Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Well after many a penis picture despite me saying no I finally met someone lovely. He didn't squark at me, didn't want all gays to be locked up, didn't make me want to run or hit him... no mustard was involved at all... He was the height he claimed to be. In fact he was everything he claimed to be and is just a great guy. Just the sort of guy that I would LOVE to date and possibly have a relationship with. Two problems, one is his car. He drives a very nice shiney brand spanking new TT... I know most women would look at that car and their juices would bubble but mine dried up as I thought to myself how in the hell will he ever get that up my drive... So wish he drove a Mondeo... Second thing which is probably the most important. He doesn't fancy me. So finally I meet a man who is just as he says he is (even his height!), really lovely and so much more than just "nice" but he doesn't fancy me. I think he probably likes me but just doesn't fancy me... Gutted. Absolutely gutted. He would have made suffering all those willy pictures and horrific dates worth it. Big sighs coming from this little corner of the UK... On the bright side they are out there... Now how in the heck do I find another one? 4 Link to post Share on other sites
I_Give_Up67 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Toodaloo, no worries. You sound like an amazing person. You will find "another one". Just keep doing what you are doing, Mr. Right will come for you! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Dallers Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I cant say I have suffered the willy pictures but I know the lack of attraction problem on both sides. How are you 100% sure he does not fancy you? If I was a guy you just met I would not have let you know fully that I did fancy you. I would be drawing YOU in to build attraction rather than showing my hand too early. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Brand new TT? Did he give off that he does not like you or maybe just wants to go at a slower pace? Will you meet again? Or was he offish about it? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 Dallers honey when it got to the end there was no talk of meeting up again at all. He just said hope you get home safely. No mention of calling, nothing. It just didn't feel as though there was any attraction from him at all. Yes he is bald, yes he has wonky teeth but God his personality and nature are just wonderful. While he isn't back end of bus at all, even if he were it really wouldn't matter as he is just fantastic. No point in me pretending or hoping. I just have to accept it. If you want pictures of penises and videos of men wanking I have enough to set up a small porn site. I don't even want the damned things and asked not to be sent the vast majority of them. You know when you are little and you imagine the sort of person you really want to be with, then as you grow older and discover yourself more you add on things that you know you need for it to be a good match. He is all of it. He may drive a TT but he had wellys in the back and adores dogs and does things in his spare time to make the world a better place... He is a complete man child and knows it and laughs about it. He is the sort to turn off the TV and go and do something. We have both shot our brothers as children... him with a bow and arrow by accident, me with a small rifle... I have just had 2 lovely hours with a really great guy. Sometimes it just isn't there. Or like this case its all one sided 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 Brand new TT? Yup - august plates from last year, honey you would have drooled over it. I am sure if I didn't think in such a practical way I would have too, stunning car, absolutely stunning. Did he give off that he does not like you or maybe just wants to go at a slower pace? I think I likes me just doesn't fancy me. Its not a case of "slower pace" its just not there for him... Will you meet again? Or was he offish about it? No mention or hint of it. Not off about it but clearly not wanting a relationship/ dating scenario. At least with the other dates I could laugh them off or it was mutual non attraction. This just sucks. Gutted. Really gutted. Link to post Share on other sites
cessna Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I live in the UK and I drive a practical Golf. Call me? 7 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 you must be patient toodles, remember that we fancy you 7 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 I live in the UK and I drive a practical Golf. Call me? Perhaps a rain check... Really not in any state to date for a few days This one was really special. He is truly unique. That someone who is a bit more extraordinary... Thanks AM. I am actually really upset about this one and feeling pretty damned useless... So much so my darling mother has made me Jelly and strawberries to cheer me up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Sorry Toodaloo, I was being stupidly flippant about the TT. It is neither here nor there. Maybe give him a call? Just to really know? Nothing ventured and all that.... Try to stay a bit upbeat if possible. Feel free to litter my TT. Yes, i am giving you a quick cuddle. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
barcode88 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Yeah rejection can sting for a few days even for the best of us... Sorry toodles 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 Yes, i am giving you a quick cuddle. Thank you honey. Its needed right now. Its OK I understand the man thing about nice cars... I don't hold it against him... Or you. And no I will respect the fact that you like your car and willl dispose of all MacDonnalds wrappers in the bins as directed on the packets... Hell You should see my brothers collection. Mum is getting tempted to key the cobra in her garage if he is not careful... She feels guilty as its only there after someone ran into it with a combine... But she wants to get at her mower. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Perhaps a rain check... Really not in any state to date for a few days This one was really special. He is truly unique. That someone who is a bit more extraordinary... It sucks T. You know that I am rooting for you and I am sorry that you two didn't click. However, I must admit that I am confused. This was your first date with the guy right? So why are you so certain of how amazing he is? I mean I am sure there were things you liked on paper. But it's not like you dated long term and then broke up. This is a guy you didn't know whatsoever that you had one date with. *** Don't get me wrong. It's definitely OK and expected to be a bit bummed. But don't you think you're taking a bad first date just a bit too hard in hindsight? Just saying... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 aaawww sorry toodaloo. Once in a while one makes an impact on us. I still wonder why I didn't hear back from George after 3 wonderful dates. I felt he was the man I had been waiting for. So we can only go forward. Each time I am disappointed and I think I won't meet someone better there is a surprise waiting for me at the corner. Cheer up, the best is yet to come :-) 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Toodaloo Posted May 25, 2015 Author Share Posted May 25, 2015 But don't you think you're taking a bad first date just a bit too hard in hindsight? Just saying... FF there was absolutely NOTHING bad about this date. Not one thing unless you count him not fancying me. And yes, you are probably right but you know what after having to fight off so many weirdos and freaks and guys who want to use me for sex it was so nice to be treated like a human being... Just for once. Just for a change. I am pretty damn sure he has bad points... But the point is that he hasn't been anything other than himself at any point. Conversation flowed, pauses were not uncomfortable or long. Please just let me wallow in self pity for 5 minutes and have a hug before I dust myself off again. I know as well as anyone that I will pick myself up and get on with it. Hell I have gone through much worse than a really great date and survived, humour still in tact... Thank you Geata honey. Your support actually means the world to me! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
fitnessfan365 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 FF there was absolutely NOTHING bad about this date. Not one thing unless you count him not fancying me. And yes, you are probably right but you know what after having to fight off so many weirdos and freaks and guys who want to use me for sex it was so nice to be treated like a human being... Just for once. Just for a change. I am pretty damn sure he has bad points... But the point is that he hasn't been anything other than himself at any point. Conversation flowed, pauses were not uncomfortable or long. Please just let me wallow in self pity for 5 minutes and have a hug before I dust myself off again. I know as well as anyone that I will pick myself up and get on with it. Hell I have gone through much worse than a really great date and survived, humour still in tact... Thank you Geata honey. Your support actually means the world to me! Well as I said, I think anyone in your spot would feel bummed and disappointed. I just don't want to see you be completely discouraged and wrecked over a first date. That's all I am saying. But BEAR HUG for you little lady. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I am pretty damn sure he has bad points... everyone has bad points toodles 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Awww you sound so sad. I think that maybe it's the abundance of freaks that makes you the saddest. I guess it can be like finding a needle in a haystack, especially if you are older, but maybe you can become at peace with it and if you happen to find it, spendid. If not, then you'll be okay too? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Natalie8 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Ah, sorry to hear that! I can feel your pain..after having so many awful dates with guys who are nothing like they claim to be online it is such a breath of fresh air to meet someone nice and normal..and then when they are not excited about you can be so disheartening..not even proportionate to the amount of time you spend with them- one date. I hope you bounce back quickly Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I admire your honesty and your integrity, Toodaloo. It sucks, but the best thing you can do for yourself is be honest about it all. So many people struggle with the "I just don't knows" that are really just lack of acceptance masquerading as uncertainty. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Ah, sorry to hear that! I can feel your pain..after having so many awful dates with guys who are nothing like they claim to be online it is such a breath of fresh air to meet someone nice and normal..and then when they are not excited about you can be so disheartening..not even proportionate to the amount of time you spend with them- one date. I hope you bounce back quickly Toodles, it's not just women who have to deal with this. I've had guys say to me "You seem normal and that's refreshing", and I'm thinking to myself "Jeez, what are the women on there like, then?!" I just can't imagine that they are THAT abnormal! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Hey Toodles.. I'm so sorry it didn't work out. It really sucks when it seems like you've finally found the prince amongst the toads. I hope your disappointment doesn't last too long. Maybe he was just feeling awkward at the end and he will surprise you with a call this week. If not, it doesn't take away from the fact that you're a great person--and any guy would be fortunate to have someone like you. Cheers! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Dallers Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 Dallers honey when it got to the end there was no talk of meeting up again at all. He just said hope you get home safely. No mention of calling, nothing. It just didn't feel as though there was any attraction from him at all. Yes he is bald, yes he has wonky teeth but God his personality and nature are just wonderful. While he isn't back end of bus at all, even if he were it really wouldn't matter as he is just fantastic. No point in me pretending or hoping. I just have to accept it. If you want pictures of penises and videos of men wanking I have enough to set up a small porn site. I don't even want the damned things and asked not to be sent the vast majority of them. You know when you are little and you imagine the sort of person you really want to be with, then as you grow older and discover yourself more you add on things that you know you need for it to be a good match. He is all of it. He may drive a TT but he had wellys in the back and adores dogs and does things in his spare time to make the world a better place... He is a complete man child and knows it and laughs about it. He is the sort to turn off the TV and go and do something. We have both shot our brothers as children... him with a bow and arrow by accident, me with a small rifle... I have just had 2 lovely hours with a really great guy. Sometimes it just isn't there. Or like this case its all one sided haha! I will pass on the freebies thank you! I would still play it cool in any case and not throw in the towel just yet. I have had perfect dates and actually after a couple more they turned into a monster once who they really are came to light. On a first date we portray ourselves to be the best person we can be and relate to the person we are with as much as possible. This is why after a couple more you might not have thought much of him. You should look at it like that and not focus on the perfections. They are just a fantasy at present. I recently deleted my online profile so I feel your pain it is a time consuming dreadful way of meeting people and how it has come to this god knows. But like others say bounce back as he was not the right one. Call it fate or your subconscious but we sometimes miss out on people for good reason. Of course no amount of sympathy will help you. Getting over people you meet sucks for some of us it takes so much longer while others just breeze through without a care in the world. Curse them! P.s I haven't driven for a while but are TT's that bad? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cessna Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 P.s I haven't driven for a while but are TT's that bad? If it was the original TT it would suggest that the driver was a homosexual hairdresser. The new shape TT is pretty smart and some of the souped up ones are lovely. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted May 25, 2015 Share Posted May 25, 2015 I hope your disappointment doesn't last too long. i don't think it will, toodles is pretty resilient 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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