Nemetona Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 None of us are perfect of course but what are some things that are non-negotiable for you? Some traits or red flags in a new potential partner that will send you running for the hills? Off the top of my head for me it includes: Any substance abuse issues Anger management issues Chronic negativity Putting me down Being into unsafe sex (no condom) Displaying self-pity Being fat Having unresolved mental health problems Having no respect for their own body/health Hating their job/life/home and not being in the process of changing it 1 Link to post Share on other sites
StocksnBlondes Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Here are a few that come to mind: (like your list btw:) Not having "passions" as in a hobby or interest ...I prefer someone who has passions besides me Financial irresponsibility No friends Pushy about sex Lack of manners / social skills Hygiene No relationship with family (though some families can be toxic so I ask about before judging) No relationship or strained relationship with their children Swearing (the one off isn't a big deal just not a regular thing) Small mindedness /lack of a wordly view Not talkative / engaging 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 I have a theory... If I am running for the hills then perhaps the guys running with me or over taking me may be a good catch... Make sure you wear your mascara as you run ladies! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
scooby-philly Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 From a guy's perspective: 1. No balance - i.e. out all the time or a complete home-body with no real-world interests, hobbies, or connections. 2. Dependency 3. Vanity, Selfishness, Attention Seeking (more than the average person), Conceit, Shallowness, Entitlement (Usually 2 or more of those come packaged together) 4. Too private - as in we've been going out for 3 months on dates and you cancel a date by saying "I'm taking care of a friend". 5. Stupidity 6. Anger 7. Careerism (I work hard and long. But I do it out of love, self-improvement, and wanting to get better, not to stab my way to the top) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
EricaH329 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Possessive Jealous Snoops No mind of his own Close-minded and Judgmental (Nothing less sexy than having a S/O pointing fingers and calling names all the time) Anger issues *Some of these can be dealt with in small doses, but for the most part these things trigger something inside of me that pushes me away from someone* 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 From a guy's perspective... Substance abuse issues Anger management issues Chronic lying Unresolved mental health problems Having no respect for me Words not matching actions Hanging up on me when we are in disagreement and then sending a series of text messages Having no other outlet besides drinking every weekend 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 1. more than 2 kids (with more than one babymama) and neither of them are grown and out of the house (I'm 55, so I don't expect for men my age and older to have little ones underfoot. If they do, I steer clear... I'm down for granny-ing, not step-mommy-ing) 2. financially irresponsible 3. sexually irresponsible (as evidenced by 3 or more children) 4. evidence of bad health, bad hygiene, bad teeth---it means you just dont' give a damb and I'm not about that life. 5. still too entwined in an ex's life (outside of taking care of responsibilities towards his kids) 6. anger problems 7. inability to be kind, loving and affectionate. I'm sure there's more, but these are high on the list. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Automatic deal-breakers: Not just chronic lying..... I don't tolerate ANY lying. Any type of deception (includes cheating obviously) Heavy drinking or drug use Talking trash about the ex's! Incessant talking about the ex's in general Disrespecting his mom Can't keep a job Anger issues Not taking care of pets LAZINESS Link to post Share on other sites
RightThere Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Replaces the roll of toilet paper with the new squares hanging under instead of over. Deal breaker. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Replaces the roll of toilet paper with the new squares hanging under instead of over. Deal breaker. LOL, I hate when that happens!! Link to post Share on other sites
Siquijor Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Self absorbed - unreliable - clingy - high maintenance - argumentative - loud - abusive - possessive - small minded - manipulative - disloyal - financially irresponsible - liars - selfish - overly moody - immature - stupid - disrespectful - anyone who currently has mental/alcohol/drug problems Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Hygiene's def a big one for me. Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 Self absorbed - unreliable - clingy - high maintenance - argumentative - loud - abusive - possessive - small minded - manipulative - disloyal - financially irresponsible - liars - selfish - overly moody - immature - stupid - disrespectful - anyone who currently has mental/alcohol/drug problems So basically anyone who's human... lol Just kidding.... but that's a long list! Link to post Share on other sites
Siquijor Posted September 28, 2015 Share Posted September 28, 2015 So basically anyone who's human... lol Just kidding.... but that's a long list! I've probably missed a few off like laziness Link to post Share on other sites
mystikmind2005 Posted September 29, 2015 Share Posted September 29, 2015 Here are a few that come to mind: (like your list btw:) Not having "passions" as in a hobby or interest ...I prefer someone who has passions besides me Financial irresponsibility No friends Pushy about sex Lack of manners / social skills Hygiene No relationship with family (though some families can be toxic so I ask about before judging) No relationship or strained relationship with their children Swearing (the one off isn't a big deal just not a regular thing) Small mindedness /lack of a wordly view Not talkative / engaging This is the perfect list from my perspective as a guy! The two most common negative things i find in women i date are these; 1) Not talkative/engaging (this is the big one). 2) lacking hobbies and interests - this is a big problem mainly because of my age group (i'm 43) so i meet allot of divorced mums, their wonderful but mums all to often put others first in their life's and forget about themselves. I do try to be understanding but women without personal hobbies and interests, its just so unattractive. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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