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Old 13th November 2015, 10:16 PM   #1
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"Don't Look Up My Skirt While We're Walking Up Here!"

Is precisely what my boss said to me as we're walking upstairs. She was saying this in a jokingly way, but honestly throughout the whole day she was being...how do i call it...weird. She would go on and on about how she looked. I admit she did look good, she had the knee high boot with knee high sock look going.

"There better not be anyone with a camera near this ladder if i climb it."

I chalk these quotes up to her playful demeanor, but for some reason, it has me intrigued as well as her body language towards me..

Examples:

We are in a meeting, both of us are in sitting in the back. She angles her chair 90 degrees directly to me. Crosses her legs, shoe pointing at me, rocking her foot and back and forth. I am a sucker for this, so i was instantly distracted. She probably noticed I caught a glimpse.

In same meeting, when she wants to get my attention, she flicks my thigh. Most would tap my shoulder.

When sitting directly at a desk in front of me. She sits, legs spread fairly wide open (Wearing jeans, but still intriguing)

Laughs are corny jokes. (Did you hear about the skeleton who didnt go to the party? He had no-BODY to go with... that prompted a howl and a snort of laugh)

Eyes have a bit of sparkle when she talks to me.

Sticks up for me and it's well established im her favorite over other employees.


I proud myself on having a great working relationship with her over the course of the 5 years. Is she hinting that she is interested in me? Not gonna lie, I feel like this is 8th grade, but i also feel that im getting attracted to her. I am blaming that on the fact that we have worked a ridiculous amounts of hours over the course of the summer w/o spending much time with others besides coworkers.

Oh, one minor detail. She's married..

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Old 13th November 2015, 10:51 PM   #2
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What do you think will happen when this goes pear shaped?
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Old 13th November 2015, 11:01 PM   #3
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Oh, one minor detail. She's married..
One other minor detail. So is her husband. Keep away.
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Old 13th November 2015, 11:13 PM   #4
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silly question but are you recounting Sharon Stones Character role in Basic Instincts? Is that who your bosss is? Gosh, get her autograph for me please?
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She's married and she's your boss.

And chances are, she's not interested... just weird.

Don't pursue this. You'll look silly at best.
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Old 14th November 2015, 12:17 PM   #6
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This is just work place banter.
It makes the day fun.
Don't go reading anything into it.
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Old 14th November 2015, 5:46 PM   #7
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Yes she likes you, yes she's flirting with you....should you do anything about it?
Not unless you want half to 3/4 of the rest of the office to think that you're home wrecking scum, or you fancy an upper cut from the husband.

Next time she makes comment about what's up her skirt, tell her firmly but politely that your not interested in engaging in inappropriate workplace banter as it only leads to trouble. Put a stop to it.
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Old 16th November 2015, 10:03 AM   #8
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Ugh your boss is VERY inappropriate!
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Old 16th November 2015, 10:24 AM   #9
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When she says stuff, or acts a certain way, say something completely out of left field and something she probably couldnt care less about......

"Hey, how about those (use whatever team you want)"...or, something like "Boy, the Nasdaq market has really been up and down lately, which direction do you thing its headed in the next quarter"?

That ill bring her back down to earth..Dont give her the satisfaction..She is a dope...

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Old 16th November 2015, 11:02 AM   #10
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Is precisely what my boss said to me as we're walking upstairs. She was saying this in a jokingly way, but honestly throughout the whole day she was being...how do i call it...weird. She would go on and on about how she looked. I admit she did look good, she had the knee high boot with knee high sock look going.

"There better not be anyone with a camera near this ladder if i climb it."

I chalk these quotes up to her playful demeanor, but for some reason, it has me intrigued as well as her body language towards me..

Examples:

We are in a meeting, both of us are in sitting in the back. She angles her chair 90 degrees directly to me. Crosses her legs, shoe pointing at me, rocking her foot and back and forth. I am a sucker for this, so i was instantly distracted. She probably noticed I caught a glimpse.

In same meeting, when she wants to get my attention, she flicks my thigh. Most would tap my shoulder.

When sitting directly at a desk in front of me. She sits, legs spread fairly wide open (Wearing jeans, but still intriguing)

Laughs are corny jokes. (Did you hear about the skeleton who didnt go to the party? He had no-BODY to go with... that prompted a howl and a snort of laugh)

Eyes have a bit of sparkle when she talks to me.

Sticks up for me and it's well established im her favorite over other employees.


I proud myself on having a great working relationship with her over the course of the 5 years. Is she hinting that she is interested in me? Not gonna lie, I feel like this is 8th grade, but i also feel that im getting attracted to her. I am blaming that on the fact that we have worked a ridiculous amounts of hours over the course of the summer w/o spending much time with others besides coworkers.

Oh, one minor detail. She's married..
Not sure..You looking for approval to bang a married chick?
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Old 16th November 2015, 4:44 PM   #11
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Well, she is kind of playing with fire joking at work because it's a fine line to teasing. She surely knows by now it doesn't take much provocation to put a man's mind in the gutter. If she made a comment again about not looking up her skirty or similar, I'd have said, "Never would have occurred to me until you suggested it."

I get your interest, but seriously, she's married, she's your boss. Your hands are tied and must remain so. Too dangerous. Sounds like she's in a real position of power, so I'm going to tell you what I'd tell a woman in the same circumstance, and that is, this isn't a person who's afraid to go get what she wants and speak right up about it in a direct way. What I think you have on your hands is the earned trust of someone who enjoys a little playful joking and, yes, maybe flirting, but probably has no intention of it going any further, and pours it on you because you've been there for awhile and she's come to trust you won't take it the wrong way.

She sounds happy, so there's no reason to think her marriage is crumbling or I'd suggest you find a casual way to ask about that. But a woman whose marriage is failing isn't this happy and cajoling. We've all got a girl down there deep inside. She showed you hers, but you've got to understand the boundary. Good luck.
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Old 16th November 2015, 9:06 PM   #12
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What I think you have on your hands is the earned trust of someone who enjoys a little playful joking and, yes, maybe flirting, but probably has no intention of it going any further, and pours it on you because you've been there for awhile and she's come to trust you won't take it the wrong way.
This was what I was thinking too... however today, another weird situation. She was wearing a fairly provactive outfit for mid November. Kept on arching her back saying "Ohhh, i need a massage, what do you think?"

She was wearing an outfit that included tights with boots which is normal, but she wasn't wearing anything to cover up her back side. I am notfashion expert, but after hearing a few whispers from other females, they were questioning why she didn't wear a longer top to cover it up. Normally, I wouldn't say much, but she did two things that were again odd. First, she sits to the right of me but her back is to me as she has a corner desk. So when she would get up, she would purposely bend over so she her entire rump was in my periphery. I'd like to think she was unaware of her surroundings, but she kind of just stayed in that position for awhile and every fiber in my being tried not to look...

She broke the ice later in the day asking if this particular outfit made her butt look big?

Uhhh...still don't what to make of this peculiar woman.

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Old 16th November 2015, 11:19 PM   #13
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Uhhh...still don't what to make of this peculiar woman.
She's horny? Inappropriate? Unprofessional? Wants you to bang her doggy style on the conference room desk?

You decide.

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You need to masturbate before you go to work. You sound like you haven't seen female genitalia before. Seriously are you that distracted by an outfit.... sadness. I thought that was only happening on teenage boys..

While you're beating around the bush wasting time checking out your boss...I think I'm already on my third gf since you started your story
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Old 17th November 2015, 1:47 PM   #15
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It is sexual harassment and whether or not you have an issue with it a third party, that has to hear it could easily complain. She is walking a clear path to termination. Lovely.
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