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Old 11th May 2017, 9:24 PM   #1
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Unhappy Qualified, interviewed, but didn't get the job

Im really underpaid and basically live paycheck to paycheck. I've been in my current position about five years and have been struggling trying to find something that pays better than the job I have now. A friend forwarded to me a job posting. It pays $20,000 more than I'm currently making for doing...the exact same job I'm doing now. I thought, "someone's getting paid that for my job? I better apply." I had great experience in every single qualification the listing called for. I even went to the same graduate program with one of the managers there. So I interviewed, and that seemed to go great. It felt more like a conversation than an interview.

Anyway, fast forward a few days, and I get a call from them saying that they decided to go with another candidate. They said they wanted to make sure I understood how much they liked me, it was a hard decision and that the hiring manager was "distraught". They asked if I might be interested in applying for some position they're thinking about opening in a month or so that's more on the research assistant staff side of things. I just said I'd be willing to look at the job posting if that came up but it's hard to say without seeing the salary and description. that was it.


I'm really not holding my breath on any of that. But do you think what they said was sincere or just BS to soften the blow?


Also, I feel really gut-punched by the whole thing. If I can't get hired for something I'm qualified for, why bother sending out any more applications?

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Old 11th May 2017, 9:40 PM   #2
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Getting hired requires a lot of things: timing, qualifications & fit. Just because you have the qualifications doesn't mean someone isn't a better fit. The fact that this company was encouraging you to hang on means you have solid credentials. This was one job. Like getting a great relationship, it's the law of large numbers. Keep applying.
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Old 11th May 2017, 11:07 PM   #3
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I don't think it was really something I would enjoy doing for eight hours a day, I just wanted the salary. I feel like I'm never going to get paid more than the peanuts I'm getting paid now. I can't even afford to travel somewhere on what I'm making. It's depressing.
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Old 13th May 2017, 10:38 AM   #4
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I know the feeling. I spent almost two years applying to anything and everything tangentially related to my area of study. I must have sent out over 200 applications/resumes. I had three interviews. It was extremely discouraging. It sucked.

But in the end the only choices are to give up or keep trying. I think that is an easy choice to make. Keep trying. Keep networking. Keep applying. Keep a positive attitude.
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Old 13th May 2017, 5:14 PM   #5
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To be honest, it sounds like they really did like you enough to want to offer you a different job--maybe another person really was a better fit for the job at this time.

If you didn't actually play that hard to get and tell them "it depends on the salary," and if your current job is unacceptably bad, you should follow up with them. If nothing else, you have a chance at networking with people you wouldn't have met at this place you've been at for five years.
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To be honest, it sounds like they really did like you enough to want to offer you a different job--maybe another person really was a better fit for the job at this time.

If you didn't actually play that hard to get and tell them "it depends on the salary," and if your current job is unacceptably bad, you should follow up with them. If nothing else, you have a chance at networking with people you wouldn't have met at this place you've been at for five years.
Not trying to play hard to get, the truth is I'm only looking for a higher salary. That's my goal. If what they're talking about is a staff position that pays less than or equal to what I'm currently making, as the staff positions at that company generally do, i'm just not interested. I hope they don't think I wanted that job just because I "like" them lol. I wanted it because I knew how to do everything the job announcement called for and it pays better than my current job. But they did not choose me and now I feel that I can't even get a good job in an area where I have experience. It's as if my experience and credentials mean nothing.

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Old 14th May 2017, 7:47 AM   #7
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Getting a new job is a numbers game. It used to be before computers that you would get interviews for 5% of the jobs you applied for. That number has gone down with the advent of Monster, Indeed, etc.


So for 100 resumes / applications you send out, expect to get 1-2 interviews.


How many applications per day are you sending? You have to view finding a new job as your 2nd job right now. It takes time, effort & patience. Don't give up. Keep plugging away. Do not send any applications from your work computer.


Also network. Make sure people you know outside of work are aware that you are looking for a new job. Attend job fairs. Check job boards at your old schools.
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Old 14th May 2017, 10:44 AM   #8
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I know the feeling. I spent almost two years applying to anything and everything tangentially related to my area of study. I must have sent out over 200 applications/resumes. I had three interviews. It was extremely discouraging. It sucked.

But in the end the only choices are to give up or keep trying. I think that is an easy choice to make. Keep trying. Keep networking. Keep applying. Keep a positive attitude.
Did you end up getting a decent paying job in your field? Or did you end up having to settle for a menial job (e.g., retail) or returning to school for a different field of study? What are you doing now?
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Old 14th May 2017, 10:54 AM   #9
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Donít give up! You canít get ahead and where you want in life if you give up. I understand your frustration. After I finished my first masters degree, all i could get were several part-time jobs to make ends meet.

Set aside some time each week to solely focus on new job/career (whether it be sending out applications, networking, going to a an event, volunteering, etc.) Get down your elevator pitch, know clearly where you want to go so you can voice your vision to people who can assist you. Make sure you're clearly express your skills on paper and LinkedIn.

You should keep applying to jobs you feel qualified for and even ones you donít think youíre qualified for. You never know you may get an interview for those as well. I think interviews largely come down to "best fit". Several qualified people are interviewing for the same position. One interviewer may love you but others may click with someone else more. I think the place you interviewed for wasn't blowing smoke up your *** they probably did truly like you.

As far as salary, dude just interview, you can try negotiating for a higher salary within reason in most fields. If nothing else having those offers that you can turn down will at least boost your confidence in your job search. And there is something to be said about having confidence when you walk into an interview.

I highly recommend the book ď60 seconds and youíre hiredĒ

Never give up when it comes to your professional life my friend. You have a vision of something more for yourself, dont give up on that!
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On the hiring side of things being second can work out. Often times the first pick doesn't work out... gets in and is a flake, or never shows up, or a whole host of other things. Could be that you get called in a month to see if you are still interested in that same job. Don't hold everything off based on that, but it does happen.
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Old 19th May 2017, 3:08 PM   #11
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Getting a new job is a numbers game. It used to be before computers that you would get interviews for 5% of the jobs you applied for. That number has gone down with the advent of Monster, Indeed, etc.


So for 100 resumes / applications you send out, expect to get 1-2 interviews.


How many applications per day are you sending?
I actually don't apply for that many jobs. I only apply for ones that I think closely match my experience and that I think I'm not over or under qualified for, and my interview rate is closer to 50 percent of the jobs I apply for. The problem is this "fit" thing once I get to the interview stage. I don't even know what that means.



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If you didn't actually play that hard to get and tell them "it depends on the salary," and if your current job is unacceptably bad, you should follow up with them.
I don't think I owed 'em anymore than what I said there.
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I actually don't apply for that many jobs. I only apply for ones that I think closely match my experience and that I think I'm not over or under qualified for, and my interview rate is closer to 50 percent of the jobs I apply for. The problem is this "fit" thing once I get to the interview stage. I don't even know what that means. .
Good for you on the interview rate.

The "fit" has to do with corporate culture. If they are a casual place & you show up in a suit & tie, you don't fit.

On the interpersonal level, finding a good job match is a little like dating. The interviewers have to connect with you on a personal level not just based on your qualifications. They are trying to figure out if they want to spend 8 hours per day 5 days per week with you.

To improve your chance of fitting in, do your research about the company. Talk to anyone you know who works there or may have worked there. Read trade publications about the company. Read blogs by past disgruntled employees. Ask Qs at the interview about their expectations & then explain why you fit the bill. In essence make them like you as a person not just somebody who can get the job done.
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Old 20th May 2017, 4:36 PM   #13
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I don't think I owed 'em anymore than what I said there.
Oh, sorry. I had the impression you were really miserable at your current job. But if you're not, carry on I guess.
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I think I've been through over 50 interviews during my lifetime. There was just one time I was told the interviewers hoped I would reapply for future openings. That was on a job where I felt I'd interviewed well and was a good match for them. I think if they ask you to reapply it's because you really were a top contender and have a good shot of getting the job next time.
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Oh, sorry. I had the impression you were really miserable at your current job. But if you're not, carry on I guess.
I wouldn't say where I work now is a bad place to work. Actually I think it's pretty great except for the fact that they are grossly underpaying me (which they've acknowledged). I've been there five years, finished a masters while I was working there, and there are places that are paying twice what I'm making for comparable work and experience. I would ask for a raise, but they really don't have the budget to pay what I should be earning. I feel like they're just taking advantage of me at this point is how I would summarize my feelings about the people I work for.
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