. Why am I worrying? I'm overthinking this a lot. Worried things will change a lot, even though I doubt it. I mean, she has never done anything or showed signs that she wants to break up or anything. So why this is worrying me, I have no idea.

I'm not scared that she will cheat on me as she has been cheated on herself, and that really tore her apart.

 

Have any of you been in a similar situation, and how did you manage/cope?

Just stay active with what you like to do, like sports, working out, or any of your hobbies and goals.

 

Communicate through skype, what's app and any other social media device while she is gone.

 

It is ok to be insecure, but have faith in the relationship. She will be back before you know it.

 

Source:

My girlfriend went to Hong Kong for two months in the summer to see her family last summer.

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I would like to know the ages and length of the relationship. Also, does she knows these people?

 

Isn't that ageist? meaning - stereotyping and discriminating against individuals or groups on the basis of their age. This may be casual or systematic. The term was coined in 1969 by Robert Neil Butler to describe discrimination against seniors, and patterned on sexism and racism.

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Well... my advice is that you should set aside your worries (hard to do for sure) and support her in her venture. When she's gone, find a way to keep in touch (not too much mind you) and then keep YOURSELF occupied with something interesting so that you have your own set of experiences to share on those days you DO get to communicate.

 

Just because she's on a journey does not mean you can't go on some internal journey of your own which are every bit as valuable at developing you as her trip will her.

 

In the time she's gone you should:

1. Workout. (Nothing wrong with looking better when she comes back.)

2. Enjoy a little alone time with a good and enlightening book on something you've always wanted to learn, on a hobby, or even catch up on things she doesn't participate in.

3. Check in with friends and get out a bit. Go on a hike, catch a concert, a play, sports, etc.

4. If you don't have a hobby, then it's a great time to develop one.

5. Volunteer and do your own acts of service which match hers and expand your social circle in the process.

 

You do those things while she's gone (especially the gym, volunteering, and finding new interests/hobbies) then you make yourself a much more interesting person. In a worse case scenario (which I don't see happening here btw), doing the above adds character, positivity, and yes, desirability if you should happen to unexpectedly end up back in single status. It will certainly add points for her attraction to you though as your improved looks from a gym regimine, knowledge, independenot time for your new hobbies, and expanded social circles makes you a hotter commodity. Either way it's a win win.

 

Also, if things go good while she's away, plan something sweet, novel, and endearing, for her when she comes back. (A nice event, a weekend away, a play or dinner theater, etc)

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Isn't that ageist? meaning - stereotyping and discriminating against individuals or groups on the basis of their age. This may be casual or systematic. The term was coined in 1969 by Robert Neil Butler to describe discrimination against seniors, and patterned on sexism and racism.

 

No. It's called getting context.

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hey man.

 

Whats the best way to "help" my girlfriend? She is going travelling soon, and is very stressed out about it at the moment, as she still has a lot of things to prepare. Should I give her all the space she needs, and be there for here when she needs me, should I ask if I could help with anything or? I'm afraid of being to needy in these times haha..

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How long is she traveling for? Why aren't you going with her?

 

She had this trip arranged before we started dating and becoming a couple. It's with an organisation who arranges trips all over the world. And she is only gone for 6 weeks, but she gets stressed out so easily..

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Just have to coup if you trust her enough for her to travel. Best if you could travel together though if you had the option. If not then wait it out until she comes back with so much stories to share of her experience. If you does come back you have a keeper there.

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She had this trip arranged before we started dating and becoming a couple. It's with an organisation who arranges trips all over the world. And she is only gone for 6 weeks, but she gets stressed out so easily..

 

Just be there for her and tell her to relax try to calm her down a bit. Under a healing I would suggest you say close her eyes and take several deep breath and say the word relax after each deep breath. She should close her eyes when doing this. Tell her you will be waiting for her as you will be there in spirit as she travels.

 

Everyone gets stress before they travel. Just be there for her okay!

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Just be there for her and tell her to relax try to calm her down a bit. Under a healing I would suggest you say close her eyes and take several deep breath and say the word relax after each deep breath. She should close her eyes when doing this. Tell her you will be waiting for her as you will be there in spirit as she travels.

 

Everyone gets stress before they travel. Just be there for her okay!

 

Yep. I just always think the worst...

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Help her. You have the expertise in this area. Talk to her about travel techniques. Buy her something to make the trip more comfortable, like a neck pillow or something.

 

 

If you back off & "give her space" she will conclude you don't care enough to make the effort to ease her stress.

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