jerbear Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 Well it has been awhile since I started a thread. Went on a date Friday night and well at the end of the night she mentioned she'll call me. Well... she was the passive one letting me lead and walking behind me one. Well I got an email from her saying she prefers email contact and asked if I'm going to a party later this week. I don't think I made an good impression. And I did tentatively plan two things party night. I told her I might be there since I have events almost every night this week and might be out of town that night. ( I do have friends out of town and I visit them often) Oh well... back to others. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 2, 2009 Author Share Posted December 2, 2009 I think this week is just a bad week! Crashed and burned then I get a cold, flu like symptoms, and now a headache. Even got an email from the date saying it was fun but not going to work. Talk about a bad week and day! Link to post Share on other sites
New Again Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 But it's only Tuesday!! Plenty of time to turn into a better week! Sorry you feel junky Feel better soon. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 Hey JB... Sometimes dating sucks.. Chin up and I hope you kick the cold quickly.. There's always porn .. .... Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Yeah, dating sucks. This date got me thinking of what I want to do in life. I realized that it is time. I realized I've missed a few opportunities and dodged a few ones along the way. It was a decision to be more involved in social volunteering and giving back to the community that introduced me to her. The community/business group that I joined is a totally different social circle and I would not have met otherwise. For those more spiritual, I think someone, higher being, fate, chance or whatever, introduced me to more people and newer friends and her. She asked if I would be at the group party, I said I had prior engagements, but countered with a date to the movies next week or an museum tour. She said she'll pass and yesterday emailed me "Sorry, this won't work for me." Guess I was to quick and pushy! Needless to say I didn't respond back or apologize for my actions. Thank you LS. Yes, AC, there is always porn or ONS for me! Link to post Share on other sites
looking4 green grass Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 Jerbear...we must have the same dating karma lately! I say bring it on! Life won't get me down, don't let it get you down either! We can play the "Next!!!" game together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Jerbear...we must have the same dating karma lately! I say bring it on! Life won't get me down, don't let it get you down either! We can play the "Next!!!" game together. You're next! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 Are you sure, "This won't work for me" really meant "this" as in "dating you"? Or did she mean an actual plan...? Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Are you sure, "This won't work for me" really meant "this" as in "dating you"? Or did she mean an actual plan...? This is quoted from her email: "Sorry, I don't think it will work for me. Thank you anyway," I'll take this as in no to dating me plus she wants to keep the contact to just email, no phone contact. Just because I liked her doesn't mean she'll like me. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 This is quoted from her email: "Sorry, I don't think it will work for me. Thank you anyway," That's a bizarre message, regardless of it's true intent. Back in the saddle, JB! Link to post Share on other sites
looking4 green grass Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 You're next! Beware. I'm the kiss of dating death! hahaha Although Mr. Three Dates last week who fell off the planet Sunday just fell back onto the planet. So, maybe I'm just a weirdo magnet?? Or maybe I suck at dating. Either way... NEXT!!!!! Oh, this is fun. Your turn! Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 Sorry to hear you're having a bad week, Jerbear. It's good to hear that you've made new friends and contacts. Sounds like not only will it be good professionally but also, personally. Hope you have a better rest of the week. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 That's a bizarre message, regardless of it's true intent. Back in the saddle, JB! Yeah, I thought it was bizarre but time to brush of the dirt and get back in saddle. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Sorry to hear you're having a bad week, Jerbear. It's good to hear that you've made new friends and contacts. Sounds like not only will it be good professionally but also, personally. Hope you have a better rest of the week. Yeah this group is mostly young professionals. I am thinking of joining the Rotary Club; it is interesting that once you meet one, you meet the group. I've met or worked with 10 out of 40 people in the group. I might get introduced to their kids or grandkids. Thank you for the well wishes. I might just take a "mental" sick day to get my bearings. This woman got me thinking and I just realized a few things. I guess I'll start a new thread on how dating and meeting people can change one's perspectives. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Beware. I'm the kiss of dating death! hahaha Although Mr. Three Dates last week who fell off the planet Sunday just fell back onto the planet. So, maybe I'm just a weirdo magnet?? Or maybe I suck at dating. Either way... NEXT!!!!! Oh, this is fun. Your turn! Dating requires practice! Weirdo magnet! well it has been awhile since I've been on a "date" and I think this date made me existential. Kiss of dating death... well to me that would mean getting married? Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 Yeah this group is mostly young professionals. I am thinking of joining the Rotary Club; it is interesting that once you meet one, you meet the group. I've met or worked with 10 out of 40 people in the group. I might get introduced to their kids or grandkids. Thank you for the well wishes. I might just take a "mental" sick day to get my bearings. This woman got me thinking and I just realized a few things. I guess I'll start a new thread on how dating and meeting people can change one's perspectives.Both Rotary and Toastmasters are good places to network. As for your date, better that she let you know, sooner, rather than later. There are plenty of chicklets around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 Both Rotary and Toastmasters are good places to network. As for your date, better that she let you know, sooner, rather than later. There are plenty of chicklets around. I forgot about Toastmasters. I just got a revelation: The last few months were eye openers. It all started with this one group. The funny thing was it was one of my best friends EX's who introduced me to that business / young professionals group. You know failures can lead to both positive and negative change and I think this date that will cause a positive change in me. I don't want to reveal to much but you get the idea of what I'm aspiring and aiming for. Thanks for you wisdom Link to post Share on other sites
Curious-One Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 this song always cheers me up .. might want to listen to it... that is if you like jay z http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLgdmGkAUz0 Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 this song always cheers me up .. might want to listen to it... that is if you like jay z http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sLgdmGkAUz0 I'm not a jayz fan but this one was not bad. Link to post Share on other sites
looking4 green grass Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 What is Toastmasters....are there cute guys there?? Could I find my next dating disaster at Toasmasters?? Jerbear....every guy that dates me marries the very next girl, so if you wanna get married, I'm the girl to date!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Waitress Posted December 3, 2009 Share Posted December 3, 2009 What is Toastmasters....are there cute guys there?? Could I find my next dating disaster at Toasmasters?? Jerbear....every guy that dates me marries the very next girl, so if you wanna get married, I'm the girl to date!!! That used to be me! Nowadays I'm the first one they date after a divorce. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 3, 2009 Author Share Posted December 3, 2009 What is Toastmasters....are there cute guys there?? Could I find my next dating disaster at Toasmasters?? Jerbear....every guy that dates me marries the very next girl, so if you wanna get married, I'm the girl to date!!! I don't know if there are cute guys there or dating disaster at Toastmasters. It might actually help with public speaking. Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 10, 2009 Author Share Posted December 10, 2009 (edited) Update: I contacted her, email, about an upcoming group event. My response to her email was: "Ok, another time then." and invited her to my club's annual party. I didn't know how to really respond to that bizarre message but I get the hint a little. Regarding the club, there are multiple clubs throughout the state so and I'm active in two of them. The one she asked about was in another club. Well she turned me down because her company party was the same night. Then was nice to say have a good day and good weekend. No counter, oh well... I'll give her a day or two and ask her out again, last message then I'll quit. EDIT: sentence structure and I couldn't sleep darn windy weather Edited December 10, 2009 by jerbear Link to post Share on other sites
Author jerbear Posted December 17, 2009 Author Share Posted December 17, 2009 (edited) Well she replied to my last message and said she's meeting up with her parents the weekend. I said ok and said I'll contact her later. She knows I'm busy this week, I told her I'll be busy unless she wants to join me; I mean who would take a date to private parties, meetings and "closed" alumni events early on? I just contacted her (email :rolleyes:) and enticed (I did use entice ) her to a dance lesson early next week. A dance that she likes and I told her I won't keep her past her bed time. Edited December 17, 2009 by jerbear added details and changed sentence structures Link to post Share on other sites
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Share Posted December 17, 2009 Dont bother. She is turning down your invitations without suggesting a different day to go out with you, Shes not interested, but is too chicken to tell you that. The time to quit is now. Link to post Share on other sites
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