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If a person hasn't gone on any dates by the time they are 30, is it too late? I am almost 30 and I am beginning to think I am far too old to start.

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If a person hasn't gone on any dates by the time they are 30, is it too late? I am almost 30 and I am beginning to think I am far too old to start.

 

Yeah. I mean, to be honest, thirty is kinda up there. I'm sure you're gonna be needing a walker soon just to get around. Might as well just pack it up and call it a day. One foot is already in the grave for you. Sorry. :lmao:

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Yeah. I mean, to be honest, thirty is kinda up there. I'm sure you're gonna be needing a walker soon just to get around. Might as well just pack it up and call it a day. One foot is already in the grave for you. Sorry. :lmao:

 

And the most sarcastic comment of the year award goes to.....

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If a person hasn't gone on any dates by the time they are 30, is it too late? I am almost 30 and I am beginning to think I am far too old to start.

 

I guess realistically it is a lil more difficult mainly because it would lead to questions like 'oh why haven't they dated before?'

 

but what is your alternative? To just curl up and die?

or keep wasting more time and not dating because you are worried that dating at your age is 'too late'?

 

You're young, go out date, have fun and be in the same **** pool the rest of us are in - sifting through the lamos, the cheapos, the douchies and the cheaters - come on' jump on in - room for one more ;)

 

Seriously! it's NOT too late!

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Everybody has to start sometime. This is just your time.

 

 

Now that you have been assured it's not too late, what is your game plan?

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Everybody has to start sometime. This is just your time.

 

 

 

Exactly!

 

I'm actually quite sympathetic to the OP's concerns. I know what it feels like being near 30, knowing everyone around you has made out with girls/women, had sex, and are now getting married and settling down and you still feel like a middle school boy having done nothing yet.

 

Having said all that, unless you want to be alone at some point you have to date. People on Loveshack generally say that you shouldn't reveal your prior inexperience. Just be a man and kiss the girl or have sex with her. In a strange way it's a relief because I was always a bit nervous as to how a woman would react to this information.

 

If she asks about previous relationships just say you haven't had your life together till now and that's why you're not married or whatever. I doubt anyone will ask specifics.

 

Take your kissless virginity and take it to the grave!

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I was in a long-ish relationship, and just started dating again for the first time in nearly a decade - I'm 35 - it seems pretty awesome and a lot of the games that teens and 20-something girls play are not really at play.

 

You'll come across as super rusty, and likely won't know how to interact with girls all that well in a romantic context, but starting at that age is probably a bit more forgiving.

 

I don't know why you're still dragging your feet - get out there and have fun already!

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losangelena

I would also say it's not too late. I'm my BF's first GF, and he's 31.

 

Having said that, as the more experienced one in the relationship, it's sometimes tiring to have to always tell him what's up and what's expected of a BF. So my advice to you would be to find someone who's willing to be patient with you as you learn the ropes.

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Not at all. Some of the best guys are the late bloomers. They were either tending to their studies and careers or shy and somewhat introverted and have no real idea how good looking and cool they have become. So they have a nice side too. I think someone that is just discovering a whole new area of life opening up to them can be very exciting. Plus they tend to treat their girlfriends and dates well.

 

Be this version of a guy who is just starting to date and you should do just fine. Put the best into your appearance and if you are shy, make a real effort to be more outgoing and interesting, ie whatever it is that has prevented you from dating thus far, make sure you are working on!

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Actually, 30 is probably the very best time to start dating... the women have matured and are ready to start popping out babies, and their clock will start ticking soon, and they are looking for a hubby!

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No. It's okay. You have less baggage than most. If you do your best to be communicative you're going to do fine. Also read articles about relationships so you know what to do in several ocassions. I think everybody's reading that stuff from time to time :)

 

How come you didn't date earlier though? Just curious.

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deathandtaxes

I'd be wondering what the eff is wrong with somebody if they haven't dated by the time they were 30.

 

You're going to lack a lot of the relationship and other interpersonal skills that come about as a result of being in relationships and dating.

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I'd be wondering what the eff is wrong with somebody if they haven't dated by the time they were 30.

 

You're going to lack a lot of the relationship and other interpersonal skills that come about as a result of being in relationships and dating.

 

Some people never have any interest in relationships until later on. My friend is almost 32 & never had interest in having a relationship before except for a brief period of time a little while back.

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I'd be wondering what the eff is wrong with somebody if they haven't dated by the time they were 30.

 

You're going to lack a lot of the relationship and other interpersonal skills that come about as a result of being in relationships and dating.

 

I think this is why people tend to advice not to talk about your prior experience or lack of it. If she asks why he isn't married he can just say he hasn't had life together until now. I don't think he's going to have to tell his whole life story to her.

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I'd be wondering what the eff is wrong with somebody if they haven't dated by the time they were 30.

 

You're going to lack a lot of the relationship and other interpersonal skills that come about as a result of being in relationships and dating.

 

Maybe the relationship skills but not necessarily the interpersonal skills. Some people in relationships have terrible interpersonal skills, just as some people that have never been in a relationship have excellent interpersonal skills.

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Maybe the relationship skills but not necessarily the interpersonal skills. Some people in relationships have terrible interpersonal skills, just as some people that have never been in a relationship have excellent interpersonal skills.

 

I'm not sure why people assume that being in a relationship gives you some type of skill. It seems to make many people bitter and jaded more than anything.

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I'm not sure why people assume that being in a relationship gives you some type of skill. It seems to make many people bitter and jaded more than anything.

 

Good point. Positives and negatives of both. The biggest negative that OP will face, or anyone in same situation, is their own confidence. If there is initial interest from the other person and momentum and the other things to make for a good relationship line up, most people are not dropping the other person for lack of prior relationship experience. Much more likely, I think, to get dropped due to exhibiting bitterness from prior relationship onto new relationship.

 

The only real experience OP needs to ramp up quickly is his physical/sexual experience. That would be harder to overcome.

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I'm not sure why people assume that being in a relationship gives you some type of skill. It seems to make many people bitter and jaded more than anything.

 

Dealing with romantic relationship issues is a skill just like anything else. I'm not saying it's a bad thing to not have the skills, or that the person that doesn't have them is any less of a person, or that they can't acquire them.

 

It's just that things come up in romantic relationships that don't come up in other relationships. Dealing with coworkers is a skill in the same way. Someone that works in an office, versus a lab, versus on a construction site, all deal with different skills related to the interpersonal relationships they encounter in their profession.

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It's never too late. Are you a guy or a girl? Either is okay, might be easier if the guy is successful and/or the girl is pretty.

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People here should be aware that bson1257 has a history of making a thread and never posting in it again.

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If you're 30 and haven't lost your V card, go see an escort! But yeah not too late to start dating, just be prepared for a lot of trial & error.

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If you're 30 and haven't lost your V card, go see an escort! But yeah not too late to start dating, just be prepared for a lot of trial & error.

 

When would you say it is too late to start dating?

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