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Confused1

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I met this guy on-line and we've been e-mailing and talking for about a month. We met and went out to eat, stopped at a bar for drinks and trivia, and went to a movie. I thought everything was going great and then the movie was over (midnight time-frame). He immediately jumped out of his seat - looked behind to make sure I was following and took off for the parking lot. In the parking lot he headed straight for his car. I stopped him and asked if he would take me to my car. He seemed a little confused and said okay. He didn't say anything to me and drove me to my car. I got out and said I'll talk to you later. I barely got in my car when he was out of the mall parking lot. :mad:

 

Okay, it was my 2nd date ever and maybe I missed something but shouldn't a guy take you to your car and make sure you get on the road okay? Am I being old fashioned? I know he had travel plans the next day but if that was a problem shouldn't he have just said let's skip the movie and ended the date then. It's not like we had firm plans for the evening. I drove to meet him because we live over hour away from each other and met at a large city between.

 

So if he calls me again should I even bother talking to him?

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HokeyReligions

I probably wouldn't meet him again. That was rude. Did the rest of the date go okay? Maybe he just didn't feel like you 'clicked' and didn't know how to make an appropriate and respectful exit.

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I am a big fan of chivalry. It's not DEAD, just languishing somewhere below conciousness. I am also a big fan of not letting people treat me like poo poo. Of course hindsight is 20/20, but a parking lot of people would have heard me asking why he's being an a**h***. Or maybe I would have just stood on the theater looking at him like he's nuts and then motion for him to bring his hotstuff behind back here and escort me out of the theater.

 

Plain and simple, he was being an ass. And I'm not one who would let that assertion go by if I had the opportunity to talk to him again. I had one date with a guy that pulled into the parking lot, near my car and told me to 'get out'. To this day he can't understand what problem I had with that. ????????????

 

Some men are just jerkish. I wouldn't waste any time telling him 'no, I don't like you'. You are right...even if he met you there, he should make sure you got to your car and that you hit the road ok. Call it old fashioned if you will, it's just a nice thing to do.

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Thanks for confirming what I already thought. My friends are telling me what they think I want to hear and think I should continue on with the relationship. I don't think that is an option based on his behavior.

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Originally posted by Confused1

So if he calls me again should I even bother talking to him?

 

Unfortuantely, CONFUSED1, you don't need to worry cause he won't be calling you ever again....

 

Sorry but he just was not that into you girl...

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Well, he didn't call but he did send me an e-mail about the CD we listened to while driving to dinner. I read it and deleted it. You seem to give out alot of advice - should I just ignore him or tell him why it won't work?

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Just ignore him. No use attempting to debate him or educate him about his manners at this late stage in his life cycle.

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Originally posted by SoleMate

Just ignore him. No use attempting to debate him or educate him about his manners at this late stage in his life cycle.

 

 

For real bad habits never die!

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Oh my gawd! If a guy EVER did that to me on a date, regardless of whether or not it was the 1st date or the 30th one, I would NEVER go out with him again! What a jerk, I am so sorry that he did that to you and NO you are not crazy for thinking that a guy should walk you to your car after a date. A RESPECTFUL guy will always do that. The other thing that is disturbing is the fact that he was so pathetic enough that he couldn't tell you that he didn't think you guys clicked. If he didn't feel a connection, he could have at least said that he had needed to go home early BEFORE you guys went to see a movie. ANYWAY you don't need a guy like that! You will find someone better. You should only want to continue to go on dates with someone who is considerate of your feelings! I know I need to take my own advice, but it sure is easier dishing it out! Good luck!

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