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Old 21st October 2010, 8:35 AM   #1
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Do women like guys that are natural leaders?

It seems like more and more women these days are going for guys that are strong in the arms but weak in the head. It seems like girls these days are turned off by guys that are what you would call alpha males or people that like to take charge. Im not saying they are controlling, but it seems like girls don't like these guys because they will be harder to manipulate. Do you agree with this?
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It seems like more and more women these days are going for guys that are strong in the arms but weak in the head. It seems like girls these days are turned off by guys that are what you would call alpha males or people that like to take charge. Im not saying they are controlling, but it seems like girls don't like these guys because they will be harder to manipulate. Do you agree with this?
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I don't see this trend at all. I think more women are attracted to men with high intellects and who are leaders. Also, a lot of geeks are considered sexy. But not everyone is going to be a leader and not everyone is going to be attracted to just that type. For me, smart men who know what they want and know how to lead truly get my attention. Men who are in control, opposed to controlling. They're pretty rare, though, if you ask me.

I guess what concerns me about your post is the automatic assumption that women are out to manipulate.
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It seems like more and more women these days are going for guys that are strong in the arms but weak in the head. It seems like girls these days are turned off by guys that are what you would call alpha males or people that like to take charge. Im not saying they are controlling, but it seems like girls don't like these guys because they will be harder to manipulate. Do you agree with this?
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A man who's "weak in the head" is NOT a natural leader.
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A man who's "weak in the head" is NOT a natural leader.
Very much agreed. "Strong in the head" is generally a more desirable male trait for desirable women (if that makes sense)...
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Yes, Men as a whole are better decsion makers and leaders

Women are too emotional and not logical enough to lead and be the main decision maker in a relationship

Ask a women what she wants to eat and youll sit there an hour as she ponders aimlessly
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Yes,Men as a whole are better decsion makers and leaders

Women are too emtional and not logical enough to lead and be the main decision maker in a relationship

Ask a women what she wants to eat and youll sit there an hour as she ponders aimlessly
Yes... just as that was a 'logical' statement rather than an 'emotional' one...
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Yes... just as that was a 'logical' statement rather than an 'emotional' one...
It was logical,why do you think women want Men to lead?

Because were better at it

Unless you want to tell me its just laziness
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It was logical,why do you think women want Men to lead?

Because were better at it

Unless you want to tell me its just laziness
Remember that conversation in that other thread where we were talking about how much it turns a woman on when her man is more dominant, because then she feels like her man's delicate flower for whom he'll protect and provide? Yeah. It's that. Not because a woman CAN'T take care of herself, but because it makes her feel secure and cherished when she feels that she doesn't HAVE to.
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A LS lady who was married to a successful and wealthy business owner said he was 'strong' in the business but 'weak' at home, which I took to mean weak emotionally, in the relationship. Any relevance here? Perhaps 'strength' is situational. If I understood her correctly, she liked that dynamic because she was the 'stronger' personality at home. I'm unclear on the health of all of that but hey whatever works (or not, in their case).

IME, I've only met a very few 'natural leaders' who weren't very charismatic with the ladies. By that I mean men who run businesses, work in politics, manage charities and similar, managing or leading large groups of people.

Also, IME, one will find very few straight males who are immune to the 'influence' of female allure and affection. Some are more resistant than others to manipulation, but the potential is nearly always there. It just takes a woman with the right 'skills'.
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Remember that conversation in that other thread where we were talking about how much it turns a woman on when her man is more dominant, because then she feels like her man's delicate flower for whom he'll protect and provide? Yeah. It's that. Not because a woman CAN'T take care of herself, but because it makes her feel secure and cherished when she feels that she doesn't HAVE to.
So its laziness
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There are some women who want to be lead around and be submissive. If both partners are happy with that more power to them but it is not for me and these kind of women tend to make everything a big test. Most healthy women though don't want to be a man's mother anymore than I want to be a woman's father. The best relationships are equal ones between two healthy adults.
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So its laziness
You're either jerking my chain or you don't actually KNOW any women...
A women who leans towards more traditional gender dynamics in a relationship will generally expend a lot of energy in caring for the emotional needs of her man. She might help him out around the house or support his work in some way - just because she doesn't want to shove him around like a drill sergeant does NOT mean she's lazy. Are you actually attracted to WOMEN, or rather men with a particular set of genitalia?
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There are some women who want to be lead around and be submissive. If both partners are happy with that more power to them but it is not for me and these kind of women tend to make everything a big test. Most healthy women though don't want to be a man's mother anymore than I want to be a woman's father. The best relationships are equal ones between two healthy adults.
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