Salesgirl Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 Hi all, There's this guy that I've been seeing off and on for about five months. He has said that he doesn't want a relationship, which is okay..I don't mind not having anything serious, but it seems like sometimes he gives mixed messages. At the beginning, he said that he didn't want anything "complicated." Then we started talking on the phone almost every day, and seeing each other at least once a week. I met most of his friends. He called himself my bf, and his friends called me his gf or his woman. He called me "his girl", and he told his friends that I was "his girl." He always claimed to not get jealous, although he teased me by asking if I was going on "dates" with other people, said that he knew I would be hurt if he slept with someone else, swore on his daughter's life that he was not sleeping with anyone else, and one time when I was home sleeping, he said that he wished that I was would pick up the phone, because he didn't know if I was home with guys in spite of him or what (we had had a fight). He always says that he is afraid of committment, because he is afraid of getting hurt and all. Anyhow, he keeps getting close, and then pushing me away, even to the point of making up reasons to get away from me. The last time, we just got together and we did sleep together, but then he disappeared. Then I wrote him a letter, and he text messaged me that he was sorry that he hurt me, but he didn't think that he was good for a relationship, even a sexual one, but that he wishes that he were. Also, and this is just a hunch, but for two weeks I was getting hang ups every single day, and they only stopped when he called me again.. Out of nowhere last week, he called, because he said that he was depressed (grandmother dying). I went over to talk to him (yes, sex happened). We watched movies, and he kept saying that he missed me, and asking a lot of times did I miss him, did I have a boyfriend now after this time that we haven't talked, he told me that he has not slept with anyone else since me, and we were cuddling on the couch, holding hands for a full 2 hours during a movie, etc. He kept saying that he was so sorry that he had messed up things with him and I because of his "issues." Then, he didn't call back after I was over at his house last week. Then when I called him, he said, Why are you getting all serious on me?? You know the deal....I never said that it had to be serious, but it seems like mixeed messages in a way. I am sort of confused, because if this is just a booty call, why would he say all of these other things. Just to try to butter me up? To try to play games with my head? To try to keep me around? It just seems weird. I don't know much about booty calls. We did mostly get together at night, but we went to people's houses together, he met my roommate, I met his friends, and he called me "his girl," and HE said that we were a cute couple, and that we were seeing each other. ?????? Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 u think its a booty call? then u must have some fine booty! gawd - i just suck at the sex jokes well, how are u feeling right now - u seem happy i think he is too and is just making the big decision u know fam and stuffd i know for a fact a lot of guys have that prob i never did Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 12, 2006 Share Posted December 12, 2006 just wanted to mention i did notice the snuggling there! gawd when u say things like that my body reacts - that;s a sign maybe he is having issues again and here's words to a song i've been using to motivate I've got another confession to make I'm your fool Everyone's got their chains to break Holdin' you Were you born to resist or be abused? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Are you gone and onto someone new? I needed somewhere to hang my head Without your noose You gave me something that I didn't have But had no use I was too weak to give in Too strong to lose My heart is under arrest again But I break loose My head is giving me life or death But I can't choose I swear I'll never give in I refuse Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Has someone taken your faith? Its real, the pain you feel You trust, you must Confess Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Oh... Oh...Oh...Oh...Oh... Has someone taken your faith? Its real, the pain you feel The life, the love You die to heal The hope that starts The broken hearts You trust, you must Confess Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? I've got another confession my friend I'm no fool I'm getting tired of starting again Somewhere new Were you born to resist or be abused? I swear I'll never give in I refuse Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the best of you? Has someone taken your faith? Its real, the pain you feel You trust, you must Confess Is someone getting the best, the best, the best, the be Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 Hi all, There's this guy that I've been seeing off and on for about five months. He has said that he doesn't want a relationship, which is okay..I don't mind not having anything serious, but it seems like sometimes he gives mixed messages. At the beginning, he said that he didn't want anything "complicated." Then we started talking on the phone almost every day, and seeing each other at least once a week. I met most of his friends. He called himself my bf, and his friends called me his gf or his woman. He called me "his girl", and he told his friends that I was "his girl." He always claimed to not get jealous, although he teased me by asking if I was going on "dates" with other people, said that he knew I would be hurt if he slept with someone else, swore on his daughter's life that he was not sleeping with anyone else, and one time when I was home sleeping, he said that he wished that I was would pick up the phone, because he didn't know if I was home with guys in spite of him or what (we had had a fight). He always says that he is afraid of committment, because he is afraid of getting hurt and all. Anyhow, he keeps getting close, and then pushing me away, even to the point of making up reasons to get away from me. The last time, we just got together and we did sleep together, but then he disappeared. Then I wrote him a letter, and he text messaged me that he was sorry that he hurt me, but he didn't think that he was good for a relationship, even a sexual one, but that he wishes that he were. Also, and this is just a hunch, but for two weeks I was getting hang ups every single day, and they only stopped when he called me again.. Out of nowhere last week, he called, because he said that he was depressed (grandmother dying). I went over to talk to him (yes, sex happened). We watched movies, and he kept saying that he missed me, and asking a lot of times did I miss him, did I have a boyfriend now after this time that we haven't talked, he told me that he has not slept with anyone else since me, and we were cuddling on the couch, holding hands for a full 2 hours during a movie, etc. He kept saying that he was so sorry that he had messed up things with him and I because of his "issues." Then, he didn't call back after I was over at his house last week. Then when I called him, he said, Why are you getting all serious on me?? You know the deal....I never said that it had to be serious, but it seems like mixeed messages in a way. I am sort of confused, because if this is just a booty call, why would he say all of these other things. Just to try to butter me up? To try to play games with my head? To try to keep me around? It just seems weird. I don't know much about booty calls. We did mostly get together at night, but we went to people's houses together, he met my roommate, I met his friends, and he called me "his girl," and HE said that we were a cute couple, and that we were seeing each other. ?????? Oh my gosh, I can really relate to your story. I have been having an on and off with my x-fiance for the last four years. He does alot of the same things that your guy is doing. It boggles my freaking mind. Does his friends share any insight about this situation with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 Bottom line is the guy sounds like a mess to me. You ar etotally being played here, and I just find it so disappointing that you don't see it. I mean, if you guys are teenagers then this isn't that unusual, but if your adults, there really are more stable relationships to be had. If I had one wish it's thta people would stop wasting times on relationships like this one and take the time to find real and meaningful ones. Sorry if I offended you. He sounds incredibly immature is the point. And yes, appears to make contact when HE wants sex... *ding ding ding* Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 Out of nowhere last week, he called, because he said that he was depressed (grandmother dying). I went over to talk to him (yes, sex happened). He sounds incredibly immature is the point. And yes, appears to make contact when HE wants sex... *ding ding ding* Who in their right mind would call an X-girlfriend and use his dying grandmother as an excuse to get a booty call?? I don't think anyone wants a booty call that bad. I don't know what is going on between them, but it isn't just sex. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 I don't know what is going on between them, but it isn't just sex. You're right, it isn't just sex. It's sex AND adolescent mind games. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Salesgirl Posted December 13, 2006 Author Share Posted December 13, 2006 So... booty call AND mind games?? That's what I figured. Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 goodnite see ya somn Link to post Share on other sites
silentalways Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 i'm gord i haven't been doing too good the last few days and i called my doc and they want me to do the 30 - 30 and focus on that i am not sure where i am sleeping tonight but i can't sleep in my house because the memories of her leaving i think this has been the toughest of my whole life and i will bounce back its weird when u don't need a hand everyone loves u when u do its a ghost town I am at bank and lisgar might sleep there tonight parking garage near by i Link to post Share on other sites
luvtoto Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 So... booty call AND mind games?? That's what I figured. Well, if you really want to know how he feels ,take the sex factor out of the equation. Link to post Share on other sites
Krytellan Posted December 13, 2006 Share Posted December 13, 2006 Well, if you really want to know how he feels ,take the sex factor out of the equation. BINGO baby Link to post Share on other sites
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