Darren2013 Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 Is lying always a deal-breaker in relationships? Even if it is a small white lie. I have a habit of telling white lies all the time. Like if a woman asks me what I ate for lunch I would tell her I ate at Burger King when I really ate at Mcdonalds. In some of my past relationships the woman would catch me in this kind of lie but stayed with me anyway for awhile. I don't lie about big things but I do lie about insignificant stuff all the time about what I ate for lunch. Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 It's a deal breaker for me. If I can't count on his word to be true - then I have nothing but lies as the basis or foundation. And a foundation built on lies isn't worth building upon. Have you read the four agreements by Ruiz? It may help you. Link to post Share on other sites
irresolute Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 Is lying always a deal-breaker in relationships? Even if it is a small white lie. I have a habit of telling white lies all the time. Like if a woman asks me what I ate for lunch I would tell her I ate at Burger King when I really ate at Mcdonalds. In some of my past relationships the woman would catch me in this kind of lie but stayed with me anyway for awhile. I don't lie about big things but I do lie about insignificant stuff all the time about what I ate for lunch. Are you the one with erection problems? Are you being take care about your previous issue? Now you are a liar... oh well Darren, you are a jewel of a man. so, the woman stayed with you besides you lied to her and besides you could'nt have sex with her? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 Deal breaker....I can't stand people who lie in general. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
todreaminblue Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 sounds compulsive you lie about things even it has no effect if you tell the truth or not....deb Link to post Share on other sites
evanescentworld Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 Lying is False Speech. False Speech is a sign of a False person. if you cannot be trusted when you speak, you can never be trusted any other time either. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted August 30, 2014 Share Posted August 30, 2014 (edited) I don't lie about big things but I do lie about insignificant stuff all the time about what I ate for lunch. How most people look at it is: if s/he's going to lie about something THAT bloody stupid and unimportant and ridiculous...than what ELSE will s/he lie about??? Do you have any idea what is or might be motivating, driving you to lie about what you had for lunch...especially when the difference is along the lines of BK vs. McD's??? Edited August 30, 2014 by Ronni_W spelling 3 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 If he'd need to lie about something, he either doesn't trust me or hides something from me. Definitely nothing for a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
central Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 First of all, that wasn't a white lie, it was a selfish lie, and not acceptable. Everyone lies, but most are white lies which are just social lubricants to prevent hurt feelings, things on the order of "No, you don't look fat in those jeans" or "I like your new haircut." Link to post Share on other sites
Shepp Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 Yeah. ESPECIALLY stupid lies! I can understand the motivation behind some lies like shielding people you love or whatever but lies that destroy any trust for zero reason - unforgivable. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
OffRail Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 Is lying always a deal-breaker in relationships? Even if it is a small white lie. I have a habit of telling white lies all the time. Like if a woman asks me what I ate for lunch I would tell her I ate at Burger King when I really ate at Mcdonalds. In some of my past relationships the woman would catch me in this kind of lie but stayed with me anyway for awhile. I don't lie about big things but I do lie about insignificant stuff all the time about what I ate for lunch. One of the red flags that you are dealing with a sociopath is that they routinely lie, and usually about stuff that does *not* matter one bit. I am not saying that you are a sociopath, of course, but that is how you will eventually appear to people if you keep lying about silly stuff like where you ate lunch ! What the hell kind of difference does it make if you ate at Burger King or MacDonalds of Carl's JR ? Even if she does not think you are a ticking time bomb, at the very least she is going to think that she cannot trust you a bit. I mean, if you can lie about silly, insignificant stuff like lunch, what pretty significantly important stuff are you fibbing about ? Maybe you have a wife somewhere but claiming to be single ? Catch my point ? Link to post Share on other sites
writergal Posted August 31, 2014 Share Posted August 31, 2014 Lying is definitely a deal breaker for me, no matter what the lie is about. Lying is THE worst kind of betrayal of trust that there is. I would never trust a liar again no matter what. People who lie are cowards. Link to post Share on other sites
BetrayedH Posted September 1, 2014 Share Posted September 1, 2014 I have no interest in having a "partner" who easily lies to me. Link to post Share on other sites
OwMyEyeball Posted September 1, 2014 Share Posted September 1, 2014 Why do you tell these kind of lies in the first place? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Share Posted September 1, 2014 I don't know why I do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Darren2013 Posted September 1, 2014 Author Share Posted September 1, 2014 Sometimes I will lie about shoplifting when I was a teenager when I never really did. Link to post Share on other sites
OffRail Posted September 1, 2014 Share Posted September 1, 2014 Sometimes I will lie about shoplifting when I was a teenager when I never really did. You need help. It is not normal to claim to have committed crimes that you did not do. Please seek help first for your problems -- dating and relationships and all that stuff can wait. Your mental health / well-being should be your top priority for now ! Link to post Share on other sites
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