pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hi, I've been involved with this guy a year. We started sleeping together in January. Official dates slowly stopped after that so I stopped sleeping with him. He asked why and I told him that I didn't want to be a booty call. He said he didn't have a problem taking me out but he never did. Its been months and although we still talked, all he wants me to do is come to his house which I will not do. A few weeks ago, I went out with my friends and he did not like that. He said I needed to come see him or stay home. I thought he was kidding but he wasn't. He began asking me where I was every time we talked after that. I went to a baby shower last week and told him what time I'd be home. He surprised me by calling as soon as I hit the door. He called on Sunday and I told him that I was going to ride motorcyles and would call him when I got home. I called him and got no answer. Tried again later and same thing. I haven't called back and neither has he. It feels like I'm being punished or maybe I've been dumped. What do you guys think about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Revan32 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I think he sounds like an incredibly insecure freak. Why you haven't dumped him immediately after he told you, you couldn't go out is beyond me. Link to post Share on other sites
TunaCat Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 Why do you care so much about what he thinks? He sounds like a controlling jerk. Respect yourself enough to walk away. Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hi Raven. Thanks for responding. I've never seen this side of him and really thought he was joking. I think he's insecure too but can't understand why. He's a good looking man. Trains police dogs. Been in magazines and on tv. These things don't impress me but they may other people. I also sense they've made him egotistical as well. If he comes back, then I do intend to tell him that I do not want this anymore. I want someone who makes me feel good about myself and not cause anxiety and self doubt. Thanks again for responding. I really appreciate it:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Hi Tuna. I totally agree that he is a controlling jerk and I'm not chasing this guy. I do have feelings for him but not enough to stop loving myself. You can't expect a loving and healthy relationship until you have that with yourself first. Link to post Share on other sites
wb1988 Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 He finds you physically attractive which is why he wants to **** you, but he doesn't like like you enough to make you a gf. At the same time no guy wants his girl (or a girl/fwb he ****s) to see other guys as it's also very off putting. My guess is he's realised he can't control you in any way as you're not a gf. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author pinksag Posted October 9, 2015 Author Share Posted October 9, 2015 Boom! This is how I feel. I couldn't articulate it very well, but you nailed it. I think he finds me attractive too but not enough to make his girlfriend. And he's entitled to feel that way. It hurts but it would hurt more if I were to become someone's booty call. I don't knock anyone who indulges in that. Its just not for me. Thanks for your response and insight. You have really put this thing into words for me and I appreciate it! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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