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Old 13th July 2017, 12:59 PM   #46
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I interviewed for a job that I think is perfect for me but I came away from my interview feeling confused and uncertain. First the questions they asked me were extremely simplistic. "Tell me about your best boss? "What do you want out of this job?" I didn't see how the questions were relevant to the job. I answered the questions to the best of my ability but it was hard to tell from their expressions if I was giving them the answers that they wanted. Prior to the interview they asked me to set aside an hour for the discussion, but it lasted only 30 minutes. I didn't feel good about it. Not sure where my life is going at this point.
Interview is merely just something they need to see where your head it at! So you can make it up tell them about your best boss. Example Mr. Fred Jones he was out supervisor at The Green Mill Store. He was nice and caring and had taught me a lot about the business. I now have experience in the business I had left. This business can be use for this position. Do you see where I am going with that question. That's what they're looking for. You have to see what they're asking. What do you bring to the table they want to know what you know and how it can be used at this company. That 1 hr discussion you didn't understand what they were after. That was you should have asked them so many questions and shown keen interest that company. That's another trick they pull on you today. It's all about how you handle yourself because you want the job and so may others do what make you stand out from the rest! That's how you have to think about all of this!

Next time you have a better understanding how to deal with how they want you to answer and conduct their little get together because that little get together would be the final yes or no if you got the job! You mess-up on that you would not get hired with them!
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Old 13th July 2017, 1:19 PM   #47
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I sure hope it's not one of those scams where they pretend to hire you then ship you off to be a sex slave.
If anyone see's redguitar on your local street corner in a short skirt, looking drugged out, please contact your authorities...

Anyway, yeah that is a weird set of questions, even for HR. Because those HR types would usually not ask a question like where are you from as it's screaming discrimination. Did they give you a chance to add your own information at the end of the interview at least? Because if they did, I'd say well since we didn't get much into the specifics of my past job experience, and then list as much information as you could to try and show off your experience.

But that interview sounds like small talk, which I'm horrible at, so I would probably fail it miserably.
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Old 14th July 2017, 3:07 PM   #48
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Well, I didn't get the job. Right now I'm trying to resist writing back about how idiotic the interview was.
I wouldn't do this. It says more about you than it does about them.
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Old 28th July 2017, 7:24 AM   #49
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Thumbs down Tired of interviewing and getting no offers

I have been interviewing for three months trying to get out of this dead end job I have now. Interviewed with one place and didn't get the job. They came back and offered me another position but I turned that down because I felt it would've been TOXIC to have to work with the same person that beat me out for the job that I originally applied for. Couldn't do it.


I've been through five more interviews since then and none of them have resulted in an offer. I've been applying for jobs that didn't even require a masters degree, which I have. I feel depressed when I look at my degree because it hasn't helped land a new job.


I'm tired and frustrated with the process. Tired of getting dressed up, taking time off work and answering the same dumb standardized interview questions over and over. I don't t think I can do it anymore. My friends tell me give it time, but getting beat out by all these other candidates is making me question all of my life choices. Maybe I should've been a boxer or a plumber or a porn star instead of going to college and graduate school.
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Old 28th July 2017, 7:28 AM   #50
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My solution was to work for myself. Best decision of my life.
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Old 28th July 2017, 7:32 AM   #51
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My solution was to work for myself. Best decision of my life.
That's not exactly an option for me or most people. I don't have the credit to get a small business loan, and I don't know what product or service I'd want to sell anyway.
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Old 28th July 2017, 7:49 AM   #52
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That's not exactly an option for me or most people. I don't have the credit to get a small business loan, and I don't know what product or service I'd want to sell anyway.
It is an option for a lot of people - many businesses can be started from home and require almost no starting cost. But it isn't an easy option for most, and might not even be the best option for some.

That being said, your opening post really makes me wonder how badly you want a new job. You turned down a job offer because you thought it would be TOXIC to work with someone whom you don't even know personally, just because he beat you at getting the other job??? If that person had been your ex or something, fine, but just because he won??

C'mon, dude. Learn some sportsmanship (and some priorities while you're at it). Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. No point harboring a grudge for losing. It's like you never lost in anything before you went into the working world, didn't you play games or anything as a kid?

FTR, masters degrees generally don't confer much of an advantage in work if you have no relevant experience, barring in a few specific fields. Most people get a few years of relevant work experience under their belt first and then get a masters for the boost AFTER that, unless they're aiming for academia (or are in those few specific fields). Your masters degree may not help you now, but after 5 years in the field or so, it may. My masters degree was absolutely irrelevant in getting the job I currently have (and enjoy). Still don't regret doing it, it opens up a few more options to me in the future possibly.
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It is an option for a lot of people - many businesses can be started from home and require almost no starting cost. But it isn't an easy option for most, and might not even be the best option for some.
I've thought about freelance speechwriting. Don't know how practical that is, but it might be worth a try.


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That being said, your opening post really makes me wonder how badly you want a new job. You turned down a job offer because you thought it would be TOXIC to work with someone whom you don't even know personally, just because he beat you at getting the other job???
Yep. I don't want to work with the person I lost that job to, and possibly have to take orders/instructions from her. Respect my feelings on that.

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FTR, masters degrees generally don't confer much of an advantage in work if you have no relevant experience, barring in a few specific fields. Most people get a few years of relevant work experience under their belt first and then get a masters for the boost AFTER that, unless they're aiming for academia (or are in those few specific fields).
I agree, and that's what I did. I had seven years experience in a related field before I finished my masters. I mainly got it to justify a pay increase . Honestly, Im beginning to doubt whether even experience matters. Things like connections and how sexy/attractive one looks seem to matter more.

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In 3 months you have had a 6 interviews & you are complaining you are tired of having to go through the process. It makes me Q your work ethic.

At the very least you need to be sending out enough resumes & job applications to get 1-2 job interviews per week. Assume you will only get offered an interview for less than 5% of the positions you apply for. Are you going to job fairs? Are you networking & by that I mean going to at least 1 event per week where you can meet people face to face who have the potential to hire you? Have you spoken to any headhunters? Have you submitted your name to any employment agencies? Have you done any mock interviews for pointers on how you can present yourself better in person?

Getting a job can be more work then having a job. Keep plugging along.
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In 3 months you have had a 6 interviews & you are complaining you are tired of having to go through the process. It makes me Q your work ethic.

At the very least you need to be sending out enough resumes & job applications to get 1-2 job interviews per week. Assume you will only get offered an interview for less than 5% of the positions you apply for. Are you going to job fairs? Are you networking & by that I mean going to at least 1 event per week where you can meet people face to face who have the potential to hire you? Have you spoken to any headhunters? Have you submitted your name to any employment agencies? Have you done any mock interviews for pointers on how you can present yourself better in person?

Getting a job can be more work then having a job. Keep plugging along.
I send in resumes every single day. Sometimes three a day. I did have two interviews this week but I dread the idea of doing any more of them. I truly hate doing job interviews. Job fairs are a waste of time. Headhunters in this area are mostly just looking to fill low level office assistant jobs or trade jobs I'm not qualified for.

The whole thing seems hopeless at this point. Hopeless.

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Old 28th July 2017, 9:03 AM   #56
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Interviewing is no fun; you're right but at least you are getting interviews. Some people don't even get that.

Have you considered joining a support group for people looking for work?

Try making it an adventure. Build something into the interview for yourself. Perhaps try a new restaurant near the job or scope out the area / scene.

Seriously, though. Hang in there.
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Interviewing is no fun; you're right but at least you are getting interviews. Some people don't even get that.

Have you considered joining a support group for people looking for work?

Try making it an adventure. Build something into the interview for yourself. Perhaps try a new restaurant near the job or scope out the area / scene.

Seriously, though. Hang in there.
No support group, but something that makes me feel better is that I have my resignation letter typed up ready for the day when I get to hit send. Most would say I should be grateful that I have a job, but I have come to hate where I work because I do not feel appreciated and the pay sucks.
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I don't think you're gonna feel appreciated anywhere if you're so vulnerable to perceived slights, to the point where you don't even want to work with someone who beat you out for a job. With that mindset it's only a matter of time till you feel the same way at whatever new job you end up getting. =/
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if your getting interviews, your resume is good
if your not getting the job, you need to review your interview to see why that is happening.

your interviewing for a position your qualified for on paper. that's why they brought you in. your disqualifying yourself in the interview...why?

find out why, you will get the job
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Redguitar35, sorry to hear about that frustration that youíre going through.

I think I know where youíre coming from. I had an master degree, in fact I actually was pursuing a Phd degree and in the process of looking for a job, I actually took 10 months to find the current job that Iím in. Applied for the field that I was looking for 100 plus jobs and only heard about 2 jobs that at the end came with an offer. (FYI: 100 jobs were those who even were willing to have an interview with me. So Iíve send more than 100 application outs)

I too was in a toxic work environment that chewed up my marriage and physical health from depression and anxiety. But I do think the work place is hard and itís hard to get a job today. I even saw a stat that youíre not really able to get a job with the field that people often majored in college or even with their master. I in fact am not quite in the field that I have studied and prepared myself for.

I will say keep applying and wait on the Lord. Thereís an old proverbs it says, ďTrust in the lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding and He shall direct your path" (Prov. 3:5-6) I will take time and on Godís right timing, everything will come to flourishing.

Praying for you.
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