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My friend said some things about you that didn't make you sound very good


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Ok, girl 1 is a friend who has a bf of a year. she and i dated for like a minute just before she got together with him. she was the one who finally killed my inner nice guy.

 

about a month ago she introduced me to her friend (girl 2) and we kind of hit it off. last week after all four of us (girl 1/bf/girl2) hung out again, girl 2 says "you should call me here's my number" and we've been texting since then. (btw, after the other thread, she never called back so i texted a couple days later and she texted RIGHT back, so i guess i should have listened to my friend, girl1, in the first place.)

 

so i go to meet up with her last night (without the others) and at one point when we're dancing she said something to the effect of "girl 1 doesn't like you or think very highly of you, she said some things that weren't good" to which i replied

 

"oh really? well i'm a shady character what can i say? :p"

 

and left it at that. she laughed and smiled and we kept on dancing so i think i handled it fine, but now i'm puzzled about whether i should worry about this. girl 1 seems to be trying to help me with her friend, so why is she talking smack?

 

we also joked around about "lol yeah, that's just how girl 1 is, haha" and exchanged a couple quick notes about how we both know her quirks and blah blah, so girl 2 could tell i really wasn't worried about it at all.

 

but still... what to make of this?

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Hmm. Did she say specifically how she doesn't think highly of you? Like, your too emotional, your a player, you are bad in bed, etc? Or did she just say she didn't think very highly of you?

 

I wouldn't worry too much about it, as long as girl #2 isn't bothered by it (which it seems she isn't, you handled yourself nicely) then you have nothing to fear. Although, it says something about girl#1, acting like a friend to your face then talking smack behind your back..

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Hmm. Did she say specifically how she doesn't think highly of you? Like, your too emotional, your a player, you are bad in bed, etc? Or did she just say she didn't think very highly of you?

 

I wouldn't worry too much about it, as long as girl #2 isn't bothered by it (which it seems she isn't, you handled yourself nicely) then you have nothing to fear. Although, it says something about girl#1, acting like a friend to your face then talking smack behind your back..

 

Nope. She didn't get into specifics and there was no way I was going to validate that statement by asking what she said. That would have been insecure. I am curious, but I really don't care that much. "what did she say about me?" would have been the most insecure thing i could have said, so i played it off like i didn't even care. which i don't really... i'm just curious, lol

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thanks, i think i handled it well. yeah girl 1 is kinda just that way, and girl 2 knows her well enough to take some things with a grain of salt. i am curious if girl 2 knows that girl 1 and i had a brief thing. not sure if i should tell her or let it slide...

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thanks, i think i handled it well. yeah girl 1 is kinda just that way, and girl 2 knows her well enough to take some things with a grain of salt. i am curious if girl 2 knows that girl 1 and i had a brief thing. not sure if i should tell her or let it slide...

I would let it slide unless she brings it up, if she does then tell her the truth.

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I would let it slide unless she brings it up, if she does then tell her the truth.

 

My only concern with that is that I wouldn't want her to think I was hiding it, if that makes sense. But I don't know if girl 1 wants girl 2 to know that. Her current bf knows, so I don't really know. <shrug> It's not like it's a secret, but we dated for such a short time that I don't know if it's really relevant anymore.

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