SawtoothMars Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 There was a point during my previous marriage where we just stopped having sex. I started using porn frequently to make up the difference... and it was kind of new to me. I rarely use porn today, but I think it has altered my expectations for sex. Anybody else feel like this? Has use of porn altered what turns you on or the degree of skill you expect in a lover? Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 Though your post was fairly vague, I think it's pretty common knowldge that porn (espeially overuse) has the potential dramatically alter ones sexual expectations. However I watch porn several times a week and haven't really noticed any significant difference in my sex life or what I expect in the bedroom. Perhaps it's because I put porn in a separate mental space and remain firmly aware that it is in no way close to reality. Or maybe because I'm a woman? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 Porn is all show though. Even pornstars have said that the angles and venues they have sex at are done for the camera and not for pleasure. Real pleasure is very different. Overall if your sex life is suffering I wouldn't be blaming it on porn. It's your compatibility with your partner. Maybe somewhere along the way you got bored with each other and you lost that spark. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 I watched porn for a bunch of years before I actually got laid and after the first time I found myself suddenly getting off to models I could have cared less about before, because they had a passing resemblance to her. So I'm pretty skeptical all those pictures on a screen have some great power real life interaction can't wash away in short order. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Lernaean_Hydra Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 I watched porn for a bunch of years before I actually got laid and after the first time I found myself suddenly getting off to models I could have cared less about before, because they had a passing resemblance to her. So I'm pretty skeptical all those pictures on a screen have some great power real life interaction can't wash away in short order. I agree for the most somewhat. However, the thing about the way you viewed porn directly after having sex for the first time is sort of skewed because, having never experienced the real deal before, sex was then this very new and exciting thing. But if you've spent a lot of years having sex with decreasing frequency/interest and/or find yourself less attracted to your partner, porn can o...well if not wash away your past sexual encounters then certainly seem to hold more appeal. *for the record Gaius, I feel I should add my occasional disclaimer that I liked this post for the content, this is not me flirting Link to post Share on other sites
gaius Posted October 30, 2014 Share Posted October 30, 2014 I agree for the most somewhat. However, the thing about the way you viewed porn directly after having sex for the first time is sort of skewed because, having never experienced the real deal before, sex was then this very new and exciting thing. But if you've spent a lot of years having sex with decreasing frequency/interest and/or find yourself less attracted to your partner, porn can o...well if not wash away your past sexual encounters then certainly seem to hold more appeal. *for the record Gaius, I feel I should add my occasional disclaimer that I liked this post for the content, this is not me flirting We would be so good together. And sure, it can fill in as a surrogate partner if somethings broken, stale or lacking but in the context Saw brought up I just don't see it happening. Where it changes your expectations for sex in all regards. Link to post Share on other sites
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