lifeasiknowit Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 This is what I've learned. I don't know about all the rest of you, but how common is it for this to happen? Why is it so hard to stay friends with someone after living with them for a long period? Is it just me? Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 Don't know. I lived with my best friend all 4 years of college and nothing ever happened. Everybody said it was the wrong thing to do, and well, everyone was wrong. We're still close friends to this day. It all comes down to respect. Respect them and they'll respect you. If I had a problem I went to him, if he had a problem he came to me. We resolved it and went on with our lives. Link to post Share on other sites
IcemanJB Posted April 14, 2009 Share Posted April 14, 2009 I lived with one of my best friends my sophomore year of college. We're still great friends to this day. I can't even think of a case where it drives friends apart; and people say that's what usually happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lifeasiknowit Posted April 15, 2009 Author Share Posted April 15, 2009 Well, I guess it has to do with how close you are to begin with before moving in together. Before living together we mostly knew each other through a common friend, and so we were somewhere in between being friends and acquaintances. Link to post Share on other sites
WTRanger Posted April 15, 2009 Share Posted April 15, 2009 What happened? Was it something petty or could you just genuinely not live with this other person? Sometimes you can't live with a best friend, it happens. It happens in relationships too. You date someone for 10 years, move in with them and realize certain things about them that drive you nuts. In the end it all comes down to communication and respect. If you let the little things get to you and hold them in. Eventually they'll blow up and you'll get into heated fights over something extremely petty. Not everyone lives the same way and has the same habits, triggers, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lifeasiknowit Posted April 16, 2009 Author Share Posted April 16, 2009 It was over something petty, involving our contributions to household duties such as cleaning. I had always felt that I did my share, but my roommate apparently thought differently, so we started a recording system where each would mark down who did what and when, but it just led up to a build up of resentment. Link to post Share on other sites
LovieDove24 Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 Well this is one of those things like "Don't lend friends or family money" it just depends on how much integrity and respect are in the relationship. If you really respect the person youre lending money from, you will not want to hurt them. Similarily, if you really respect your best friend whom you're living with you will not let the little things get to you and will put in your fair share of contributions (money, chores, shoveling duties) to keep the ship sailing smoothly. Anything short of that and you simply don't respect one another. Link to post Share on other sites
Yellowboy Posted April 21, 2009 Share Posted April 21, 2009 It didn't ruin the friendship, but I think me and my friend knew in our mind that we can't live together. This was back in college by the way, living on college campus. With one friend, our living pattern was different. Our sleeping ours were different. We shared similar hobbies, but it was limited. With the other friend, it wasn't much about living patterns, but we were both in almost the same class since we were in the same major, and we both faced a really tough time academically and also personally. And I think that just got to both of us, so the following semester, we ended up not rooming together. Still friends with both of them though, but haven't really kept in touch often since I moved out of the city. Link to post Share on other sites
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