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Old 30th July 2012, 9:38 AM   #1
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Do you think cuddling with a friends wife is over the line?

We were hanging out at a summer home me and my friends bought this summer drinking and having a good time all pretty drunk and when i went to the living room my friends wife was cuddling with my other friend who was just divorced and single,he left the room moved to another couch later and then she went up to him again and put her head on his shoulder and chest and put her feet on his feet

Her husband was awake in a different room the first time and a sleep i think the second time and this girl doesnt have a bad history or anything but do you think thats inappropriate behavior even while drunk?

Or just a friendly effection thing if people dont take it too far?

My friend she was cuddling with is a good lookign dude and while she proably wouldnt do anyhtign i noticed most women flock to the same few guys and maybe this was her moment of weakness since women cant control themsvles around guys they think are good looking and charismatic when there drunk or maybe she was just showing effection because they never were great friends till we moved to this new summer home and they became more close friendship wise?

I know she mentions she loves cuddling and wanted to cuddle with me a few weeks ago so maybe its just her way of showing effection plus she was drunk as hell so maybe it meant nothing and she forgot she even did it?
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Old 30th July 2012, 9:40 AM   #2
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It means you need to tell your friend.


I was married and it wasn't even going well and I wouldn't have done this.
It's wrong.
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Old 30th July 2012, 9:45 AM   #3
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It means you need to tell your friend.


I was married and it wasn't even going well and I wouldn't have done this.
It's wrong.
My friend is also good friends for a long time with the guy she cuddled with it wasnt a stranger plus she put her arms around him in frotn of her husband so if she mant anyhting bad by it wouldnt she try to be more sneakier?

she was really drunk that night hugging everyone putting her arms around them i dont think she meant anything by it she gets effectionate,she asked me to cuddle with her a few times and shes like my little sister and i know she would never do anything with me

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Old 30th July 2012, 10:33 AM   #4
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It was on the couch in a room with a few people not in a bed alone and as i said she was being effectionate with him putting her arms around him before in front of her husband so if she had any hidden agendas she would be more sneaky about it no?
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Old 30th July 2012, 11:51 AM   #5
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If her husband was around and didnt complain i dont see the big deal

If it was a hidden agenda to sleep with his friend she wouldnt be so blatant about it she would be more discreet no?

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Old 30th July 2012, 12:13 PM   #6
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My friend is also good friends for a long time with the guy she cuddled with it wasnt a stranger plus she put her arms around him in frotn of her husband so if she mant anyhting bad by it wouldnt she try to be more sneakier?

she was really drunk that night hugging everyone putting her arms around them i dont think she meant anything by it she gets effectionate,she asked me to cuddle with her a few times and shes like my little sister and i know she would never do anything with me
So the husband and the guy she cuddled with are "good friends"? All the more reason to tell the dude. God forbid i have as "good friends" as that one...
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Old 30th July 2012, 12:20 PM   #7
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So the husband and the guy she cuddled with are "good friends"? All the more reason to tell the dude. God forbid i have as "good friends" as that one...
Hes my good friend also and he told me later that he felt awkward and thats why he evnetually left he didnt touch her at all

He ddint think she had bad intentions either it was just that he didnt want our friend whos the girls husband to take it the wrong way
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Old 30th July 2012, 12:34 PM   #8
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If the husband was in the room while this was going on, it wouldn't be a big deal because he would have made it clear that it either bothered him or it didn't. Since he was unaware -- not a good thing for the wife to do.
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Old 30th July 2012, 1:18 PM   #9
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If the husband was in the room while this was going on, it wouldn't be a big deal because he would have made it clear that it either bothered him or it didn't. Since he was unaware -- not a good thing for the wife to do.
I agree it may be inaapropriate but since the op said the husband was around my guess is she didnt have any bad intentions or shed be more discreet
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Old 30th July 2012, 1:22 PM   #10
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This happened tome once when we rented a summer house me and my friends wife bonded and she said she was always physically attracted to me but now i mad her laugh and we formed a connection in her mind and she got over flirtatious

I think women have this weird thing where if you make them laugh and they think its a dep connection and their physically attracted to you almost any women would be tempted to cheat add in alcohol which women cant control either and its a recipe for disaster

My guess is she always wanted to f his friedn and alcohol and a connection made those feelings stronger
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Old 30th July 2012, 1:48 PM   #11
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hell yeah that's inappropriate, but if your friend doesn't care then whatever I guess...he's either whipped or their boundaries are a lot more open than mine would be.
personally, I love to cuddle too, but not with my friends. With my boyfriend.
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Old 30th July 2012, 1:50 PM   #12
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No, I don't think it's appropriate.

But it's also not your place to tell the husband about this. You're welcome to tell him if you felt uncomfortable when she tried to cuddle with you, since that's a situation that involves you.

If you and your friend both have concerns for him and decide you want to talk to him about his wife together, only then should you tell him of the situation with your friend.

But you can't approach him accusing his wife of wrong doing (you don't know her intentions). You have to look take the perspective that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't want to compromise your friendship with a misunderstanding, so you want to know how he'd prefer you to handle those situations. You make him aware of her behavior, but you're not accusing her of anything.

That's the way that's least likely to make him angry. But it's not guaranteed that he won't be. He might be pissed. Or he might tell her and she'll be pissed.
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Old 30th July 2012, 2:09 PM   #13
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Something is seriously wrong with the situation. Actually at least two things:

The wife cuddling with another guy AND the husband not caring!
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Old 30th July 2012, 2:18 PM   #14
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Over the line. What line? Obviously there are no boundaries in place here. More trouble to come.
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Old 30th July 2012, 3:36 PM   #15
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Over the line. What line? Obviously there are no boundaries in place here. More trouble to come.
To be fair her husband was outside but didnt see it if he did he would proably be angry

I agree its inaproporate my only point is knowing her i doubt she was trying to do anything more with my friend she wouldnt cheat she was just acting weird because she was hammered

I just think its a stretch to say shes wants to have sex with the guy because she cuuddled with him drunk,she wanted to cuddle with me and where like brothers and sisters i know shed never try anything
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