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Old 26th May 2011, 7:37 PM   #1
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My Boyfriend has a Foot Fetish...

Hey! Just looking for some insight and experiences from others who can relate. I just found out recently that my bf has a foot fetish. We've been together for a little while, but he just told me recently. I never even knew that there was such a thing! I've been trying to find out more about it and it seems pretty normal, but I don't know how to turn him on and work this into our intimate activities. Apparently he likes the bottoms of my feet and my cheer shoes and sneakers, if that helps!
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My ex-boyfriend had a foot fetish and I loved it! It's actually pretty wonderful to be dating a guy with a foot fetish.

Ask him what he likes. Most guys with a foot fetish will get super turned on just by kissing your feet, sucking your toes, rubbing your feet, and rubbing your feet against their face. You can also rub their penises with your feet some and try to give them a foot job (although I was never quite able to figure that out.) Or try to pick things up with your feet (I think at least some of them like this.) And yes, they usually are focused on the bottom of the feet. That seems to be their favorite part.

Anyway, like I said, ask him what he likes because there are many different things within the foot fetish community that different men like. My ex liked cleaning my feet and also tickling them. In fact, tickling them turned him on more than anything. He'd get insane and start f-ing me really hard after just a short period of tickling. Some men like foot worship, where they just tell your feet they are beautiful and lick and kiss them a lot and sometimes you degrade them. Some men like how you look in heels, stockings, boots, or other shoes. Some men like when your feet are dirty or smelly even. Some like certain types of nail polish or no nail polish. Some like jewelry. All kinds of things! Just ask him.

Anyway, congratulations on getting a guy with a foot fetish. I, personally, think this is one of the most awesome fetishes a boyfriend can have. LOL. My ex liked to buy me expensive shoes, pedicures, and foot jewelry because he wanted to treat my feet like they belonged to a Princess. And whenever I wanted a foot rub after a long day, he'd happily oblige me. Can't say the same about my current boyfriend, but he has different things about him that make him special.
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Old 27th May 2011, 12:26 AM   #3
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my ex also had that lol, he likes red toe nail polish. he also likes massaging my foot, seeing them in cute or sexy shoes/sandals.
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my ex also had that lol, he likes red toe nail polish. he also likes massaging my foot, seeing them in cute or sexy shoes/sandals.
yea yea i like that too *salivates*
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I've been with two guys with mild to moderate foot fetishes -- and yes, they were the more submissive ones with mean mommies.

The first one would ask me EVERY SINGLE NIGHT before bed if I wanted a foot rub. I was so naive, it took me years to figure out why. I would say yes about half the time, and he was always a little disappointed when I said no.

The other one found and read this in-depth article online about how to give a spa-style pedicure. Then he did the whole shebang -- washed and pumiced my feet while I was in the bath, clipped my toenails, gave me a hot oil foot rub, washed the nails, applied base coat and two layers of polish, then took pictures. Then took me to bed and totally devoured me.

I thought it was pretty over the top, but hey, I'll happily sit back, enjoy, and indulge a harmless fantasy.
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I enjoy doing pedicures (and did on my exW) and giving foot baths as a special treat but it's not a sexually arousing event. That defines the difference, for me anyway. It's loving but not sexual. For fetishists, it's very sexual.

OP, see how he is with stockings and heels. Foot fetishists often like the objects of their desire 'dressed' and 'contained'. When you're going to a restaurant, wear hose and heels and, under the table, play with his crotch with one of your feet, de-heeled.

Have fun!
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I have a mild foot fetish which involves a woman walking on my back
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My ex-boyfriend had a foot fetish and I loved it! It's actually pretty wonderful to be dating a guy with a foot fetish.

Ask him what he likes. Most guys with a foot fetish will get super turned on just by kissing your feet, sucking your toes, rubbing your feet, and rubbing your feet against their face. You can also rub their penises with your feet some and try to give them a foot job (although I was never quite able to figure that out.) Or try to pick things up with your feet (I think at least some of them like this.) And yes, they usually are focused on the bottom of the feet. That seems to be their favorite part.

Anyway, like I said, ask him what he likes because there are many different things within the foot fetish community that different men like. My ex liked cleaning my feet and also tickling them. In fact, tickling them turned him on more than anything. He'd get insane and start f-ing me really hard after just a short period of tickling. Some men like foot worship, where they just tell your feet they are beautiful and lick and kiss them a lot and sometimes you degrade them. Some men like how you look in heels, stockings, boots, or other shoes. Some men like when your feet are dirty or smelly even. Some like certain types of nail polish or no nail polish. Some like jewelry. All kinds of things! Just ask him.

Anyway, congratulations on getting a guy with a foot fetish. I, personally, think this is one of the most awesome fetishes a boyfriend can have. LOL. My ex liked to buy me expensive shoes, pedicures, and foot jewelry because he wanted to treat my feet like they belonged to a Princess. And whenever I wanted a foot rub after a long day, he'd happily oblige me. Can't say the same about my current boyfriend, but he has different things about him that make him special.
Thank you so much!. That def gives me A LOT to work with! The biggest problem though is that he's so shy about it. He seemed embarrassed when he told me, and I keep telling him that its ok, and not to be embarrassed to tell me stuff like that. Most of what I think I know about his fetish I've figured out by what he does, more than anything. Like I would've assumed that it was more about the toes being painted and things, but he seems to really get turned on by the bottoms. I mean I know I can make sure they are soft for example, but I truly have no idea what to do about the bottoms of my feet lol. I also noticed that he seemed to get more excited by me wearing tennis shoes/cheer shoes like I said. It's interesting that you said some guys like smelly feet, because I pointed out those shoes as being a turn on, and they might be, but usually when I see him and am wearing those shoes, they've been on for a while for exercising, games, etc., and they are probably sweaty, and I imagine he might be enjoying the fact that they are smelly? lol I'm just so lost, but I appreciate all of your insight!
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Old 27th May 2011, 4:17 AM   #10
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Thank you so much!. That def gives me A LOT to work with! The biggest problem though is that he's so shy about it. He seemed embarrassed when he told me, and I keep telling him that its ok, and not to be embarrassed to tell me stuff like that. Most of what I think I know about his fetish I've figured out by what he does, more than anything. Like I would've assumed that it was more about the toes being painted and things, but he seems to really get turned on by the bottoms. I mean I know I can make sure they are soft for example, but I truly have no idea what to do about the bottoms of my feet lol. I also noticed that he seemed to get more excited by me wearing tennis shoes/cheer shoes like I said. It's interesting that you said some guys like smelly feet, because I pointed out those shoes as being a turn on, and they might be, but usually when I see him and am wearing those shoes, they've been on for a while for exercising, games, etc., and they are probably sweaty, and I imagine he might be enjoying the fact that they are smelly? lol I'm just so lost, but I appreciate all of your insight!
I wouldn't assume he likes smelly feet unless he starts sniffing your feet. Or saying something about how their smell turns him on. He just likes how the shoe looks, I think.

Does he watch porn? Ask him to show you some foot fetish porn stuff that he enjoys that way he doesn't have to speak out loud what he likes and can instead show it to you.

And just keep reassuring him that you think his fetish is awesome and that you want to please him through it. Ask him to rub your feet and suck your toes and things and when he does, exclaim to him that it feels awesome and you love when he does those things. Eventually he'll open up to you about it if you make him feel comfortable.

I find it interesting that he's embarrassed. Maybe that's just the nature of having a fetish. I mean, I have one and I don't really like to share it with other people, but I also read that foot fetishes might be caused by sexual repression and embarrassment of sexual desire. My ex was extremely repressed sexually and I read that because feet aren't traditional not viewed as sexual they transfer some of their desire to their. It also helps that feet are curvy, like a woman's body.

Now, all that might not be true. No one really knows what causes fetishes, but its an interesting thought.

Also, he'll probably love it if you make your feet soft. My ex did. =) But he also told me that light callouses are actually attractive because they are natural. I found that interesting.

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I've been with two guys with mild to moderate foot fetishes -- and yes, they were the more submissive ones with mean mommies.
OMG! Seriously, this post freaked me out. XD

Because my ex with the foot fetish had a HUGE bitch for a Mom. She is going to make one of the worst Mother-in-Laws of all time. She was mean to me and constantly critical of everything I did, even going to the point of accusing me of doing bad things behind her back because I was acting too nice. (She found any reason she could to be mad at me.) She called me a slut who stole her son and basically acted like a jealous girlfriend. Her son called her "ma'am", literally never argued with anything she said, and treated her like a queen for fear of her being angry. She was a psychopath and I'm so glad to be rid of her and have the super nice potential mother in law that I have now.

And my ex also had a BDSM fetish and he liked to be in the submissive role, so I'd have to say I agree entirely with this sentence.

Also, related to other things you said, I was pretty stupid about the foot fetish thing too. He used to give me foot rubs all the time and tickle me, but ONLY IN MY FEET and somehow we dated for two years without me figuring it out. LOL. I'm perceptive.

I only figured it out because one day he told my friend that everyone has a fetish and I talked to him privately and said,"I'm not sure that everyone does, but if you think they do, that must mean you have one and I have no idea what it is." I finally got him to admit it to me after a lot of begging. Otherwise I would have never known.
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Am I weird for having no fetishes?

I also have to agree with ruby. My ex bf had a foot fetish. He also had a really weird relationship with his mum. He saw her every day and they were almost TOO close for comfort. She was a huge biatch to me...almost like she was jealous. The icing on the cake was when I found a nude painting that he did of his mother (he was an artist). Either she posed for him or he did it out of his imagination - it was just too creepy for me.
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I knew someone who got really turned on by having her feet tickled. That was fun.
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Officially, a fetish is characterized as any focus which is required to achieve sexual gratification. But paraphilias exist for nearly anything you can imagine and to various degrees.

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Most people do not have an intensely required focus, so you are not weird at all. But in the vernacular "fetish", people tend to be describing a strange paraphilia, and they typically are describing a slight degree of focus. As with foot fetish guys we are talking about, I'm sure they had the ability to get off without feet, but maybe they tend to or are driven to focus on the feet sort of whimsically.

Most people might think it strange to be sexually aroused by feet, but they are an object of focus like breasts, ass, vagina, etc.
I would be willing to bet that you are focused to some degree on something normal. And you might consider that a fetish.

All this is just semantic however.
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I also have to agree with ruby. My ex bf had a foot fetish. He also had a really weird relationship with his mum. He saw her every day and they were almost TOO close for comfort. She was a huge biatch to me...almost like she was jealous. The icing on the cake was when I found a nude painting that he did of his mother (he was an artist). Either she posed for him or he did it out of his imagination - it was just too creepy for me.
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OMG! Seriously, this post freaked me out. XD

Because my ex with the foot fetish had a HUGE bitch for a Mom. She is going to make one of the worst Mother-in-Laws of all time. She was mean to me and constantly critical of everything I did, even going to the point of accusing me of doing bad things behind her back because I was acting too nice. (She found any reason she could to be mad at me.) She called me a slut who stole her son and basically acted like a jealous girlfriend. Her son called her "ma'am", literally never argued with anything she said, and treated her like a queen for fear of her being angry. She was a psychopath and I'm so glad to be rid of her and have the super nice potential mother in law that I have now.
Yes. Getting along with the mother is HUGE. I've been in both scenarios -- crazy, possessive mom who interfered in the relationship constantly in effort to drive me out, and sweet, loving mom who adored me and never interfered. In my experience, the dads are NEVER a problem. They are always cool.

I'm no psychologist, but I think what is going on is that mommy is nuts, usually has no adult male figure in her life, and trains her son to be her stand-in man. Because she is the parent, she has almost total power to manipulate him, and she abuses the power. The son is trained to kiss her ass and adore her, which is obviously very screwed up. Of course, to the son, she's always a saint. Throughout adulthood, they try to recreate this dynamic in a safer way, in the context of an adult romantic relationship. Worshipping feet is a clear way to re-enact the dynamic of the guy being beneath the woman, and working to please her and gain her approval and love.

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I also have to agree with ruby. My ex bf had a foot fetish. He also had a really weird relationship with his mum. He saw her every day and they were almost TOO close for comfort. She was a huge biatch to me...almost like she was jealous. The icing on the cake was when I found a nude painting that he did of his mother (he was an artist). Either she posed for him or he did it out of his imagination - it was just too creepy for me.
Ewwwwwwwwwwwww.

Yeah, I have heard some nauseating stories as well. The main thread has always been an inappropriate degree of physical affection, 'intimacy', and closeness -- the kind a woman should have with a romantic partner, not her son.

One of my exes' moms told him and his brothers in detail about their deceased father's sexual fetishes, painting herself to be the sad victim and their father to be a depraved jerk. They were kids, so of course they took her side and developed negative opinions of men.

One of the biggest turn-offs to me now is a mama's boy. I have been browsing at dating profiles lately, and when any guy mentions his mom in his profile, it's an instant buzz kill. These guys need to cut the cord if they ever want to grow up and have an adult relationship. Mom's sure not going to do it.
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