jinandjuice Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Had multiple dates with a girl. Usually she comes over to my house. I invited her over tonight and she said she would after she got done showering and eating dinner. She texted me a 1.5 hrs later and told me to come to her apartment because her roommates keep talking to her over (they were on break and finally all saw each other). I called her and told her if she is a good girl I would give her some sweets if she came and she said ok ill come. She texted me a hour later (btw it is now around 12:30) and said we we'll just watch a movie or something tomorrow still talking to my room mates. She has really never flaked on me but is she losing interest? I told her to let me know tomorrow and she said she would. Should I wait for her to text or call me or should I hit her up tomorrow asking what time shes coming over? She is a forgetful person. Link to post Share on other sites
winny Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Just text her tomorrow normally. Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Home visits aren't really "dates." Sounds like you need to step up your game, or at least head to her place some of the time. I mean, it depends on what she wants out of this relationship, but if a "relationship" (rather than just a series of hookups) is what she wants, she will probably lose interest soon if all you guys do is hang out at your place. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jinandjuice Posted January 8, 2014 Author Share Posted January 8, 2014 Home visits aren't really "dates." Sounds like you need to step up your game, or at least head to her place some of the time. I mean, it depends on what she wants out of this relationship, but if a "relationship" (rather than just a series of hookups) is what she wants, she will probably lose interest soon if all you guys do is hang out at your place. i have taken her out on dates : dancing, dinnner all that. but since tonight was late and a school night (it was a last minute thing) i just suggested she comes over. Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 That's good. How about you text her tomorrow with a movie suggestion... take her out and show her some romance, and you may recapture her interest (and get her back to your place after). Link to post Share on other sites
Author jinandjuice Posted January 8, 2014 Author Share Posted January 8, 2014 That's good. How about you text her tomorrow with a movie suggestion... take her out and show her some romance, and you may recapture her interest (and get her back to your place after). haha you think i should text her even though I told her to let me know? i usually iniate all the dates. but "getting back to my place" is key lol and what are some cool date ideas lol. I am kind of running out but so far i have done the dinners, amusment parks, clubbing etc. p.s its freezing outside so probably nothing outdoorsy Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Just go to a different restaurant. there are only so many "date" ideas. Link to post Share on other sites
ae86drift Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Text her said hey how are you? if she don't reply give her time otherwise she think your a creep and move on haha Link to post Share on other sites
deathandtaxes Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 Why didn't you go over to her place when she suggested it? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted January 8, 2014 Share Posted January 8, 2014 haha you think i should text her even though I told her to let me know? i usually iniate all the dates. but "getting back to my place" is key lol I think she ha figured this bit out. If she didn't come running then it wasn't that tempting for her - and clearly not above an evening having fun with her friends. If she is bored then she will be back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jinandjuice Posted January 8, 2014 Author Share Posted January 8, 2014 Why didn't you go over to her place when she suggested it? i should've . didn't want to be a doormat to be honest. probably stupid way of thinking. and plus her room mate was there and i wanted intimate time with her Link to post Share on other sites
nescafe1982 Posted January 9, 2014 Share Posted January 9, 2014 i should've . didn't want to be a doormat to be honest. probably stupid way of thinking. and plus her room mate was there and i wanted intimate time with her I would focus less on playing games like this, and invest some more effort in genuinely conveying your interest through setting up quality dates. Women do not generally respond well to being treated like a booty call... especially if you read putting in some effort yourself as "being a doormat." Are you interested in a relationship with this woman? It sounds a bit like you just want easy sex. She may be pulling back because she feels like that's all you're after. When I was dating, I would similarly pull away from men who did not exhibit enough effort or interest in me.... sort of like "why bother?" 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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