It's been a while since I've posted and now I have a new problem. My best guy friend that I used to have a crush on wants to sleep with me.
A few months back I posted about how heart broken I was because a close girl friend of mine started dating a guy I liked. This guy (my guy friend) didn't feel the same way about me, and instead crushed and dated her instead of me. After getting over this (and him) I became perfectly o.k. with them dating because it seemed they were really meant for eachother.
Flash forward a few months- he rarely wants anything to do with her now to the point he rarely answers her phone calls. She didn't do anything specifically wrong, he just has struggled between her and his ex and his ex does a lot of manipulating when it comes to him. She hates my friend, therefore he pretty much hates her as well.
We used to be really close, even after the fact that he knew I wanted to be "that girl" (my friend) and he felt sorry for me. But now I just want to stay away from him because he is sending me crazy signals.
He now wants to have a 3some with my friend and I, and everytime we hang out, he always compliments me and texts me off the wall messages like how he has fanasies of him going down on me. This is totally erratic behavior comming from him because he's never been this way towards me. He really is a sweet guy.
I've shown my friend the texts and such but she dosn't mind. She knows he's wanted to try this but I've always objected. The thing is, once I've liked someone and they hurt me or don't see me as the same way, my feelings for them completely disappear. I'm starting to see his behavior as unessesary and annoying. Before all of this he was a really great friend and its starting to be a bit much.My question to you is, How do I let him know that I ONLY want to be friends without harming our friendship and hurting his feelings? He
s the type to take rejection to the heart. I just want things to be back to normal.
Thanks in advance