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So I'm a young 19-20 year old with lots of student loans to pay and eating ramen and domino's pizza for a living. Long story short my finances are tight, and I need money for books and to register for classes this spring. Sites like whatsyourprice or seeking arrangement I hear let you bid for dates or find an SD willing to pay for companionwhip. Overall, I'm not looking to escort or exchange sex for money but I am interested..am I a bad person for looking at the OLD sites to help make money on the side if I don't necessarily want a relationship from it.

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I think it's best to do those sorts of deals openly and honestly. If the person knows they are paying for your company nothing more, there's likely to be fewer hurt feelings...

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How do you feel about men who frequent prostitutes?

 

Whatever your gut reaction is to them is very likely to be the gut reaction of any guy you genuinely date in the future who learns about a history of selling yourself to other men. Some are fine with it, many are not. Not sure if that comes around from social conditioning or ties into a very deep primal reaction, but that's just the way it goes.

 

That being said, you wouldn't be the first intelligent and ambitious woman to go down that road to help pay for schooling with the intent of higher aspirations. I sold my time and body to hard labour in the summers to help pay for my schooling. On the surface your choice wouldn't really be any different.

 

At a deeper level you'll have to do some soul searching to understand how you genuinely feel about the prospect.

 

There will also be some key logistical considerations to consider in order to ensure your safety.

 

Personally, I believe you'll feel much more richly rewarded if you find other ways of meeting your financial needs.

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am I a bad person for looking at the OLD sites to help make money on the side if I don't necessarily want a relationship from it.

 

Here is a crazy idea....have you thought about getting part-time job at that Dominos pizza that you buy from? Oh, how about asking your parents to help out?

 

This is coming from a man that put himself through university twice just so you know, doing hard sciences, working night shifts, attending classes during the day. Did I pimp myself out as a gigolo? No I did not.

 

How would you feel if your knew your mum was doing this, and later in life your daughter?

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Did I read this wrong? I thought OP said she was only looking to go on dates for money, no sex involved. There's nothing inherently wrong with this as long as the other party understands the terms and conditions.

 

Personally, I'd pay someone to teach me how to kiss, being as I've never done it before. I figure learning from a reasonably attractive woman would be worth $150-200 for 30-60 minutes.

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Did I read this wrong? I thought OP said she was only looking to go on dates for money, no sex involved. There's nothing inherently wrong with this as long as the other party understands the terms and conditions.

 

Personally, I'd pay someone to teach me how to kiss, being as I've never done it before. I figure learning from a reasonably attractive woman would be worth $150-200 for 30-60 minutes.

 

I can teach you virtually for half the price

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I can teach you virtually for half the price

 

You get what you pay for though. Hands on experience would be worth it.

 

I can watch videos online on how to do it, but that's really not a good substitute.

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Why are you eating Domino's Pizza if you're so poor right now? That stuff is crazy expensive. You should invest into teaching yourself how to properly cook on a budget. I can make a huge six-portion veggie Shepherd's pie for £1 per portion. Homemade soup is pence per bowl, and you can freeze it, not to mention it's actually good for you.

 

Anyway, be aware that the men paying you for your company are likely expecting something else, unless you as a person really are just THAT engaging, beautiful, witty, interesting, and willing and able to make them feel like a King. Otherwise, most men aren't going to pay a woman to spend time with them when they can find that for free.

 

Don't be fooled into think it's just 'escorting'. It's a legal, less embarrassing and less unsavory way of discussing prostitution. Now, I have absolutely nothing against prostitution if both parties are consenting. But you seem to think you can earn money without taking your clothes off, and I'd hate to see anyone in a situation where they're too naive to realise it's what's expected of them until they're in a very difficult situation.

 

I worked 70 hours per week for two years to get my MA, and volunteered and had an awesome social life and relationship on top. If it's what you want hard enough, you'll find a way to make it work. Now I'm earning double the cash for half the hours (not even earning national average, but still much more of a comfortable wage than the amount I was on before), not delivering pizzas anymore, and enjoying the fruits of my labour. It honestly feels incredible. It is worth it if you push on through. Don't do anything now that you will look back on and regret.

 

Have you explored other avenues for financial support? Hardship loans? Taking on one or two other jobs? Night shifts? Tutoring other people or proofreading essays for money? Asking for a small loan from your parents, if they're in the position to help? Economise.

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Why are you eating Domino's Pizza if you're so poor right now? That stuff is crazy expensive. You should invest into teaching yourself how to properly cook on a budget. I can make a huge six-portion veggie Shepherd's pie for £1 per portion. Homemade soup is pence per bowl, and you can freeze it, not to mention it's actually good for you.

 

Anyway, be aware that the men paying you for your company are likely expecting something else, unless you as a person really are just THAT engaging, beautiful, witty, interesting, and willing and able to make them feel like a King. Otherwise, most men aren't going to pay a woman to spend time with them when they can find that for free.

 

Don't be fooled into think it's just 'escorting'. It's a legal, less embarrassing and less unsavory way of discussing prostitution. Now, I have absolutely nothing against prostitution if both parties are consenting. But you seem to think you can earn money without taking your clothes off, and I'd hate to see anyone in a situation where they're too naive to realise it's what's expected of them until they're in a very difficult situation.

 

I worked 70 hours per week for two years to get my MA, and volunteered and had an awesome social life and relationship on top. If it's what you want hard enough, you'll find a way to make it work. Now I'm earning double the cash for half the hours (not even earning national average, but still much more of a comfortable wage than the amount I was on before), not delivering pizzas anymore, and enjoying the fruits of my labour. It honestly feels incredible. It is worth it if you push on through. Don't do anything now that you will look back on and regret.

 

Have you explored other avenues for financial support? Hardship loans? Taking on one or two other jobs? Night shifts? Tutoring other people or proofreading essays for money? Asking for a small loan from your parents, if they're in the position to help? Economise.

 

A dollar for a slice is not expensive, though it does add up. I'm not just "ordering out" every night. Just right now I can't seem to find a job and the bills are adding up and I'm running out of time. My GPA is good but not high enough to legally be a tutor for the university so I had cross that out, my mother is unemployed and we're all staying with family. Trust me, if I was offered a job I'd take it. And I am constantly putting out applications. But I just wonder if in the meantime is there any harm with $100 for a few hours of fake laughing at jokes and looking pretty?

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How would you feel if your knew your mum was doing this, and later in life your daughter?

 

I do recall saying I was 20 not 14 so I'm pretty sure my mother's opinion is a nonfactor unless I want it to be. And the reason I am in school now is to find a great career that pays enough so that my "daughter" won't have to struggle the way I am.

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I think you'd be fine as long as you meet in a public place. ? Without knowing much about the site you mentioned, I don't see the problem. Does the bidder pay for the meal etc?

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A dollar for a slice is not expensive, though it does add up.

A slice of pizza for $1.00 is not very substantial insofar as sustenance is concerned.

 

When I was in grad school, I was able to feed myself three meals a day for about $20.00 a week but it *did* involve planning and cooking intelligently; shopping at ethnic groceries for mediocre produce and making friends with butchers for the throw-away bones of chicken carcasses and cow bones to make stock for soup. Lots of eggs and day-old bread...

 

The real question only YOU can answer is if you have a moral compunction against selling yourself in that fashion. Just know that you will be put into situations and positions which will become difficult. I was there as well, when I went out with guys just to get a meal and they offered "extra cash" for some extra special attention....

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I do recall saying I was 20 not 14 so I'm pretty sure my mother's opinion is a nonfactor unless I want it to be. And the reason I am in school now is to find a great career that pays enough so that my "daughter" won't have to struggle the way I am.

 

So you are saying your mum didn't do anything to support you then?

 

14 or 20...not much difference there to be honest. You missed my question to you, and I'll try again....how would you feel if you knew your mum was going on dates for cash?

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. Just right now I can't seem to find a job and the bills are adding up and I'm running out of time.

Plenty of stores need help for the holiday shopping season.

 

If you think some guy will pay to see you look pretty and not anything else, you are kidding yourself. Of course maybe you could find a harmless old codger in a rest home who will pay you to show him your tits. Then you could get up and run away, leaving him struggling to get out of his wheelchair.

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Plenty of stores need help for the holiday shopping season.

 

If you think some guy will pay to see you look pretty and not anything else, you are kidding yourself. Of course maybe you could find a harmless old codger in a rest home who will pay you to show him your tits. Then you could get up and run away, leaving him struggling to get out of his wheelchair.

 

I mean I would pay. I don't have the money to consistently do it, but if I did I would certainly pay a girl $100 just to be out and about with me. Go to dinner, or a to a game or something.

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Wow....This has given me an idea for supplementing my income. Ladies, I am the perfect gentleman, I come naturally with chivalry, good listening, stare in the eyes, open car doors etc.

 

My prices:

 

1. $50/hr to go to the movies / dinner. You are paying

2. $200 to spend the day with you

3. $100 to come round and do grocery shopping with you.

4. $300 to spend the night cuddling, open to negotiation if looking for extra

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Wow....This has given me an idea for supplementing my income. Ladies, I am the perfect gentleman, I come naturally with chivalry, good listening, stare in the eyes, open car doors etc.

 

My prices:

 

1. $50/hr to go to the movies / dinner. You are paying

2. $200 to spend the day with you

3. $100 to come round and do grocery shopping with you.

4. $300 to spend the night cuddling, open to negotiation if looking for extra

 

Look if you were a woman, those look to be reasonable prices. I don't make a lot of money right now, but when/if I do, I would certainly be willing to splurge on this kind of stuff.

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Look if you were a woman, those look to be reasonable prices. I don't make a lot of money right now, but when/if I do, I would certainly be willing to splurge on this kind of stuff.

 

Forgot to mention....I only take cash, and you won't be getting a receipt for your taxes in April ;)

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Did I read this wrong? I thought OP said she was only looking to go on dates for money, no sex involved. There's nothing inherently wrong with this as long as the other party understands the terms and conditions. .

 

Really? There's nothing wrong except it's dangerous as hell and men online will tell you absolutely anything to get you alone and then not keep the agreement. Anyone's who's saying they get paid a bunch of money for no type of sex involved is lying. There's always sex involved. It may not be intercourse, it may not be anything you'd normally do to a human being, it may only involve diapers or feet, but there IS sex involved. Don't be naive, OP.

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I don't think it's that clever. What kind of men are bidding in these websites? Ew. I'd rather clean houses than go out with some slimy guy with questionable motives.

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Really? There's nothing wrong except it's dangerous as hell and men online will tell you absolutely anything to get you alone and then not keep the agreement. Anyone's who's saying they get paid a bunch of money for no type of sex involved is lying. There's always sex involved. It may not be intercourse, it may not be anything you'd normally do to a human being, it may only involve diapers or feet, but there IS sex involved. Don't be naive, OP.

 

Well, I'm sure you'd have to vet the clients and all of that.

 

I can only speak for myself, but if I had such an arrangement with a woman, no would always means no. It should be that way for any interaction. But I'd certainly be ok with no sex socializing for money.

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Really? There's nothing wrong except it's dangerous as hell and men online will tell you absolutely anything to get you alone and then not keep the agreement. Anyone's who's saying they get paid a bunch of money for no type of sex involved is lying. There's always sex involved. It may not be intercourse, it may not be anything you'd normally do to a human being, it may only involve diapers or feet, but there IS sex involved. Don't be naive, OP.

 

I doubt most of these escort dates lead to rape. She can meet them in public places, there are cctv everywhere these days and she ask to see their drivers license up front and the site will have his IP logged. I agree though that the girts who do this sort of work who say they are making great $ for no sex, many will be lying. Its just one little step more to escalating from the no sex gf experience to a lil bit extra for cash. The majority of these guys will temp the girl with offers of more $ to get a little more intimate (vanilla or kinky no intercourse stuff like discipline), and I bet many do it. I remember reading about about Paul McCartney's 2nd wile the model and how she would go to the middle east to do modelling shows, some in exclusively private functions for wealthy arabs and would come back home with her case stuffed with foreign currency. Oh no it was not for sex, she got paid extra to model lingerie and be a hostess to some sheik. lol.

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it's dangerous as hell

 

It is, and prostitutes do not as a rule go to the police (for obvious reasons) or get believed when they are raped. They're extremely vulnerable.

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Well, I'm sure you'd have to vet the clients and all of that.

 

I can only speak for myself, but if I had such an arrangement with a woman, no would always means no. It should be that way for any interaction. But I'd certainly be ok with no sex socializing for money.

 

There's no vetting these clients. Men like that will say anything to get what they want. I'm guessing you're not using that service to begin with.

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