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Old 1st April 2009, 2:28 PM   #31
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I thought he was doing much better in that department. That stinks. It really does. Maybe he's just going to have to lose everything before he turns himself around. Maybe there's still a chance for you two down the line.

In the meantime, he's in your life forever now.

Maybe right now, you'll have to be your own best friend, BO.

Of course you have your LS buddies too you know.

I don't know what else to say other than just be good to yourself and your son and just hang in there. Things do have a way of working themselves out one way or the other if we keep our wits about ourselves.
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Old 1st April 2009, 2:43 PM   #32
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I don't know what else to say other than just be good to yourself and your son and just hang in there. Things do have a way of working themselves out one way or the other if we keep our wits about ourselves.
indeed....
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Old 1st April 2009, 2:45 PM   #33
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Just throwing this out there...do you think your standards when it comes to girlfriends and your standards when it comes to SO's or b/f's are the same?
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Old 13th April 2009, 12:06 PM   #34
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I have betrayed by a friend as well!! I have a childhood friend that I really trust and know she will never betray me .. I guess you just have to be careful now adays who you get as friends !! The friend that betrayed me we was friends for along time . I guess you try to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I have to say I am very loyal friend ,once you betray me I am done with you !! I know that sounds harse but it is true. I had an incident that happen a few yrs ago . I miscarried and was really needing some assurance from a friend and got belittled the whole time I was pregnant, negative vibes and then when i miscarried was even more!!

I decided this person wasn't my friend after the miscarriage and how I was treated !! I was told alot of negative things after the fact and decided to never talk with this person again. I am glad I let that friend go .. They was negative and really unhappy with their situation and wanted to bring me down . I am glad to this day that I haven't talked with this person . I need positive people in my life !! Sometimes we have to let go and move on .. Good luck if you want to talk I am here !!
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Old 13th April 2009, 1:04 PM   #35
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the betrayal sucks.

you are right though, the friend and your SO are showing the same behavior.

their actions are telling you that they aren't willing to respect you. you deserve more for yourself than this.

for me, this is where peace of mind becomes critical... i would rather have my peace of mind being on my own than to be around people and wonder if they are stabbing me in the back.

it weeds out the bad seeds and allows me to reassess my boundary. once i stick with my boundary i no longer have room for bad behavior...

ta da - good friends and family are around more often - the ones that lift me up instead of dragging me down and taking all my energy away.

life is too short. make room for the good energy BO. you deserve it honey.
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Old 13th April 2009, 4:31 PM   #36
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the betrayal sucks.

you are right though, the friend and your SO are showing the same behavior.

their actions are telling you that they aren't willing to respect you. you deserve more for yourself than this.

for me, this is where peace of mind becomes critical... i would rather have my peace of mind being on my own than to be around people and wonder if they are stabbing me in the back.

it weeds out the bad seeds and allows me to reassess my boundary. once i stick with my boundary i no longer have room for bad behavior...

ta da - good friends and family are around more often - the ones that lift me up instead of dragging me down and taking all my energy away.

life is too short. make room for the good energy BO. you deserve it honey.

I agree with 2sunny !!
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