How to ask a woman to shave

[kaylan]

So this girl Im seeing has a slight mustache and its been putting me off a little. We get along great....great physical chemistry too...but when I notice the stache its a turn off. I havent said anything just yet because Im not sure how. I know it can be a touchy subject with some women.

 

I tried to hint that I didnt like fuzziness on a gal's face by telling her about the friend of a girl I dated earlier this year. This other girl had legit male hair growth. Beard and mustache stubble that was very dark. I assumed it was a hormone condition. Anyways...despite mentioning this other person, the girl Im dating didnt get the hint.

 

I doubt she would get upset if I mention it, but I wanna be careful regardless. We actually talked about pubic hair during one of our first dates...and I was actually able to ask her to trim a bit down there following one of our sexcapades. She didnt mind at all, and actually hadnt trimmed earlier because she thought Id prefer more hair (because I didnt mention to her in a conversation that I dont need my chicks to be bald down there like in porn. I actually want women that look like women down there)

 

Anyways ladies, how would you like a guy to mention facial hair to you if he has to say something. And Im definitely going to say something. Because its been bugging me, and right now this girl and I have very open and honest communication with each other. So I was basically gonna ignore my one friend's advice telling me "dont say anything, you cant win" smh.

 

What say you?

[FitChick]

Ask her if she's part Armenian. When she asks why tell her it's because Armenian women tend to grow mustaches as they get older.

[kaylan]

Ask her if she's part Armenian. When she asks why tell her it's because Armenian women tend to grow mustaches as they get older.

She's not European at all. So this angle wont help lol

[martaldn]

Haha! That's a tricky one..

I'm not sure how else u could say it apart than just saying it!

At the end of the day if it's something that put u off u should tell her., get her tipsy maybe she would be more relaxed and won't take it too bad.

[Under The Radar]

I'm with your friend ...... so feel free to ignore my advice:

 

I wouldn't say anything about it to her ...... it will just hurt her feelings.

 

Either accept her as she is or move on.

[Maleficent]

Shaving will only make things worse.

 

She can wax, bleach or get electrolysis but never never ever shave!

 

I suggest you weight the pros and cons here. Considering you telling her could have the effect of her dumping you, tell her only if you really really feel like you can't even look past it.

[kaylan]

Shaving will only make things worse.

 

She can wax, bleach or get electrolysis but never never ever shave!

 

I suggest you weight the pros and cons here. Considering you telling her could have the effect of her dumping you, tell her only if you really really feel like you can't even look past it.

The "shaving makes it worse" thing is a myth. That defies any real scientific discussion on hair growth. It may appear like more hair since the hair initially grows straight out before laying down when its long enough.

 

Shaving hair: Does shaved hair grow back thicker? - Mayo Clinic

 

And I doubt she dumps be over this...considering the convos we've already had. If she dumps a guy for wanting a woman without a man-ish looking lip...so be it. I wouldn't be too phased if thats a reason for dumping someone. Im generally pretty liberal about a woman's body hair...but I just cant do any facial hair.

Edited November 29, 2014 by kaylan

[Haydn]

Ask her if she's part Armenian. When she asks why tell her it's because Armenian women tend to grow mustaches as they get older.

 

 

Fit, where DO you get this stuff from? Plenty of other women in every country in the world who can have this `issue` (Keep it coming though)

 

 

Kaylan, is it a handlebar moustache? If you like her then i suggest not worrying about it. She is probably aware of it. Like Marta says, it is tricky.

[smackie9]

OMG if you are able to tell her to shave her p ussy you can tell her to wax her upper lip.....buy her a spa package that includes eyebrow, and upper lip waxing.....she can get her nails done while she's at it.

[Omei]

I agree that if you can ask her to shave her lady parts you can ask for the upper lip.

 

But do not buy her a package spa after making that request that would be a humiliating feeling that you need a man to send you to a spa to be re worked entirely. (plus is it even worth all that dough for a 1 min lip shave)

 

Or get the spa package without telling her about the lip prior and make it look like it was your kindness and generosity

[somedude81]

Shaving will only make things worse.

 

She can wax, bleach or get electrolysis but never never ever shave!

 

I suggest you weight the pros and cons here. Considering you telling her could have the effect of her dumping you, tell her only if you really really feel like you can't even look past it.

 

Seriously?

 

Are some women really that weak that they would get offended if a guy they were dating told them that he's put off by the hair on her upper lip and would like her to remove it?

[kaylan]

cant believe that even girls with moustache get to date...and actually have men wanting to be with them...

I wouldnt put it this way...despite the troubles your having in your own thread. (youll be alright btw...no worries)

 

This girl and I just clicked and have the right chemistry. Its not going to be anything serious anytime soon...but its fun and we get along well. Its just that once I noticed the facial hair, its been hard not to notice.

OMG if you are able to tell her to shave her p ussy you can tell her to wax her upper lip.....buy her a spa package that includes eyebrow, and upper lip waxing.....she can get her nails done while she's at it.

But pubic hair is something everyone grows, and is not something thats as touchy as facial hair (or so i was lead to believe). From what Ive been told or have read, facial hair is more touchy for women since facial hair is considered masculine and isnt as "normal" as crotch hair (which every girl has)

[Els]

How long have you been seeing her? If it's only been a few weeks or so, I'm of the mind that if you don't like her exactly as she is, she isn't really the one for you. Yes, people do make compromises and such, but that usually happens later on in an established R. If you've been together for over a month or something, then I agree with the spa package gift.

 

On the flip side, if she told you she wanted you to change your grooming habits for her, would you mind?

[kaylan]

How long have you been seeing her? If it's only been a few weeks or so, I'm of the mind that if you don't like her exactly as she is, she isn't really the one for you. Yes, people do make compromises and such, but that usually happens later on in an established R. If you've been together for over a month or something, then I agree with the spa package gift.

 

On the flip side, if she told you she wanted you to change your grooming habits for her, would you mind?

Its been like a month, but its casual. We arent really looking for the one. We are both approaching this as friends who get along well, and have physical chemistry.

 

If she told me to change a grooming habit, Id be open to it. I already handle my body hair, nails, scent, etc well. But if I needed to make a better effort, I wouldnt be bothered by a suggestion.

[Under The Radar]

Seriously?

 

Are some women really that weak that they would get offended if a guy they were dating told them that he's put off by the hair on her upper lip and would like her to remove it?

 

It's not weak ...... it's a matter of etiquette.

 

How would you feel if your recent lover pointed out belly fat you may have ...... and told you to change it ...... with a preference for 6 pack abs?

 

My guess is you wouldn't be too happy.

[somedude81]

It's not weak ...... it's a matter of etiquette.

 

How would you feel if your recent lover pointed out belly fat you may have ...... and told you to change it ...... with a preference for 6 pack abs?

 

My guess is you wouldn't be too happy.

 

I wasn't aware that it was that difficult and required a lifestyle change for a woman to remove the hair on her upper lip. Forgive my ignorance.

[Rejected Rosebud]

Seriously?

 

Are some women really that weak that they would get offended if a guy they were dating told them that he's put off by the hair on her upper lip and would like her to remove it?

No kidding, that would be a very touchy subject! I don't have the hairy lip thing but I was just imagining if I did and how embarrassed I would feel if he asked me to shave it … not that there's anything wrong with asking but it IS touchy. It's not "weak."

[somedude81]

No kidding, that would be a very touchy subject! I don't have the hairy lip thing but I was just imagining if I did and how embarrassed I would feel if he asked me to shave it … not that there's anything wrong with asking but it IS touchy. It's not "weak."

 

Yeah it's a bit embarrassing, but it certainly shouldn't be anything to dump somebody over.

 

If I don't trim my nose hairs, they can get a bit unsightly. If I haven't trimmed them in a while and a girl I'm dating said, "He somedude, can you cut your noise hairs." My response would be " Sure OK."

 

The end.

[Rejected Rosebud]

I wasn't aware that it was that difficult and required a lifestyle change for a woman to remove the hair on her upper lip. Forgive my ignorance.

I can't believe you don't see how this would be a difficult situation!! How can you not>>

[somedude81]

Yeah it's a bit embarrassing, but it certainly shouldn't be anything to dump somebody over.

 

If I don't trim my nose hairs, they can get a bit unsightly. If I haven't trimmed them in a while and a girl I'm dating said, "He somedude, can you cut your noise hairs." My response would be " Sure OK."

 

The end.

 

Can't edit

 

Should be

 

He somedude, can you cut your nose hairs."

[Under The Radar]

Can't edit

 

Should be

 

He somedude, can you cut your nose hairs."

 

What if she doesn't want your nose hairs cut, plucked, trimmed, or shaved ...... but wants them waxed?

 

Is that an acceptable middle-ground?

[Divasu]

Hehe. I have a bit of that, I am Persian after all. But I do groom it.

 

I don't know how I would feel though if someone I barely knew asked me to shave myself though, so good luck with that.

[kaylan]

What if she doesn't want your nose hairs cut, plucked, trimmed, or shaved ...... but wants them waxed?

 

Is that an acceptable middle-ground?

 

Silly to compare an inside mucous membrane (nostrils) to upper lip. Waxing nose hair isn't safe. That's an unreasonable request

[xxoo]

I'd stay with neutral language. She may not consider it"mannish" and may actually like it. Think Frida Kahlo, who took pride in her facial hair.

 

Stay neutral, and ask her if she's considered removing it. Genuinely ask, and listen to her response.

 

Women don't shave that, regardless. Stubble is far worse.

[MidwestUSA]

What if she doesn't want your nose hairs cut, plucked, trimmed, or shaved ...... but wants them waxed?

 

Is that an acceptable middle-ground?

 

Well, that just hurts! I've head they get actors to cry by yanking out nose hair.

 

 

Kaylan, you've been up close. Is the hair thick, or is it more fine, like it would be helped by bleaching? (altho I know in some instances, this only lands you with a blond mustache).