Lightmetoday Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 Consider a boy & a girl. Girl keeps him in her life only as a friend , She likes having lots of male friends , but just friends, she likes to keep herself single. The guy on the other hand loves her truly , But can't be her friend because he needs to heal his heart & reclaim his life. What do you think should happen in such a situation , what should the guy do ? what should the girl do? Link to post Share on other sites
JChristie Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 the boy: what is he healing from? did the girl hurt him because she only wants to be friends? did they have sex? if they had sex, the boy may think he is in love because she had sex with him. if they are both young, then the boy needs to heal and focus on being a successful person, both in his personal life and professional life. the girl will see that he is successful and that he is becoming a more interesting and vibrant person than the other men in her life. if he still truly loves her, he needs to keep in touch with her. let her know his plans and dreams for his life ( that he wants to share with a special woman). as he achieves his goals, she will (hopefully) not settle for a loser, if she knows that this awesome guy is interested in her for some time. he can be completely honest with her about his hopes for his life, and his hopes that she will share this with him. he needs to only spend 20% of the conversation about his feelings for HER and the rest about his big dreams, and how he is creating a fabulous life. when she sees that he is able to make things happen, she may be his woman one day, if it is meant to be. and along the way, the boy may even find a better woman, with all the qualities he is seeking in a woman, who shares his values. as for the girl, if she is young, it is good that she has male friends. ( as long as she isn't having sex with all of them)( is that gross?) a single woman needs male friends in her life. this is normal. also, maybe she has goals and dreams for her life and she is not sure if the boy is the person who will work with her towards those dreams. both the boy and girl will do well to get clear on their life mission and dreams and start taking action to create this. romance will follow if they can keep in touch while using this time now to work on their lives and their hearts and minds. Link to post Share on other sites
JChristie Posted December 22, 2014 Share Posted December 22, 2014 one last but important thing, chemistry. if the chemistry doesn't happen, it won't work. in the end, success is sexy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Lightmetoday Posted December 22, 2014 Author Share Posted December 22, 2014 Ya chemistry. The problem is that people first rob you of your heart & then when you realise you are robbed, they end up telling you we are just friends. Its better not to give your heart in wrong hands, you end up in a huge hurt, Recovery seems way too difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
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