Hades25 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Hello everyone this is my first post and just wanted to say hello.... I have a dilema that I hope I can get some opinions on. I was seeing a girl for about 3 years ... We had a somewhat decent relationship and I started to lose that passion with her... I didnt happen overnight..Just gradually... We recently broke up and now want to be friends....I know she still loves me deeply but I dont love her in that way anymore.... Its more a friendship to me.... Now I know thjat shouldnt be to hard to do ... being friends and all.... but I was a jerk-off and cheated on her right before we broke up ... (again I know I'm a jerk) She still wants to be friends ... Can we still be okay with everything? Will she be able to handle me dating other women? I dont think I would have a probem with her dating someone ( I say that now) and I'm positive i think she would may upset if I dated someone else ... at least for awhile.... And I know I am wrong for what i did .. is there a problem with me? why wasnt i faithful? Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 You weren't faithful because you didn't have feelings for her anymore. Even though, she wants to be friends it may be very hard at first. In order to stay friends... You shouldn't flaunt your new girlfriends to her. If you really care about her you won't hurt her anymore. You may find that the NC thing maybe a better option for the two of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hades25 Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 whats the NC thing? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hades25 Posted January 19, 2005 Author Share Posted January 19, 2005 btw thanks for the input! Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 21, 2005 Share Posted January 21, 2005 Well being the person who ended the relationship puts you in a much better position than she is in. I think she will be jelouse if you go out with other women, but she will pretend she isnt. So in the end you win either way. Dont sweat it. She will be your friend no matter what. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hades25 Posted January 24, 2005 Author Share Posted January 24, 2005 you know its weird.... we're still friends but I feel she is still trying to a make a relationship happen... The other day I logged into my AIM and had a friend in my list that I just added and then she says to me in a not very friendly tone "Who is that?" ... and I tell her who but I dont think she should have the right to ask me that question anymore... Do you agree Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted January 25, 2005 Share Posted January 25, 2005 Next time just say 'no one' and turn off your AIM. LOL It will drive her crazy !! She dosnt have a right, but she still probably likes you and feels you are still her territory so to speak. You could put your foot down, but it would probably just make her want you more. Just ignore her when she does stuff like that. Pretend its nothing. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hades25 Posted January 26, 2005 Author Share Posted January 26, 2005 that would make her mad ... I'll have to try that Link to post Share on other sites
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