Yummm Posted December 20, 2015 Share Posted December 20, 2015 Hey guys. So i'm going on a date this week with a girl I've been speaking to from OLD for about a week. We get along on the phone really well, we've even been on skype and everything seems nice. Suddenly she drops me a bombshell tonight asking me: 'If all goes to plan on our date will you lean in?' - i'm sorry, who asks this sort of question? She's in her mid twenties.. Everything seemed great and I was looking forward to the date but for some reason that question really threw me off - does she have a whole fantasy built up in her head in just a week of speaking to me before we meet? What plan, I just want to meet up with her and see if we click in person! Thoughts please Link to post Share on other sites
NopeNah Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 "I'll lean in with just the tip, I'm a gentleman". Thank me later. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yummm Posted December 21, 2015 Author Share Posted December 21, 2015 "I'll lean in with just the tip, I'm a gentleman". Thank me later. you made me laugh thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 Don't panic. It means she likes you. But, you are right, you must see if it's "real" in person. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 What on earth does that even mean??? 5 Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 What on earth does that even mean??? She's asking if he'll kiss her. Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 She's asking if he'll kiss her. So that book by Sheryl Sandberg(?) was about kissing all along? I knew it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Peachland Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 She wants you to kiss her. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 What on earth does that even mean??? That's what that whole 'sharing a moment' joke is about. Usually guys will joke about some type of bonding that culminated in a gay encounter where someone "leaned in close" after the bonding moment was shared. "Steve said 'Don't worry John, you'll bounce back.' I said 'thanks bro, you've always been a bro.' Our eyes met. Steve smiled. I leaned in close ...." yuk-yuk-yuk 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dobielover Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 I didn't think she meant kissing, personally. I thought she was making a Sandberg reference. Link to post Share on other sites
Glitters Posted December 21, 2015 Share Posted December 21, 2015 I bet, she doesn't look like the picture she has put on OLD. So she wants to get a 100% from you do that you don't back off ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yummm Posted December 28, 2015 Author Share Posted December 28, 2015 Well FYI i've been on 2 dates with this girl and she's absolutely lovely! Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 What does "lean in" mean? For a kiss, for a relationship? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Yummm Posted December 28, 2015 Author Share Posted December 28, 2015 A kiss (which I did go for after the first date haha) I just saw it as a little turn off and immature but it's fine. She's lovely and we are going on a third date this week! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 Well, I think it's cute and lovely, not immature at all. I recently went on ~10 dates with a man and didn't even get a kiss; in fact, when I hinted that we should kiss, he never even contacted me again! So, I might ask in the future, or just go for it myself. Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 She's flirting mate. She wants to know if you're gonna plant one on her. Just tease her right back. That's the sexual waltz people tend to play before/during dating. Definitely a good sign. Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 Well, I think it's cute and lovely, not immature at all. I recently went on ~10 dates with a man and didn't even get a kiss; in fact, when I hinted that we should kiss, he never even contacted me again! So, I might ask in the future, or just go for it myself. LOL! Was he just looking for someone to spend his money on? I don't get that.. I always try to go for the kiss on the first date. Second if it really doesn't feel right on the first. You can usually tell a lot about your chemistry with someone when you get intimate/physical, so I try to make that distinction early on instead of wasting my time/money/energy on someone who's just not that into me. If a guy/girl doesn't even kiss you 10 dates in then they're wasting your time and not at all serious about it. Link to post Share on other sites
ScienceGal Posted December 28, 2015 Share Posted December 28, 2015 IronZ, He either wasn't into me and wanted more of a friend. Or he was into me, but takes things so slowly it made me feel he was uninterested. 10 dates over 6 weeks is a lot. I told him I liked him, got nothing in return. One of the most bizarre "dating" situations I've ever had. Link to post Share on other sites
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