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Just figured I'd start a thread that everyone could chime in and give their opinions and overviews on what a good relationship and good partner are...

 

 

I'll start by giving mine:

 

1) stability (emotionally and otherwise)

2) trustworthiness

3) similar values/morals (life wise/relationship wise)

4) laid back with a good sense of humor (not serious all the time, can laugh stuff off sometimes, even bad stuff)

5) similar interest in music (because I'm such a music buff)

6) someone somewhat cerebral (because I am a very deep person)

7) can have fun together even when you're not doing much of anything

8) someone who treats me like I'm the only person in a room full of people, (special attention)

9) someone who laughs my flaws off, and vice versa (finds love in imperfectly perfect flaws)

10) adventurous/spontaneous, someone who finds beauty in outdoors/nature like I do, likes to travel

 

 

 

 

 

What are your's? :)

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I don't remember the exact list but I was lucky enough to get all that & more with DH.

 

In no particular order I wanted:

 

1. a good work ethic

 

2. intelligence / quick mind / sharp

 

3. good sense of humor, preferably sarcastic

 

4. someone I was attracted to / sexy

 

5. loyal

 

6. emotionally strong / stable

 

7. reliable

 

8. honest but tactful

 

9. a good debater

 

10. calm - not dramatic or looking to stir the pot / cause problems

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I don't remember the exact list but I was lucky enough to get all that & more with DH.

 

In no particular order I wanted:

 

1. a good work ethic

 

2. intelligence / quick mind / sharp

 

3. good sense of humor, preferably sarcastic

 

4. someone I was attracted to / sexy

 

5. loyal

 

6. emotionally strong / stable

 

7. reliable

 

8. honest but tactful

 

9. a good debater

 

10. calm - not dramatic or looking to stir the pot / cause problems

 

 

That's a good list of qualities. Your list made me remember I forgot a few! :laugh:

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@OP.....in this particular order

 

 

  • Mutual respect
  • above average communication
  • well educated, minimum university 4 yr degree i.e. BSc, BA, BEng
  • independent / ambitious
  • outstanding work ethic
  • honest / sincere / loyal
  • Sane
  • loving / caring
  • Adventurous / active
  • well dressed / smells good / sensual

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See, women and feminist all the time complain, and whine tirelessly how much pressure we men (and the entire world) put into women to confom into tight, demanding and destructive impossible standards.

 

 

Yet, to make a woman happy, long specific, detailed check lists are demanded and must be met in due time and form. Meeting all requirements by no means warrant you get a date. Please, do notice that checklist can change at anytime without warning. It is men's full responsibility to make sure he is aware of a woman checklist.

 

 

To make a man happy? Every woman (no matter what) has boobs and a bum.

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cool thread.

 

I'm gonna compile a list here from the top of my head. No particular order.

 

1. I like confident girls

 

2. No model required, but appearance is a form of respect

 

3. No games

 

4. Pragmatism

 

5. No religious, political or any other dogmas

 

6. No athlete required, but some regular physical activity is good for the mind and the body

 

7. Values family and relationships

 

8. Is happy with herself and her choices in life

 

9. Enjoys the good life

 

10. Enjoys the simple life

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1 smart

2 solid

3 kind

4 strong

5 loyal

6 fun loving

7 loves dancing

8 faithful

9 traditional

10 penis

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Yet, to make a woman happy, long specific, detailed check lists are demanded and must be met in due time and form. Meeting all requirements by no means warrant you get a date. Please, do notice that checklist can change at anytime without warning. It is men's full responsibility to make sure he is aware of a woman checklist.

 

That sounds a tad bitter.

 

Having standards which is what I read (& wrote) is just fine. The check lists that cause trouble are more materialistic & superficial e.g. the guy must:

 

  • be over 6 feet
  • weigh between 175 - 200 pounds
  • earn 6 figures in one of the following professions or be a superstar
  • have graduated from a top tier school
  • have blonde hair & blue eyes
  • always send me roses after we make love (but only when I'm in the mood)

 

Do you see the differences in the lists?

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I think singsparkles and d0nnivain's lists are incredibly good!

 

There are the kinds of qualities I would appreciate and look out for, they are the kind of qualities that give a solid base to help define a strong relationship. I see nothing superficial in there at all.

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1) stability (emotionally and otherwise)

2) trustworthiness

3) similar values/morals (life wise/relationship wise)

4) laid back with a good sense of humor (not serious all the time, can laugh stuff off sometimes, even bad stuff)

5) similar interest in music (because I'm such a music buff)

6) someone somewhat cerebral (because I am a very deep person)

7) can have fun together even when you're not doing much of anything

8) someone who treats me like I'm the only person in a room full of people, (special attention)

9) someone who laughs my flaws off, and vice versa (finds love in imperfectly perfect flaws)

10) adventurous/spontaneous, someone who finds beauty in outdoors/nature like I do, likes to travel

 

Well I'm just going to steal your list. This is exactly what I want. Lol

 

I've never just written out a list and maybe I should, this is it. Thanks, sparkles.

 

Actually I lied, I hate the outdoors so I would change 10 to family oriented (not a workaholic)

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1. Kind

2. Smart

3. Overall great personality

4. Proper hygiene

5. Is physically and mentally healthy

 

That's all. Don't need 5 more

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1. Kind

2. Smart

3. Overall great personality

4. Proper hygiene

5. Is physically and mentally healthy

 

That's all. Don't need 5 more

 

What about penis?

 

I might be the only one who has that as a requirement...

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What about penis?

 

I might be the only one who has that as a requirement...

 

After I saw yours I almost amended mine to require a penis!

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That sounds a tad bitter.

 

Having standards which is what I read (& wrote) is just fine. The check lists that cause trouble are more materialistic & superficial e.g. the guy must:

 

  • be over 6 feet
  • weigh between 175 - 200 pounds
  • earn 6 figures in one of the following professions or be a superstar
  • have graduated from a top tier school
  • have blonde hair & blue eyes
  • always send me roses after we make love (but only when I'm in the mood)

 

Do you see the differences in the lists?

 

 

 

I love the "always sends me roses after we make love" ... That would be perfect! ;):love:

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What about penis?

 

I might be the only one who has that as a requirement...

 

 

 

 

I think everyone is missing the "penis" part on this board... what is wrong with people? haha :laugh: jk

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Well I'm just going to steal your list. This is exactly what I want. Lol

 

I've never just written out a list and maybe I should, this is it. Thanks, sparkles.

 

Actually I lied, I hate the outdoors so I would change 10 to family oriented (not a workaholic)

 

 

 

:):laugh: haha.... well, I forgot family oriented... that's definitely a HUGE thing in my book!!

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cool thread.

 

I'm gonna compile a list here from the top of my head. No particular order.

 

1. I like confident girls

 

2. No model required, but appearance is a form of respect

 

3. No games

 

4. Pragmatism

 

5. No religious, political or any other dogmas

 

6. No athlete required, but some regular physical activity is good for the mind and the body

 

7. Values family and relationships

 

8. Is happy with herself and her choices in life

 

9. Enjoys the good life

 

10. Enjoys the simple life

 

 

 

 

Confidence is def something I forgot! I think confidence is incredibly attractive... not arrogance or conceitedness... but confidence def goes a long way!

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@OP.....in this particular order

 

 

  • Mutual respect
  • above average communication
  • well educated, minimum university 4 yr degree i.e. BSc, BA, BEng
  • independent / ambitious
  • outstanding work ethic
  • honest / sincere / loyal
  • Sane
  • loving / caring
  • Adventurous / active
  • well dressed / smells good / sensual

 

 

 

Communication is a top one! And sensual!

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Just figured I'd start a thread that everyone could chime in and give their opinions and overviews on what a good relationship and good partner are...

 

 

I'll start by giving mine:

 

1) stability (emotionally and otherwise)

2) trustworthiness

3) similar values/morals (life wise/relationship wise)

4) laid back with a good sense of humor (not serious all the time, can laugh stuff off sometimes, even bad stuff)

5) similar interest in music (because I'm such a music buff)

6) someone somewhat cerebral (because I am a very deep person)

7) can have fun together even when you're not doing much of anything

8) someone who treats me like I'm the only person in a room full of people, (special attention)

9) someone who laughs my flaws off, and vice versa (finds love in imperfectly perfect flaws)

10) adventurous/spontaneous, someone who finds beauty in outdoors/nature like I do, likes to travel

 

 

 

 

 

What are your's? :)

 

Honestly, I really dislike threads like this. Simply because I pretty much meet every point on that list but I can never even get a date.

 

Which means that there are a few points that are on a second hidden list that I don't meet.

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Honestly, I really dislike threads like this. Simply because I pretty much meet every point on that list but I can never even get a date.

 

Which means that there are a few points that are on a second hidden list that I don't meet.

 

Stop feeling sorry for yourself and you will be much more attractive.

 

I'm adding to my list:

 

11 positive energy

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Honestly, I really dislike threads like this. Simply because I pretty much meet every point on that list but I can never even get a date.

 

Which means that there are a few points that are on a second hidden list that I don't meet.

 

 

 

To be honest,

 

You're not the only one. I've met guys where I fit the criteria of everything they want, and they still don't want me. I guess a list like this requires more than 10 things.. but I still think it's nice to know what truly means most to you in a relationship, like a top 10 kind of thing. I'm sure there is always more.

 

And trust me...you will get a date. Everyone goes through a time in their life when they're struggling romantically. I'm struggling romantically right now myself. But don't give up or lose hope.

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Here's my 100% honest list in no real order except for #1

 

1. Attractive to me

2. Intelligent

3. Friendly, sweet

4. Emotionally stable and relaxed

5. Loyal

6. High sex drive

7. Loves to dance

8. Adores me but is able to stand up for herself

9. Common interests and hobbies

10. No serious major flaws like drugs, drinking, smoking, sleeping around etc.

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(1) Carries themselves well in public. (people person)

(2) Sense of humor (witty)

(3) Has family roots/values

(4) Charming smile with a glint of sparkle in their eyes.

(5) Open minded

(6) Healthy morals

(7) Values confidentiality

(8) Adventuresome traveler

(9) Diplomatic

(10) Empathetic

(10.5) Has a pulse :) <--as you age you'll appreciate that one going up the list!

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Here's my 100% honest list in no real order except for #1

 

1. Attractive to me

2. Intelligent

3. Friendly, sweet

4. Emotionally stable and relaxed

5. Loyal

6. High sex drive

7. Loves to dance

8. Adores me but is able to stand up for herself

9. Common interests and hobbies

10. No serious major flaws like drugs, drinking, smoking, sleeping around etc.

 

 

That's a really good list!, def put up a few things I would put down! ... Loyal is huge; I totally overrode that word while making my list! lol

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(1) Carries themselves well in public. (people person)

(2) Sense of humor (witty)

(3) Has family roots/values

(4) Charming smile with a glint of sparkle in their eyes.

(5) Open minded

(6) Healthy morals

(7) Values confidentiality

(8) Adventuresome traveler

(9) Diplomatic

(10) Empathetic

(10.5) Has a pulse :) <--as you age you'll appreciate that one going up the list!

 

 

LOVE, LOVE number 4! :love::)

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