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Old 20th March 2007, 10:38 AM   #136
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I am interested in seeing how this plays out...

But LoveLace, why are you admitting to giving BJ's.... giving BJ's does not a realtionship make...

and Bridget, I can not help but think that you are protraying some of what happened to you in your relationship towards this story...

I am not sure if he is into you, but stop giving him BJ's unless he has earned them.
Last BJ was BEFORE we even lived together, after that believe me I cut him off!!
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Old 20th March 2007, 12:30 PM   #137
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As of last night there is NO way I'm telling him my feelings, I posted a new thread about what happened, but anyway, I already told him I need to have a talk with him today, when I'll be telling him to start finding another roommate.

I am not angry or anything of the sort, I don't even think I'm all that disappointed, I actually feel pretty powerful right now, cuz I got the guts to at least tell him we need to talk, and we need to talk ASAP. I'm proud of myself for realizing I don't have to stay in this torterous situation.

Thanks everyone for your support and for believing in my theory that I might finally know who the love of my life is. But I was wrong...life goes on but it especially will when our lease is up in August...I'll be better off and happier, I think.
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Old 29th March 2007, 9:51 AM   #138
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Edited because I just saw your other thread. Unlucky, but at least you are out of your misery now!
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Old 29th March 2007, 10:39 AM   #139
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especially after 10 years..
Lol. While I mainly agree, haven't you read or seen "The Age of Innocence", or "Pride & Prejudice"? Some people disguise their feelings for whatever reason, especially if they are "friends". If 2 such people like each other, they can go years without ever letting on. Each year that goes by, the stakes and thus the barriers get higher.

So yes, 90% chance is that he's not into her. But there's a small chance that he is, and has just acted like her all these years i.e. hiding everything to the point that she has no idea what he feels.

Everyone is being too wooly here. What we need is some simple logic & analysis. There's only 2 possibilities - he is into her, or he isn't. And there's only 2 things she can do - tell him she is into him, or not tell him.

1. She tells him her true feelings:

i) He is not into her. She gets embarrassed and they have a short period of awkwardness, before she gets over it and then they settle into being just friends.
ii) He really was into her all along. They live happily ever after.

2. She doesn't tell him.

i) He is not into her. The same situation continues, driving her up the wall.
ii) He is into her. Not only does she get driven up the wall, but she misses out on the possible love of her life too.

So, if we look at the possible outcomes, not telling him is either really bad, or a life-changing disaster of monumental proportions. Whereas telling him results in either a few days or weeks of awkwardness at worst, or her dream scenario.

Someone please explain *any* benefit to continuing to hold in her feelings. It is sheer lunacy!

Lovelace - get a grip and just tell this guy what you feel. Looking like a fool for a few minutes is really not a big deal, believe me.
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