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Im afraid to fall in love again


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So im 21 and I have this girlfriend that I have been with for a month now and things have gone great we already had sex and we have serious feeling for each other she is always telling me that she likes me so much and wishes she could always be with me.this morning she told me that she is falling in love with me and I told her the same but she said it first. I have never been with such a sweet girl who always wants to kiss and tells me everything I want to hear the way she does. The problem now is that my last girlfriend left me scarred because I fell for her and she broke my heart and I got drunk for three days straight and felt like my life didnt matter anymore I was really messed up for a while. I really am falling in love with this girl, now im not a clingy person I act normal in the relationship and dont bother the girl too much I feel like I am doing things right in the relationship. But she lives about 40 minutes from my city and she works a lot and I only work part time so I dont get to see her much,maybe once or twice a week. but now that things are perfect I want to break up because I am afraid to love her even more, I feel like if maybe I run and just drink for a couple days to cover the pain perhaps the hurt wont be so bad than if I go on and get heart broken later on. I am terrified of loving again. because right when im the happiest everything goes down. I am a normal guy who works and goes to college no strings attached and I show self confidence around people but deep down inside I feel like nobody will ever really love me and that everything my girl tells me is too good to be true. another problem is that she is going to mexico in december for 2 months and she is really popular in her hometown and I know that even though she tells me she wouldnt cheat on me I know she will. so what should I do? should I take a chance on her? because right now I just want to run away and start dating temporarily forever :(

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Just block the feelings out of your head

put your thoughts and engery towards something else... Like right now instead of being on LS, go watch porn.

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Just block the feelings out of your head

put your thoughts and engery towards something else... Like right now instead of being on LS, go watch porn.

 

Each time you post, I begin to fall in love with you:p

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from an old fart who never really believed in the guy-girl thing until I met the man I married: Yeah, it's scary as shxt, but loving someone is the biggest, best leap of faith you will ever make, because then you see just how big your heart is.

 

if she breaks it, celebrate the fact that you have had the opportunity to love someone. Rejoice in the fact that you loved, even if you're sad about not having the other person still there. Because in the end, loving someone is worth any pain you face because it means you don't have to be afraid anymore.

 

do a runner right now by talking yourself out of giving love a chance, you may as well stay home, avoiding any and every kind of relationship out there because you *might* get hurt. There's a good chance you WILL be hurt, and there's a good chance you WON'T. What's worth more to you?

 

at this point, you need to ask yourself do you want to be part of the problem (being scared, running from love) or the solution (giving your heart and this girl a chance, being happy because you have)?

 

loving someone is never completely easy ... but, oh, the wonderful payoffs involved when you do!

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