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:confused: Boyfriend doesn't want me kissing him in front of his guy friend


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:confused:.I have been dating my current boyfriend for 4 months, we are both 22 and have known each other since we were 15. As well as I am very much in love with him and all. The thing is I was talking to him on the phone tonight and he told me I could no longer kiss/ make- out with him in front of his guy friend. What should I do about this?

 

Along with we have been only 4 months in a relationship and he asks me to get an apartment with him next summer. Is that rushing into things? What should I do?

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Well, as far as the "kissing/making out" in front of your boyfriend's guy friend, maybe this person feels jealous b/c he's under the impression that his girlfriend (you) is getting more attention than him (the guy friend). Maybe this "friend" just feels awkward - maybe like the "third wheel" if this guy friend doesn't have a girlfriend. From my past experience, when I'm with a friend, if they were with their boyfriend and start making out, I would begin to feel awkward and wanted to leave; I would rather spend some quality time with my friend than watch her "express her love," with her boyfriend. But hey, it's just my opinion, and there are probably some people who don't feel as strongly about this issue as me.

 

I think it is very wise of your boyfriend to ask him to move with him into an apartment. Granted, the relationship is young, but you have know your boyfriend for a long time. He's trying to test the relationship - afterall, many say that you don't really know a person until you have lived with them. Many couples today rush into marriage and end divorce quickly b/c they fight over "little" things (i.e. annoying habits, finances, schedules, etc.). In other words, he wants to see the possibility of whether your relationship is strong enough for marriage. It's a big step, so if you feel uneasy about moving in with your boyfriend, talk to him.

 

Remember, relationships can't work unless both of you are on the same "page."

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Thanks for the advice. I can now understand now why my boyfriend is telling me this. His guy friend does not have a girlfriend and jealously does come into play. Just wanted advice from someone who does not know us. Since I know my friends or family would tell me to stop being a worry wart. Now, I will respect my boyfriend and his friend, meaning I will back off it till his friend gets a girlfriend.

 

I have discussed with him already about us moving in together. Part of me is excited and part of me is so nervous. Since I have never slept with a guy before as well as never REALLY been on my own. I am worried my parents will not like the idea, because I have CP ( along with being 22) causes them to be very.....very protective of me. Though they have to see their little girl has grown up. Oh well!

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His guy friend does not have a girlfriend and jealously does come into play.
I would be very careful about overanalyzing this. Not very many people are actually comfortable watching their friends make out. I'd limit it to a peck on the cheek goodbye when you're around your guy's guy friends. It's more of a matter of personal limits and respect for the other person than anything. I have a boyfriend that I am completely and totally in love with. I still don't like watching my friends make out in public.

 

It's gross.

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Thanks for the advice. I will follow your advice. As well as I do take things way too serious sometimes. I am very much in love with my boyfriend and will respect him. :-)

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Originally posted by abbyroadme I am very much in love with my boyfriend and will respect him. :-)
Haha, I meant that you should probably respect his friend. I'm sure you respect your boyfriend! It's nice to read on this board, about people who are sweetly in love...after reading all of the cheating stories and all of the porn nonsense. I understand how you feel. Sometimes I just want to take my boyfriend's face in my hands and kiss him all over, but I refrain from doing so in front of his friends and his family, lol.
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LOL!! I mean respect everyone else. :-) I agree with you about wanting to kiss my boyfriend like crazy. As well as there is all porn and stuff talk on this board. :-)

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I'm a girl, and I'm not into public displays of affection myself. The most I'll do with my boyfriend with an audience around is hug him. I save the kissing for private. :) I'm not comfortable around my friends if they are kissing other people in front of me.

 

As far as moving in with you bf. . . that's up to you. I'd wait about a year or two into the relationship before I'd consider moving in with anyone. Best of luck, whatever you decide to do!

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Thank for the advice. I think that is one thing my boyfriend is shy about. Public affection when his friend is around. Though when his friend is not there. We kiss a lot and I mean a lot!

 

By the time we move into together, it will be a year and half relationship. I told him, I will think about it. We are only four months in.....anything can happen.

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