Gaeta Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I had a date with a new man Saturday. He was very nice and I enjoyed his company. He said he'd like to see me again and I agreed I would like that as well. After the date he text me his last name and asked if he could get mine. I gave it to him. The following day he gives me a call and he says he found my company's website and he notices that one of my colleagues has the same name as my dog so was there a reason for that. I can't decide if it's funny or creepy lol We have our second date tomorrow. Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I don't think that it's creepy that he checked you out....cuz, now a days - especially with OLD - you don't know who you're dealing with. But not sure about exchanging a lot of personal info after a first date. I mean, who knows if the guy is some weird stalker guy. I heard of a chick who gave a guy her address on the first date and he came over to her place and raped her. There was a time a guy would be able to pick you up at your doorstep without incident...I guess those times are gone Bad thing is, with a simple exchange of your complete name, there is sooooo much that can be searched on the net about you. I do think he should of held off about announcing it to you sooooo soon. I mean, I think we all do some sort of "cyber stalking" when we are dating/interested in someone - but I think it's one of those things we know is happening, but you at the same time don't wanna hear it's happening. Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I don't see the humor here but if you are creeped out by him Googling you, I wouldn't. In this day and age, it's what folks do. I told my ex who I met online that she was free to Google me but she declined and gave the spill on how it was wrong. During our first date, she mentioned where I worked. The thing is, I never told her where I worked before. So, it is too tempting to not Google someone when you can learn something about them. At least he was upfront about it. Link to post Share on other sites
bene Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 It was probably meant as a joke just to make conversation of some piece of information he knows about you. It's difficult to joke if you don't know the other person very well so you can give him benefit of a doubt that he meant well. I wouldn't write him off as creepy yet. Everyone googles their dates these days but I usually try not to mention things that my date hasn't revealed himself because it can come across as too invasive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 I don't mind him googling me. It's getting back to me with a detail like this that I find unusual. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I suppose this could be regarded as a tad creepy but considering women have been known to Google their dates or people they're interested in I'm not sure we can complain too much when the tables are turned on us. Personally, I think his approach was a bit odd but then again perhaps he lacks the ability to filter information. I don't know. I think most people who Google each other keep that info to themselves unless it comes up in polite conversation or there was something worth confronting. I say go with your gut because it's rarely wrong. If you get good vibes from this guy then chalk it up as quirky but if you have any hesitation whatsoever I would hand him the pink slip and move on. At the very least you might want to consider distributing information about yourself in smaller doses just to be safe. Good luck. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I don't mind him googling me. It's getting back to me with a detail like this that I find unusual. Well he definitely doesn't strike me as someone who is good at this. How was the first date? Link to post Share on other sites
sdrawkcaB ssA Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I had a date with a new man Saturday. He was very nice and I enjoyed his company. He said he'd like to see me again and I agreed I would like that as well. After the date he text me his last name and asked if he could get mine. I gave it to him. The following day he gives me a call and he says he found my company's website and he notices that one of my colleagues has the same name as my dog so was there a reason for that. I can't decide if it's funny or creepy lol We have our second date tomorrow. Both... I was talking to my SM the other day. We originally fell in love knowing first name only and no pix. When I asked for her last name which is like a year after, she hesitated and finally told me her maiden name, which was my middle name. She said she was wondering who it was in our convo back when I emailed her, as if someone she knew was playing tricks with her. Since my dummy email account used my first and middle name only. Which looked like her brother's name every time I contacted her with my dummy account. Now having him search online for info, is a double edged sword. If you had shared the company you worked for with him, he probably did a search just to make sure your on the up and up. peeps now these days are internet savvy and don't think of doing searches as being intrusive to ones privacy. You can turn the tables on him by doing a check on him and randomly sending bits of info on himself that he has not shared. But that is more destructive than allowing trust. Gosh, what am I doing telling you how to go about this or that! Cripes! You probably already have things sorted and such as it is for him. hehehehe! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 22, 2014 Author Share Posted September 22, 2014 Well he definitely doesn't strike me as someone who is good at this. How was the first date? Very good date, he was a gentleman from A to Z. He calls and text a lot, he's a little smitten. Link to post Share on other sites
Fondue Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I'd be a little creeped out. I don't care about people googling me... But if I received a message about some detail they found about me (even be it quirky like your's did), I'd still be a bit gooned out. If whatever you find on me doesn't freak you out (I don't think there is anything, actually), then I'd rather not know about it. I don't want to know you were cautious and skeptical. That would make ME skeptical. I would be second guessing YOU. Link to post Share on other sites
Jules Dash Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Very good date, he was a gentleman from A to Z. He calls and text a lot, he's a little smitten. Well this is good. He probably did this as some quirky way of trying to impress you by showing you how interested he is in you. I would just put it in the back of my mind and keep dating him. With today's technology such as Google and OLD, it is easy to dismiss someone for something like this but I would give him the benefit of the doubt considering he did such a strong showing in the gentleman department. Link to post Share on other sites
Haydn Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Funny..........If you think he is smitten then all good? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Neither. Awkward would be a better description. He's showing imitative that he likes you which is good. He's going about it in a way that is less than smooth but I think it's sincere & with good intentions. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
heartshaped Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I would be concerned. He's smitten already, after one date mind you, is requesting personal information, and then, wants to know whether there's a reason your dog and your co-worker have the same name?.... Yeah. I'd probably next him or at the least, be cautious. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 You could tell him it was because you were banging your coworker, it didn't work out and he gave you the dog as a remembrance to what could have been I don't think it was creepy... just odd... After he said it he probably was kicking himself for saying it because he knew it was odd... I say you google him... come up with something odd to ask him.. like what is his handle doing posting on a porn site 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Maleficent Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 I had a date with a new man Saturday. He was very nice and I enjoyed his company. He said he'd like to see me again and I agreed I would like that as well. After the date he text me his last name and asked if he could get mine. I gave it to him. The following day he gives me a call and he says he found my company's website and he notices that one of my colleagues has the same name as my dog so was there a reason for that. I can't decide if it's funny or creepy lol We have our second date tomorrow. This is the kind of thing that would be creepy if you were not interested in the guy, but cute/funny if you are interested. That being said, I'm sure not a lot of people never googled the name of their potential future partners, so there. lol 1 Link to post Share on other sites
moie Posted September 22, 2014 Share Posted September 22, 2014 Hey I also did "creepy" things like this before. I meant no harm and was just trying to be unique, act like a smart ass. Your date on the other hand might not be. You need to address this with him or keep an eye on this before he does any other creepy things. There are definitely lines that can be crossed with his approach. Just be careful. What is his job anyways, is he in IT, or investigator type of guy. If so then this might his norm. Maybe he is too shy like I was. There are a lot of questions. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 23, 2014 Author Share Posted September 23, 2014 What is his job anyways, is he in IT, or investigator type of guy. If so then this might his norm. Maybe he is too shy like I was. There are a lot of questions. He's a nurse. I spoke about a nurse on here before but it's not the same man. Just a coincidence this man is a nurse too. Last night we were talking on the phone and he goes: I see you are an executive on your condominium committee. I go WHAT! Where do you see that?? and he said by googling my name and address. I went on google and googled myself in many different ways and was never able to get the info he's seeing. I said GEEZ my entire life is on google! He said yep! it's all on Internet. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 just so you know.. you have to go to your "states secretary of state" website and search through the corporate filings in order to pull up your condominium committee filing....those are NOT in google. IMO... he is going too far.. it might be time to put the breaks on and tell him he has gone too far and tell him to eff off... can you really trust someone who does this kind of search on someone they just met and then uses it as conversation... No would be my answer Red Flag a waving....IMO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
rana-rana Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I had a date with a new man Saturday. He was very nice and I enjoyed his company. He said he'd like to see me again and I agreed I would like that as well. After the date he text me his last name and asked if he could get mine. I gave it to him. The following day he gives me a call and he says he found my company's website and he notices that one of my colleagues has the same name as my dog so was there a reason for that. I can't decide if it's funny or creepy lol We have our second date tomorrow. Uh-uh mami sounds like he's looking u up BIGTIME. I would see what he does on date # 2 and if he's type weird just dead it right there. Be safe! Link to post Share on other sites
Crila16 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 He probably did really google your name (Everyone does it). He just said it out loud. I think it's funny. If your dog's name is fluffy...it's even funnier. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Gaeta Posted September 23, 2014 Author Share Posted September 23, 2014 I forgot to mention something that may explain his curiosity. His last relationship, he came home and she had left with everything without warning. Link to post Share on other sites
Crila16 Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 So...I've had guys do the same to me. It's just called dating horrible, selfish people. Anyway...just date this guy and after a couple of dates, you'll understand if it's his humor or if he's just cray cray. It's going to be hard for us to know for sure, because we've never met him. Link to post Share on other sites
heartshaped Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 Can I just put in my vote for crazy and get credit for calling it at a later date when you realize he is crazy? But seriously, I think this is a red flag now. He's looking up too much personal information. Googling your name maybe I could see, but googling your name and address? Making a second odd comment about what he's found as well? And that story about his ex leaving with no warning is off putting as well. There's two sides to every story and all that story does is make me wonder what was so wrong with him that she felt she had to leave unexpectedly with no warning? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted September 23, 2014 Share Posted September 23, 2014 I forgot to mention something that may explain his curiosity. His last relationship, he came home and she had left with everything without warning. That doesn't explain his curiosity.... That might explain why he doesn't trust you though... why burden yourself with having to prove your trust to someone you don't know yet.. He stepped way over the line IMO when he started going to sites other than google.. state run sites and entering your name in those search boxes. You haven't a clue what else he has done in his background check of you.. You don't even know him and he doesn't even know you yet.. but he knows way more about you than he should and he seems to be pleased to tell you.. another red flag... to me.. google is one thing.. but when it goes past that....Run... Link to post Share on other sites
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