WhiskeyJack Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 I'm just curious what the clues would be to indicate that your date is only looking for sex? Will people continue to go on dates with you in the hopes of just getting sex, then bailing? Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 Nowadays most are pretty open about it or do fish around with conversation to see if you are on board or what you are looking for. Are your dates bailing on you? It may not have anything to do with wanting just sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Author WhiskeyJack Posted August 1, 2014 Author Share Posted August 1, 2014 I'm just getting into dating again and not a one night stand person. So I have a rule on how many dates with one person that I'll wait for sex. I just want to make sure that I'm aware of actions that indicated they just want me for sex so I can save myself the time and effort. Link to post Share on other sites
MuffMan6969 Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 Im curious on what is your "rule" before you have sex? I can understand that you are not a "one night" stand person, but if you spend the night together and have sex again the next "morning" it really wouldnt be a one "night" thing. Go have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 I don't think a "rule" is a good idea. Better to just go with your gut. Do it when it feels right. Ask questions, listen to his responses as well as watching his actions and body language. This is a better way to determine someone's intentions than sticking to some rule or other. Link to post Share on other sites
sillyanswer Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 I'm just curious what the clues would be to indicate that your date is only looking for sex? Will people continue to go on dates with you in the hopes of just getting sex, then bailing? If he's more interested in late night dates that start at your house and less interested in a daytime date in a public place then the signs aren't good, but I don't think there's a universally definitive set of clues. Even hindsight doesn't help, because even when a guy bails "after sex" you can't tell if "because he got sex" was the reason (although it seems that many people assume this). 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author WhiskeyJack Posted August 1, 2014 Author Share Posted August 1, 2014 Thanks everyone for the responses. My *rule* isn't a "I'll wait x amount of dates before" kind of thing. It's just more of a "get to know the guy and feel comfortable" kind of rule. I'll start looking at his behaviours and just relax about it. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
hasaquestion Posted August 1, 2014 Share Posted August 1, 2014 Eh. Lots of guys don't even know themselves what they want at the beginning. Its an inherently risky business. Not to be depressing or anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 3, 2014 Share Posted August 3, 2014 Just go by their actions, pretty simple. A serious guy is willing to invest his time, and make effort to see you, talk to you, introduce you to friends, family, etc. and doesn't push for sex, basically is following your actions instead. Link to post Share on other sites
AnneT1985 Posted August 4, 2014 Share Posted August 4, 2014 I have found most people are upfront about this sort of thing right away. You will know quickly I am sure. Best of luck to you! xx Link to post Share on other sites
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