Darren2013 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Now that we finished talking about special diets for dinner dates what are the recommended dress codes for a first date? I take more of the view that it is better to overdress than to underdress. For example first date for me is ideally a coffee shop date like Starbucks. For that date I wear a suit and tie and shiny black shoes. First date is basically a job interview. 30 minutes long and dress up in a suit and tie. Now later on after a few dates if I go bowling then I can relax the dress code a little and wear tennis shoes. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Suit and tie in a coffee shop? You sound like an extra from Men In Black. If it's like a job interview then you're doing it wrong! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 If you have a job where you wear a suit & tie, not changing before your coffee shop date is fine. If you have a blue collar job, I'd think it was odd that you wore a suit & tie to a coffee shop. Nice pants & sports coat, maybe but not a full on suit & tie. Bear in mind I work in a field where men wear suit & tie every day. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Andy_K Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Nothing on God's earth would persuade me to turn up for a coffee shop date in a suit and tie. The only conceivable scenario would be if I was on my way to (or back from) a funeral or wedding... And in that case I hardly think I'd be going on a date. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I hope you are joking. A suit and tie is just way overboard for meeting up with someone. I wear a T-shirt and jeans to keep it very casual and less up tight. I want the woman to feel very comfortable in my presence. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I hope you are joking. A suit and tie is just way overboard for meeting up with someone. I wear a T-shirt and jeans to keep it very casual and less up tight. I want the woman to feel very comfortable in my presence. Different strokes for different folks. As a woman a man in a suit & tie doesn't make me uncomfortable. I am surrounded by them all day. A man who showed up in jeans & a t-shirt would make me think he didn't care enough to even put on a button down. If a man who doesn't usually wear a suit & tie, showed up in a coffee shop in one, I'd wonder why & that would make me uncomfortable. Similarly if I was meeting a guy who did usually wear a suit & tie to work after business hours, but he showed up in a more casual outfit (not business casual) I'd wonder why he changed. Wardrobe needs to be a function of who the person is, where the date will take place and what time the date occurs. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Bzzt! Wrong. You need to be you. This person needs to see who you really are. If that means dressing like Daryl on The Walking Dead, so be it. So, wear whatever you wear that makes you feel at your prime. Wear what the mirror reflects to you BADASS. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
losangelena Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 OP, no offense, but have you dated much at all? Suit and tie to a coffee shop? You really do think you're on an interview, lol. What about a nice plaid button-down. It's cold right now, so I don't know, wear a sweater. Jeans or nice flat-front khakis. Or what's your personal style normally? The guys I found most interesting were the ones who had some personal flair and weren't afraid to let it show. Between the carefully-time eating and the suit and tie, any woman you go out with is going to think she's on a date with a robot. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 Suit and tie in a coffee shop? You sound like an extra from Men In Black. If it's like a job interview then you're doing it wrong! How would I be doing it wrong? I'm very careful to iron my clothes thoroughly and make sure there's no stains anywhere. I could understand how it would be wrong and make the other person uncomfortable if I showed up with wrinkles in the suit and other stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 Bzzt! Wrong. You need to be you. This person needs to see who you really are. If that means dressing like Daryl on The Walking Dead, so be it. So, wear whatever you wear that makes you feel at your prime. Wear what the mirror reflects to you BADASS. At a job interview you can't afford to be yourself. You gotta know the right answer to the questions and at most job interviews there is a certain standard of dress to adhere to. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 How would I be doing it wrong? I'm very careful to iron my clothes thoroughly and make sure there's no stains anywhere. I could understand how it would be wrong and make the other person uncomfortable if I showed up with wrinkles in the suit and other stuff. If you are not normally a suit & tie guy, stepping it up this much is TOO MUCH. It's wonderful that you want to dress to impress. How about taking it down a notch & wear a sports coat over slacks or nice jeans & no tie? Spiffy but more casual. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted December 17, 2014 Author Share Posted December 17, 2014 I mean on one hand I admit it is a hassle to spend alot of time getting my suit ready for that first date because there's that chance that she won't show up or cancel at the last minute. Sometimes women do not show up and it was time I wasted trying to look my best. But that's a risk I'm willing to take. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 Eek! Nope, no suit, tie, shiny shoes for a first meet. Not unless you are at work and it's a lunch meet and you always wear that. In fact I would go for a non work hours meet and dress casually. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I say go like this.... http://media.urbandictionary.com/image/page/wigger-15344.jpg **Now Gloria25 will sit back and see if "someone" actually does what she posted here*** 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I would rather a guy show up in his tie and suit than his tattered jeans and star wars t shirt. (no wars hate i love them just not on clothes ;p) Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I say go like this.... http://media.urbandictionary.com/image/page/wigger-15344.jpg **Now Gloria25 will sit back and see if "someone" actually does what she posted here*** ALSO, make sure that when you address her - especially when you arrive to the date you yell "Yo, yo, yo" and throw your hands/arms in the air when you talk. This will also show her you have excellent mannerisms. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 For a guy to be wearing a suit to a job, IMO, he better be high up on the food chain and it is a requirement (i.e. attorneys). I worked at one place where there were one or two who wore suits and they weren't even in leadership/management and we didn't have to deal with the public. They looked so ridiculous - but they thought they were the cat's meow. If a guy had to wear like something "suitish" I'd prefer a modern/younger/casual look. I mean, with this look you can throw on a jacket and/or switch out into jeans if you have to meet someone after work. http://anewyorkloveaffair.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/033.jpg http://indulgy.ccio.co/s1/9D/L1/127226758192755146B2VHm0xIc.jpg http://suitvests.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Hottest-Mens-Suit-Vests.jpg http://cdn2.thegloss.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/godfried-addae1.jpg NOW, please, no cargo shorts and/or wrinkled clothing....The guy who didn't know how to use a fork and knife also showed up for our dinner date in cargo pants, a T-shirt and tennisshoes. WRONG. SO, for me, show up like one of these guys: http://www.catchwhat.info/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/mens-jeans-Casual-wear-for-meniStock_000014748096Small-e1310181971198.jpg NOT, like one of these guys: http://style-masculin.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Comment-shabiller-%C3%A9tudiant-casual.jpg **Gloria25 can't believe she is doing this, now he's gonna dress like this when he takes her out next time, ho, hum - well at least Gloria25 earned her "wings" today** Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 For a guy to be wearing a suit to a job, IMO, he better be high up on the food chain and it is a requirement (i.e. attorneys). I worked at one place where there were one or two who wore suits and they weren't even in leadership/management and we didn't have to deal with the public. They looked so ridiculous - but they thought they were the cat's meow. If a guy had to wear like something "suitish" I'd prefer a modern/younger/casual look. I mean, with this look you can throw on a jacket and/or switch out into jeans if you have to meet someone after work. http://anewyorkloveaffair.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/02/033.jpg http://indulgy.ccio.co/s1/9D/L1/127226758192755146B2VHm0xIc.jpg http://suitvests.net/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Hottest-Mens-Suit-Vests.jpg http://cdn2.thegloss.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/02/godfried-addae1.jpg NOW, please, no cargo shorts and/or wrinkled clothing....The guy who didn't know how to use a fork and knife also showed up for our dinner date in cargo pants, a T-shirt and tennisshoes. WRONG. SO, for me, show up like one of these guys: http://www.catchwhat.info/wp-content/uploads/2014/06/mens-jeans-Casual-wear-for-meniStock_000014748096Small-e1310181971198.jpg NOT, like one of these guys: http://style-masculin.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Comment-shabiller-%C3%A9tudiant-casual.jpg **Gloria25 can't believe she is doing this, now he's gonna dress like this when he takes her out next time, ho, hum - well at least Gloria25 earned her "wings" today** Wow! I just looked at those links. Gloria are you 25? I dunno why but I thought you were in your 40's. I thought you had said that in a post somewhere? My apologies if I was incorrect on that. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 (edited) Wow! I just looked at those links. Gloria are you 25? I dunno why but I thought you were in your 40's. I thought you had said that in a post somewhere? My apologies if I was incorrect on that. No, I'm approaching 40....but come on, older guys can pull off those looks w/o looking like some MILF in a "juicy" jogging pants. Look at David Beckham, approaching 40, does he look like it? Does he look ridiculous? Both answers are "no". http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lqkmhyhPgX1qi940xo1_500.jpg And, here's some random pics of an older guy: http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/fc/ef/d0/fcefd02cd474452e0d2c22a6e79a0444.jpg http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/52/cb/1c/52cb1c6221ab9d2cdc3248431605131f.jpg http://www.house-md.pl/wp-content/gallery/posts/442d.jpg https://eighteentenblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/izandrew_nickelson_nick_wooster_fashion_director_bergdorf_goodman_neiman_marcus_adviser_gilt_man_fashion_icon_street_style_inspiration_tattoo_www_izandrew_blogs.jpg Edited December 17, 2014 by Gloria25 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 No, I'm approaching 40....but come on, older guys can pull off those looks w/o looking like some MILF in a "juicy" jogging pants. Look at David Beckham, approaching 40, does he look like it? Does he look ridiculous? Both answers are "no". http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lqkmhyhPgX1qi940xo1_500.jpg And, here's some random pics of an older guy: http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/fc/ef/d0/fcefd02cd474452e0d2c22a6e79a0444.jpg http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/236x/52/cb/1c/52cb1c6221ab9d2cdc3248431605131f.jpg http://www.house-md.pl/wp-content/gallery/posts/442d.jpg https://eighteentenblog.files.wordpress.com/2014/02/izandrew_nickelson_nick_wooster_fashion_director_bergdorf_goodman_neiman_marcus_adviser_gilt_man_fashion_icon_street_style_inspiration_tattoo_www_izandrew_blogs.jpg OK, we are talking extremely good looking men here. All could be in boy/man bands. I guess you are in that same league. FTR I thing Beckham looks ridiculous much of the time but if you are a Victoria LAL then fair play. Link to post Share on other sites
PaperCrane Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I dress for the occasion as well as venue. I also dress for the season. For anything besides summer bring extra layers so you can offer the girl your coat if she gets cold. My usual go to is I'll wear my high top chucks with darkwash (dark grey or near black) jeans or flat front chinos that are not too long, a button-down collared shirt and a sport coat or peacoat if it is nastier out. Think dressed up casual where obviously you want to look nice but there are certain things you can take a little liberty on. Relationships are meant to be serious but also fun and exciting. Give that same impression with what you wear. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 OK, we are talking extremely good looking men here. All could be in boy/man bands. I guess you are in that same league. FTR I thing Beckham looks ridiculous much of the time but if you are a Victoria LAL then fair play. Oh come on, no I am not a Victoria Beckham/posh type. My nails are cut short and my hair stays in a bun most of the time... But, if I go clubbing, out with a guy, or am being "naughty" in the bedroom - trust me, I dress for the occasion Also, the "look" in those pics I put up there do not require a personal stylist. It's just a jeans, top, and top. Period. Not that hard. Also, looks do not make their clothing better, actually, IMO, their way of dress makes up for any problems they may have in the looks department. Look at Brad Pitt, 50's and his "style"...not that hard and while he isn't "ugly", I am not attracted to him. http://cdn02.cdn.justjared.com/wp-content/uploads/headlines/2014/08/brad-pitt-flashes-wedding-ring-makes-first-post-wedding-appearance.jpg Now look at John C. Reilly, not an attractive guy - especially in the face. But, in this pic, he pulls it off pretty well. Now, if he'd only go to a gym, he could do an even better job to make up for his face. http://www3.pictures.zimbio.com/gi/John+C+Reilly+Alison+Dickey+2012+Film+Independent+1H4cG7DRxBol.jpg Link to post Share on other sites
doeblin Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I take more of the view that it is better to overdress than to underdress. For example first date for me is ideally a coffee shop date like Starbucks. For a coffee shop-date a nice henley (or a stylish cardigan) with a smart pair of jeans (or casual trousers) would be a good choice. While overdressing is better than underdressing, looking like an investment banker on a starbucks date is uncool. Smart casual is better than a suit&tie. First date is basically a job interview. 30 minutes long and dress up in a suit and tie. I hope you don't mean you're going to conduct an impersonal talking head Q&A on a date. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 While overdressing is better than underdressing, looking like an investment banker on a starbucks date is uncool. Smart casual is better than a suit&tie. Looking like an investment banker or lawyer is just fine if you are one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 OP, no offense, but have you dated much at all? Take a guess. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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