regdent Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 I feel that I am a guy who "looks good on the paper," but cannot make girls fall in love with me. I have met lots of girls over the years, gone on many many dates, and hooked up with a good number of them. However, I rarely get them to fall in love with me. I didn't care when I was younger, but now I feel that there is a problem. A big one. I feel the need to be an attractive, irresistible man. Otherwise, I feel like I will never be with those I really want to grow together with. The last dating failure was a wake-up call. I really liked this one girl. She seemed so attracted to me for the first 3-4 weeks, but she told me she "didn't feel a romantic connection." This really burned me. I want to change. I want to be the best man I can be. I just don't know where to begin, whom I should reach out to for advice. I want some serious help. Any great books? Great coaches? Help! Link to post Share on other sites
RoseVille Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Step One: Know that you can't force/create romantic chemistry where there is none. There is no Step Two. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 but cannot make girls fall in love with me. Noone can "make" a girl fall in love with you. Thinking like this is part of the problem. Not everyone is going to like you, unfortunately. Finding love is hard. "She seemed so attracted to me for the first 3-4 weeks" What did she do during this time that indicated she was very attracted to you? How far did the relationship develop (physicially)? Link to post Share on other sites
Author regdent Posted August 24, 2015 Author Share Posted August 24, 2015 Noone can "make" a girl fall in love with you. Thinking like this is part of the problem. Not everyone is going to like you, unfortunately. Finding love is hard. "She seemed so attracted to me for the first 3-4 weeks" What did she do during this time that indicated she was very attracted to you? How far did the relationship develop (physicially)? We went down on each other. She held out on sex last time we had our date. But one night, she texted me, "Where are you? I wanna **** you." Then, I went to her party, and that was the end of it. Perhaps I was exhibiting needy behavior there? Certainly didn't click with her friends. It was just a disaster overall. Link to post Share on other sites
Hopeful30 Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 (edited) Dude...wtf? You haven't found a spark, and suddenly you must change how you are? Don't put yourself down like that. Accept your reality and put all this energy into loving yourself, not towards thinking that you need to change to find a partner. There is only one you. Rock 'n' roll baby. Edited August 24, 2015 by Hopeful30 2 Link to post Share on other sites
katiegrl Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 We went down on each other. She held out on sex last time we had our date. But one night, she texted me, "Where are you? I wanna **** you." Then, I went to her party, and that was the end of it. Perhaps I was exhibiting needy behavior there? Certainly didn't click with her friends. It was just a disaster overall. I dunno, how were you acting that you think was needy? Or might be needy? Introspection is always a good thing. Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted August 24, 2015 Share Posted August 24, 2015 Make sure you aren't acting needy, that you are not being a doormat and that you have a nice active life outside of dating. Also consider dating multiple people at one time. Link to post Share on other sites
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