lemonadekiwi Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 I was out for my boyfriends birthday. Him and a close friend of mine got so involved in a conversation and locked eyes that I felt irrelevant. I ended up storming off for a few mins, I couldn't help it. I felt invisible. How do I stop being so irrational Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 He was being rude and inconsiderate. When you are in the company of more that one, it's good manners to include everyone in conversation. If he does this a lot, dump his ass. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 You learn to maturely communicate. You can express your disappointment that you weren't involved in the conversation. I recommend you do this once you and your boyfriend are alone together so as not to create a scene. Storming off is Drama Queen tactic that will resolve nothing. But a few questions for context: how long were they engaged in this conversation? What happened after you stormed off? Also, how old are you? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author lemonadekiwi Posted February 13, 2016 Author Share Posted February 13, 2016 You learn to maturely communicate. You can express your disappointment that you weren't involved in the conversation. I recommend you do this once you and your boyfriend are alone together so as not to create a scene. Storming off is Drama Queen tactic that will resolve nothing. But a few questions for context: how long were they engaged in this conversation? What happened after you stormed off? Also, how old are you? Wow you are right... I didn't handle that the best way. Now I've sobered up I feel silly. I was quite drunk but still no excuse to storm off. Erm about 20mins I was just sitting there and couldn't join in, after i came back I pretended it didn't happen because i was aware I didn't want to ruin an otherwise good Night and me and the girl were chatting like normal. He talked to other people. I'm also 31... Yeah I know. I feel ashamed. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 So he was in deep conversation for 20 mins and locking eyes with your close friend, who is a girl? Whilst ignoring you completely? Link to post Share on other sites
Author lemonadekiwi Posted February 13, 2016 Author Share Posted February 13, 2016 Yeah, it felt like I could have walked off and they wouldn't notice. Whilst drunk i got which is why I didn't handle it great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lemonadekiwi Posted February 13, 2016 Author Share Posted February 13, 2016 At one point I tried to get involved but was told "oh we aren't talking about that now" Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 You storming off, slightly immature yes, but I can see why. I have a feeling there may be more to this "relationship" between your bf and your close friend, than you may be aware of. Be careful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted February 13, 2016 Share Posted February 13, 2016 At one point I tried to get involved but was told "oh we aren't talking about that now" That is a rather rude response to your attempt to join the conversation. I can certainly understand why you were upset. Storming off is of course not the answer, but I don't blame you for feeling left out. You need to have a sober, face-to-face talk with your boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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