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Old 2nd November 2012, 8:28 PM   #1
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I am female my female friend tried to kiss me!

My friend who is a female and I have a close relationship but she has been increasingly trying to push the limits with my personal space over the past couple of weeks.

She knows that I am straight and I am in a relationship with a male who is a mutual friend of us both.

Today that girl and another friend who is also a girl and I were spending time together at my house hanging out and eating a meal we are all in our late 20's

When the other friend left to use the bathroom, my friend tried to kiss me on my lips multiple times I am not even joking I kept rationalizing prior advances but it was so blatant this evening that I actually am left feeling sexually harassed.

What should I do? I would prefer to not have a confrontation about this with her but if any one gives me some advice that thinks I should bring this topic up to her (I would prefer to gently avoid) I am open to suggestions because I do feel a personal limit was crossed had I not made an attempt to move my mouth away from her for an extended length of time we would have kissed.

I am not against any part of the LGBT community but as a heterosexual woman I feel someone shouldn't place their sexual preference on me should they?

actually im so confused about the whole encounter I apologize if I offended anyone in this posting
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Old 2nd November 2012, 8:37 PM   #2
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Sexuality aside, she invaded your personal space and showed no respect for your relationship. What would you say to a man in this situation? Say the same to her.
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Old 2nd November 2012, 8:41 PM   #3
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no its not offensive. I have plenty of friendships with women that had initially wanted a sexual encounter with me. Thats fine.

When you see her next simply say it made you uncomfortable and you didn't want it to happen again. She'll probably appreciate the honesty.

Maybe you're really kissable! I love kissing my girlfriends. Women are great kissers. Soft lips, responsive, passionate.
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Old 2nd November 2012, 8:51 PM   #4
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re: sweetkiwi

i have no problem kissing a girl especially when i used to drink i would always end up kissing a girl but my sober mind is completely straight lol but i must give off some vibe b/c this isnt the first time a girl had hit on me.

thank you for your comment tho!

also thanks for showing me the grey area that i dont have to completely close the friendship off it's not all or nothing thank you
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Old 2nd November 2012, 9:25 PM   #5
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i have no problem kissing a girl especially when i used to drink i would always end up kissing a girl but my sober mind is completely straight lol but i must give off some vibe b/c this isnt the first time a girl had hit on me.

thank you for your comment tho!

also thanks for showing me the grey area that i dont have to completely close the friendship off it's not all or nothing thank you
HA! I was going to say something like "you should have a drink first to loosen up" but it turns out you've done that before

IMO you aren't 100% heterosexual.

Somebody who is completely straight wouldn't kiss somebody of the same gender no matter how wasted they were.

Your friend knows about you kissing other girls right? She probably think she isn't doing anything that out of the ordinary with you.

BTW, if you had a few drinks, do you think you'd be OK with letting her kiss you?
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i don't think anyone is 100 percent any sexuality. We all notice attractiveness in others. Its human nature. I like kissing girls but it doesn't make my vagina tingle. I am very into penis but i think women are better kissers.

Just let her know your boundaries and if she doesn't respect them, keep your distance.
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Old 2nd November 2012, 10:13 PM   #7
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Man or woman, doesn't matter. Fact is, you have a boyfriend and she is well aware of that so she shouldn't be trying to kiss you and come on to you. That's disrespectful and wrong. She knows you're straight too.

Stop spending time with her. Real friends don't try to come on to their friends, especially when they know that person is in a relationship!! Straight, gay or lesbian!!
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i don't think anyone is 100 percent any sexuality. We all notice attractiveness in others. Its human nature. I like kissing girls but it doesn't make my vagina tingle. I am very into penis but i think women are better kissers.

Just let her know your boundaries and if she doesn't respect them, keep your distance.
Being able to kiss somebody of the same sex, and like it, is nowhere even close to being able to notice attractiveness in others.
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Old 2nd November 2012, 10:19 PM   #9
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so you don't watch porn? Some man's cock in action? That seems more intimate to me than a kiss between friends. I don't get wet when i kiss a woman.
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