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Old 1st November 2011, 4:53 PM   #46
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Originally Posted by cutecatch View Post
And they keep you around because they want to sleep with you.
Sorry, but I disagree. I do believe that men (and women too) probably think about sex with every person that they find attractive. That does NOT translate into them WANTING to have sex with me. He may think that I am sexy and desirable and that IF things were different (i.e. I wasn't firmly happy with my husband and married or if he weren't married or partnered himself) that he might try to see if we were sexually compatible.

So I see a huge difference between "I'm gonna try to tap that tonight" and "Shoot she's got a fine ass". Active desire and acknowledgement of desirability are two different things to me. And there may even be guys who WANT to have sex with me, but they certainly don't act like it, because they value me for other things than my fine booty; I truly don't believe that friendships are merely maintained because they are waiting for me to have a huge lapse in judgement while standing beside a bed in an empty (save the two of us) house.

Don't you know people with self-control, who know that irrational actions usually lead to bad results?
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Old 1st November 2011, 6:49 PM   #47
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Some women I find attractive, I don't find sexually attractive at all. They don't even enter my fantasies at all.
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Old 1st November 2011, 10:42 PM   #48
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Originally Posted by AHardDaysNight View Post
Some women I find attractive, I don't find sexually attractive at all. They don't even enter my fantasies at all.
Yeah, there's definitely a difference between pretty and sexy or attractive and sexy.
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