How many friends do people have?

[RocketMan2]

I've hardly got any

 

Ive got one good mate, but he's moved to Cali (from the UK).

Another is away at Uni.

 

Ive got like 4 other mates who's house i basically live at, but all they do is get stoned so all we do is watch telly.

3 of them have really sociable jobs and have got LOADS of other mates.

 

When Im alone with any of them I feel like we get on really well, but together I just dont feel that im included I never felt 100% included at any point in my life, ive always felt like the one tagging along it really really sucks.

 

I really feel like I have no friends

 

How am I ever going to meet anyone new?

 

Theres so much crap here where I live, i really feel like just running away (my mate in Cali has offered to put me up for a while) and starting again. I get doubts like "well i wont know anyone, ill be really lonely and regret it." but I cant see how that would be any different to now, i just dont want to admit it

 

Life sucks at the moment.

 

Rocket

[guin_girl]

I agree, life does suck at the moment. I'm going through a rough patch too.

 

I have acquaintances... not "true" friends that I can call and tell my innermost thoughts with or complain with them like I do on here. Mind you I have a great time with my acquaintances and spend time with them a couple times a month, but it's not the same as it used to be. As we get older, those kinda go away...

[glitzy55]

How old are you? Ever hear the expression..As you get older the friends will get fewer but truer. I had tons of friends in h.s. and when I was younger but now I don't base friendships on superficial things. And in reality it's better to have a few true close friends then 30 fair weather ones..at least I think so. Hang in there you'll make new friends eventually.

[BillieNo]

I've got no friends, I have people that I talk to occassionally at work about the weather and the news, but theres no one that is a friend that I can talk to, and on top of that my marriage is breaking down and on top of that my boss has seen fit to exclude me from a liquid lunch. I am kind, caring, considerate, like to have a good time(although I dont think ive had one for about 5 years) and thoughtful. Guess that makes me a bad person - i have no idea what I am doing wrong. re my marriage i dont have the energy right now to get out of it without a support system ie friends.

[WhiteKnight]

In terms of friendships in person that is. I would have to say at least a handful of 20 people. That's a lot of friends.

 

8 of them are females and the rest are males. Pretty much just to say in general, it is quite a mixture group overall.

 

We try to socialise once in awhile, but the sad thing is though whenever a person leaves. They will be missed. It's always to be expected.

 

To be honest, before all this... I didn't really have many friends. I did have a small group of 6 people in my local town I was staying at in the past but we kinda drifted and faded away in the end. We were High School mates all the way and we promised each other that we would stay in touch... that was okay for a short period of time but as it went, we all drifted into another place and tried to say in touch but didn't work out sadly.

 

So yea, life has its ups and downs though.

[Russian_donkey]

friends I hang around with, about 10 (mostly female, for some reason) but in terms of speaking to people about issues, maybe one or two. You sound very lonely. What I would suggest would be to come up with a way of meeting someone like you who, as far as i can tell, needs someone that they can be deep with. Easier said than done, and life is pretty rough for me at the mo too, but having someone you know is there is always a help. When you go out with your mates, try to meet someone from outside, someone who you feel some kind of connection with would be a big help to you right now methinks. OK i repeated myself a lot in this reply, apologies. Good luck in whatever you do

[bella_girl]

I would say that I have 4 completely awesome really good friends... and none of them live in the same country as me and I haven't spoken to any of them for a number of months.... But I know if I picked up the phone and said 'hey this is going what do you think' they would give me completely honest, non judgemental advice. Or if i just said 'Hey how are things going sorry for being out of touch' they wouldn't care it would be like I spoke to them yesterday.

 

I miss them each heaps. They are 4 individual people that don't know each other so its a bit weird but they are great people which is why I love being their friend.

 

In terms of other friends I'd say 10-15 good friends, people I hang out with at present. i don't really have a 'group' that I hang out with, I've always been this way in High school and afterwards I use to flit between groups, drop in and out. In some ways it was annoying because I never felt completely part of the group (still don't) and was never quite up to date with gossip. But thats just me, I like hanging out with different bunches of people and doing different things with different people.

 

If you are feeling short of friends you have to go out there and do something. Join a club, learn a language, do an activity - that sort of thing. I know it sounds a bit highschool but seriously it works, you meet new people some you click with, you say 'hey want to come see band/bar/art show/whatever with me?' and there you go - a new friend.

 

Another way is steal your mates friends... I've done that! A girl I use to work with introduced me to her friends when I moved there, after a couple months she then left and I continued to hang out with her friends and probably became better friends with them than she was!