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Old 24th February 2015, 3:48 PM   #16
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Yeah, yeah, everybody has a "glad I didn't burn bridges because they later offered me my dream job" story. ho hum

While I’ve never written a snarky reply to a reject letter, I can think of two situations years ago where I interviewed for a job and on the way out the door decided “no way do I want to work here”. One of the employers called me and actually made an offer, and even though the money was a lot better, I said “No, thanks”. They asked why and I said “I’ve decided to keep looking. I wouldn't be happy there. Good luck with your search. Gotta go, buhbye.” They probably didn’t like being rejected but such is life.

When I was between jobs and money was tight (about 20+ yrs ago) I was called to interview for a job where the turnover was high (revolving door) and the boss who interviewed me was an obnoxious dick. Even sitting in the lobby I could overhear lots of gossip and office politics. I received a form reject letter, laughed, and tossed it into the trash. I continued to work temp jobs and eventually got a really good position from which I retired.
Turning down a job is anyone's prerogative, just as it is an employer's prerogative to only hire who they want. People are not objecting to that. They are objecting to the attitude and behavior of "Jane", and also to yours. You asked for opinions, posters don't agree, you act childish and lash out at them, just like "Jane". It's am immature, angry reaction. Anger is based in fear, hurt, or guilt, and only hurts the person that holds onto the anger.

Do you think the employer that got Jane's letter was angered or hurt by it? Hell no. It was probably the best laugh they got in weeks.
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Old 24th February 2015, 4:31 PM   #17
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Since they knew she was coming in, they had already done their research and ruled her out or they'd have interviewed her. So better they let her know asap than not at all.
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Old 24th February 2015, 4:34 PM   #18
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Since they knew she was coming in, they had already done their research and ruled her out or they'd have interviewed her. So better they let her know asap than not at all.
And you know this how? Did you read? - as stated in the opening post, they hired someone else on the spot. Indications are they didn't do any "research" at all. They were too busy being dazzled by a tap dance.
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Do you think the employer that got Jane's letter was angered or hurt by it? Hell no. It was probably the best laugh they got in weeks.
Great! So all's well that ends well! Hope the laughing continues. Heh.

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Old 24th February 2015, 7:29 PM   #19
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Haha! Seriously?

So essentially you folks think Jane should have thanked them for blowing her off and taken them freshly baked cookies. Get real.

They hired someone on the spot without even having time to do a background or reference check. Most likely that person who was “soooo strong” is a BS artist who 1) lied about her skills/qualifications 2) will create chaos in the office 3) will steal/embezzle then disappear.

I agree that when things don’t "work out" and the you-know-what hits the fan, it will be THEIR problem. Jane definitely dodged a bullet.
Who said anything about thanking them or sending them cookies? This is exaggerated obviously, but really why is so bitter and got her knickers in a knot about this? They had the courtesy to call her and tell her the position was filled. She totally over reacted and acted unprofessional by sending that note.

Bolded, that's quite an assumption. Maybe this person is known to them or was highly recommended by another company they knew. Who knows?
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And you know this how? Did you read? - as stated in the opening post, they hired someone else on the spot. Indications are they didn't do any "research" at all. They were too busy being dazzled by a tap dance.Great! So all's well that ends well! Hope the laughing continues. Heh.
You seem to be taking this to the heart and too personally as well. Your reactions and bit of irritation or maybe anger at people's replies makes me wonder if you are "Jane".

Just FYI, they will in the future do a check on her and there will be a probation time for her as well, so IF they made a mistake by hiring her, after x amount of months if things aren't working out, then can let her go.
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Old 24th February 2015, 7:49 PM   #21
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umm.........yeah......... okey dokey.
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Old 24th February 2015, 7:55 PM   #22
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Wow that was extremely immature. All because she lost a day from work? Seriously? Was this person that pressed for days off that it made her resort to the pettiest of measures?

I would never fathom doing something like this; lacks tact and maturity. The fact that she made it so far means that perhaps they would have considered her should another similar position arise and she would jump the que. She should have written an angry email and sent it to her self to vent. End of.

What if she was offered another solid position before the interview? Maybe she would have turned down the interview. All is fair. I cannot believe anyone would think this is appropriate or professional or practical behavior. I hope she's young, fresh and green in the work field, otherwise, this speaks volumes about character and/or when she doesn't get things her way!

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Old 24th February 2015, 9:31 PM   #23
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Puhleeze.I'm retired. Not ancient but most likely old enough to be Jane's grandmother.Using your logic I could say that you are the flakey employer, or that you've had trouble finding a job so you put up with anything just to get on payroll somewhere/anywhere.
I'm baffled that "she could be your granddaughter" yet there was no sage advice but rather egging her on. LOL. Wow.

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Old 25th February 2015, 12:53 PM   #24
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What's often baffling to *me* is why people type "LOL" at the end of their sentences. Apparently that’s their way of saying “Hey, people. I said something funny, so you're supposed to laugh.” Kinda juvenile and pathetic.
“Sage”? I don’t have to be sage. I wasn’t asked for advice. If I had been, I would have just said “Good for you!”, cackled, and tossed my walker into the air.
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Old 25th February 2015, 1:30 PM   #25
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To be quite honest I think her response will be a source of amusement.


Sending something like that back just sounds bitter to me.


Companies and staff are much more into business networking now. Not via facebook but via other business related sites. Plus companies tend to help each other more these days and have partner links much moreso than ever before.
There was barely any of that when I started work years ago.


Now though in particular fields of business or employment this kind of response will be talked about - you can pretty much guarantee that.




She wasn't treated badly, I think the only error was the person who spoke to her enthusing so much.
However, if Jane was feeling bitter (as we can see she was) then it's possible that she exaggerated about the enthusing of the person they picked.


I think it was a very unprofessional move on Jane's part.
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Old 25th February 2015, 1:43 PM   #26
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If I was the person who signed the letter, I’d be taken aback somewhat and just chalk it up to someone being disappointed they didn’t get the job. Not sure I’d be laughing. If everyone at the office knows about it, it would only be because HR or the hiring authority told everyone. Is THAT professional? And if there is high turnover at the company and other staff laughed about the letter then most likely they’re hoping they can get out soon just like the person who vacated the position.
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If I was the person who signed the letter, I’d be taken aback somewhat and just chalk it up to someone being disappointed they didn’t get the job. Not sure I’d be laughing. If everyone at the office knows about it, it would only be because HR or the hiring authority told everyone. Is THAT professional? And if there is high turnover at the company and other staff laughed about the letter then most likely they’re hoping they can get out soon just like the person who vacated the position.

Managers want to know responses from candidates.
This would not be known company wide down to the admin staff or filing clerk.
HR would know, managers and directors would also know.


These are the people who network the most and also the ones who recruit.
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I fail to see how "Jane" was treated horribly. They decided to go with a stronger candidate and informed her which is their right. S*it happens. "Jane" shouldn't act like a 2 year old.

As for assuming that a stronger candidate must have lied and is going to steal etc? WTF.
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Old 26th February 2015, 5:47 PM   #29
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I fail to see how "Jane" was treated horribly. They decided to go with a stronger candidate and informed her which is their right. S*it happens. "Jane" shouldn't act like a 2 year old.

As for assuming that a stronger candidate must have lied and is going to steal etc? WTF.

I don't see how they could know if the person they hired was stronger than other candidates who they arranged to interview but didn't bother to even meet/interview. As I said before, they were dazzled by a tap dance. Re: your 'WTF'~~> When it looks too good to be true it usually is.

I retired from a large utility company. Years ago their Legal Dept (of all places) quickly hired a “paralegal” who they fell in love with after one interview. HR never checked her out – at all - until after she was on payroll. After a few weeks she was asked to produce certain certifications, diploma, etc. She delayed and made excuses. Turned out she was not a paralegal, never went to college despite listing a degree from prestigious college on her resume, had no diploma, and had lied about her experience. She had never worked at some of the places listed on her resume. Upshot is they had security watch her pack her personal items and escort her fraudulent butt out of the building.

Some of you who haven’t been around much apparently don’t realize that all is not always what it appears to be.
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So you're speculating the this company that Jane didn't get hired for doesn't do their due diligence when hiring new people? Do you have evidence for this?

I can understand why you'd be upset that Jane didn't get her shot at the job, but to assume that the other candidate is not worthy of the job is a stretch, don't you think?

I've been around the block hiring plenty of new people. When the right candidate comes along, the right candidate comes along. Sometimes there's no need to look any further.
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