21st April 2004, 1:19 AM
Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: West Coast
It depends on the guy, I think. If he's a pretty gregarious guy, I think the above test will definitely work.
But if he's insecure and unsure of himself, it's a bit of a crapshoot. I'm taking this from my own actions -- insecure guys will second-guess to no end. We'll second guess our own second-guesses.
It can be tricky to differentiate attraction in our terms from mild mental disorders. But a few of the following I've noticed are things I do on a regular basis when a girl I am attracted to is around.
1.) When a girl we're attracted to is near, we get jumpy. We'll respond way too fast to questions.
"Hi, Tom, how are you doi-"
2.) If the girl comes very near to us, we'll switch back and forth at a rapid rate between thinking that she's coming onto us and reprimanding ourselves for wishful thinking. The physical result is that we won't withdraw at first and might even try to test the waters by getting a little closer, but then we'll abruptly distance ourselves a little. We repeat as necessary.
3.) Jokes. These are the desperate man's weapon of choice. If we think we have a chance at getting a laugh, we will barrage the subject of our affection with a ridiculous amount of attempts at humor. Look for volume -- a few jokes aren't necessarily an indicator of attraction, but a lot of them can be.
This is mostly pulled from my own experience as an insecure guy in love -- these may not be universal. But I think if the guy who you're trying to gauge is a little unsure of himself, these things will show up.
"All your life you live so close to truth, it becomes a permanent blur in the corner of your eye."
- Tom Stoppard