Some dating tips?

[objob1994]

Hi there,

 

Was hoping you knowledgeable love people could offer some advice.

 

Basically I've never had a relationship, I'm almost 22 but I wouldn't say this is the normal guy who's never had sex.

 

I've always been someone concentrated on myself and find it hard to trust anyone, even my closest pals.

 

But I am outgoing, I just put up a barrier for only my very very closest and most trusted friends.

 

I have got with girls before and know for a fact that I could've gone there...maybe I should've during my uni days but I was always scared about getting a girl pregnant (as that's what happened to my mother, she had me young and I don't want that for mine), so even when drunk I always knew what I was doing. You'd have to have me passed out to make me lose sight of what I was doing.

 

Anyway, everyone goes on about how I'm great etc and that I would make a good bf. I'm not particularly needy, not very shy, maybe sometimes distant but I am easy to get along with and don't have many outrageous views on the world.

 

I just need some tips as I have never actively 'pursued' a girl. Do I complement, do I ask for a number - is that the easiest way? Then try and arrange a date? Dating is very foreign to me but I don't want to be single forever.

 

My biggest issue is finding time to socialise atm. I have lots of exams to do whilst working as I'm training to be an accountant atm.

 

Any tips are welcome. Maybe I just keep doing what I'm doing as I do get attention and when a girl who I know is showing interest likes me, make a move and get a number?

[d0nnivain]

Take the exam first.

 

 

Then just find a woman you like & ask her to do something with you.

 

 

Smile during the date. Ask Qs. Be prepared to answer Qs.

[smudge21]

Just be yourself and go with whatever feels right for you. You can't predict anyone else's actions, so no matter what you do, never forget that you can only control you. So try not to overthink things and go with the flow. Yes, ask for their numbers. If they say no, then so be it. If nothing comes of it, you're still very young and have plenty of time to get some experience in this field. Just enjoy the journey rather than focusing on the destination. You're bound to make mistakes just as much as you're bound to have success - just see it through and learn from the mistakes and enjoy the good times. Finally treat them as you yourself would wish to be treated - but that doesn't mean you do all the work or kiss their a**, relationships should be equal. Just remember, as much as you want to be with them, they should want to be with you too. Oh and yeah, if it helps, try to remember that when you're meeting a girl for the first time, talking to her, asking her out and eventually dating her... well it's the first time for her with you too, so as nervous and unsure as you may be, she'll probably be the same. Relax and have fun.