Easyguy14 Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Honestly I don't even know why I went on there. Guess I was bored. I mean, this guy isn't my boss-boss since I do freelance work now, but I agreed to be a part of his embalming team 3 days a week at any hour I choose to come in so in a way yea. So after he caught me on the site he just stood there and he gave me this look and said don't let it happen again but he continued to keep giving me 'the look' since it happened today up until I finished my duties and got the hell out of there. Now I'm waiting for others to know about it and I cant get 'the look' he kept giving me out of my mind. So troublesome. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Tell him that being a mortician is depressing and you wanted to be reminded of how life is created. Maybe he was afraid you'd start screwing the clients. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Easyguy14 Posted July 27, 2013 Author Share Posted July 27, 2013 Tell him that being a mortician is depressing and you wanted to be reminded of how life is created. Maybe he was afraid you'd start screwing the clients. Its very interesting to see all the funeral jokes from ignorant people when my issue has nothing to do with that but thanks for replying anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Act like it never happened. I would suggest worse things have happened in his life - and yours - so if you let it flow like 'water off a duck's back' it will blow over and get forgotten more quickly. Act natural, and just go about doing your job. Oh, and (I'm serious) whistle. You'll find whistling people have a 'devil may care' attitude, and it's impossible to whistle if you're down or depressed. So whistle, and just act buoyant. (or hum lightly if whistling is inappropriate). It will pass. I promise you. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
HokeyReligions Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Even if you are on your own pc but on the job porn sites are a no-no. If you wre on a company pc I'm surprised there are no filters to keep people from accessing the site. Where I work that would be a firing offense. Consider yourself lucky you just got a warning. If word gets out you might lose this opportunity and worst case scenario you could damage your career reputation. Especially in the funeral industry. Even if you are interning or volunteering, you are representing that company. If people find out it won't matter that its never happened before. The funeral home or mortuary services company could suffer. There are problems with those who do molest bodies. I thought about being a funeral directo and/or mortician and took some classes. I had a sponsor and a internship lined up. One of the first courses I took was business ethics followed by industry ethics. I wouldn't be acting cool about it, I would lean more to the contrite side. BTW I have a gallows sense of humor and some of the best jokes and jokers I met are in the funeral and mortuary sciences fields. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 And I thought getting caught on non-work related sites was a no-no. This must be awkward, but the only advice I have for you is not to let it happen again. Why would you be looking at porn where someone could see you anyways? Reminds me of when my husband said he saw some kid in his high school library bolt from the computer when it froze while he was on a porn site. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I personally would have blamed it on a link in a spam message or something technical. Man I bet you were sweating. I have done similar (not porn but equally non-work related) about 2 seconds before my boss saw it so I can imagine. I agree with TaraMaiden, just act like it didn't happen. Try to blow it off. Hopefully someone else in the office will do something off the wall and take the attention from you. Maybe send an email to your boss with a carefully disguised porn link in it (not from your inbox of course) and get him to appear to make the same mistake you did. Just joking of course 1 Link to post Share on other sites
UpwardForward Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I wouldn't let it happen again. The work place these days seems to be of those who use the computer for non work related while looking to co-workers for mating. Imo, employers have a right to expect more. (even if it wasn't your 'boss-boss'). Someone's paying the bills. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Negative Nancy Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I would have fired you right away, that is absolutely non-professional. Are men so pathetic and addicted to porn nowadays that they can't even function properly for some 8 professional hours without it? God help us if you were to be a doctor or a firefighter. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 I would have fired you right away, that is absolutely non-professional. Are men so pathetic and addicted to porn nowadays that they can't even function properly for some 8 professional hours without it? God help us if you were to be a doctor or a firefighter. Then you'd be had up in an Employment tribunal for wrongful dismissal. it's not Gross Misconduct, an instant dismissal offence, and you'd lose. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IamLegend Posted July 27, 2013 Share Posted July 27, 2013 Honestly I don't even know why I went on there. Guess I was bored. I mean, this guy isn't my boss-boss since I do freelance work now, but I agreed to be a part of his embalming team 3 days a week at any hour I choose to come in so in a way yea. So after he caught me on the site he just stood there and he gave me this look and said don't let it happen again but he continued to keep giving me 'the look' since it happened today up until I finished my duties and got the hell out of there. Now I'm waiting for others to know about it and I cant get 'the look' he kept giving me out of my mind. So troublesome. hahaha this made my day... I've done this before man but Who cares. He probably watches porn at home aswell & i'm sure whoever he told does too. Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 BTW I have a gallows sense of humor and some of the best jokes and jokers I met are in the funeral and mortuary sciences fields. I dated a mortician and he had a great sense of humor. In that business I think you have to given some of the stuff you are subjected to. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Reminds me of when my husband said he saw some kid in his high school library bolt from the computer when it froze while he was on a porn site. That is a whole other thread. I believe porn sites should be blocked at public libraries unless you can prove you are over eighteen. Even then, children could walk by and see them. You'd think it would be common sense but people go crazy shouting "free speech." Yet they wouldn't let kids into an adult sex shop where they'd see the same things. Don't get me started! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LisaLee Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 LOL, wow that is unprofessional. I would just ignore it, pretend it never happen, and really never do it again. You are ballsy, though. Geez, I get antsy when I am bored and get on Wikipedia at work. Ahh, this one time I was looking up a cardholder's odd transaction to see what it was and when I googled it came up with penis pumps. I did this with the cardholder on the phone, the whole time he was nervous and blabbering saying he didn't make the purchase. LOL, it was a lovely awkward moment. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
LBean Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 That is the worst... Pretend it never happened, when I was younger I got caught giving my boyfriend a bj in the mailroom where I used to work, it was a temp job and very laid back (not that laidback) My manager walked in and just kept talking like nothing happened, I had to work overtime with him the next day alone. He never said a word about it, but kept shaking his head at me every few minutes. I was so sure I was going to get canned (and deservedly so) but he just acted as if it never went down (pun intended). Though he knocked whenever he entered a room I'd be in from then on - a painfully embarrassing reminder. Just never make the mistake again, porn should be kept at home 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Then you'd be had up in an Employment tribunal for wrongful dismissal. it's not Gross Misconduct, an instant dismissal offence, and you'd lose. I doubt it. I almost got fired last year for printing something non work related. God forbid that 10 cents worth of paper were to cost me my job. He definitely can and would be fired for doing something like that by most employers. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Easyguy... what is the company policy on this ? Link to post Share on other sites
sweetjasmine Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Then you'd be had up in an Employment tribunal for wrongful dismissal. it's not Gross Misconduct, an instant dismissal offence, and you'd lose. Your country still has laws that protect workers. In the US, most states are at-will employment, and, yeah, in most cases, you could get fired for doing something like this. Or for literally no reason at all. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
D-Lish Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Then you'd be had up in an Employment tribunal for wrongful dismissal. it's not Gross Misconduct, an instant dismissal offence, and you'd lose. Seriously? It's a write up offense in most work cultures I've ever worked in. You're on company time, you're getting paid to work for the company- not surf porn. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
LBean Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 I don't think that Easyguy has a lot to worry about, if he did he probably would have known IMMEDIATELY. There are a lot worse things he could have been caught doing than checking out a porn site. If anything this is more a case of "I have to look this guy in the eyes for god knows how long." No, you shouldn't be doing it, and under certain circumstances it could get you fired. So could checking out your facebook, texting and taking personal calls, taking photos in the workplace (some of them), talking trash about coworkers/managers, wearing perfume/cologne - you can get written up for pretty much anything other than doing exactly what it is you're being paid for. I don't know a single person who isn't guilty of "stealing" some company time now and then. You got caught, it's humiliating, I'm going to guess this guy wants to forget it just as much as you do. Get caught again and I'd bet money that you would be out. Mostly, I think no one is going to want to talk about this. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Seriously? It's a write up offense in most work cultures I've ever worked in. You're on company time, you're getting paid to work for the company- not surf porn. Yes, seriously. It would have to be specified in the contract. If he worked for example, a Government department involved in say, monitoring the official spread and numbers of different religious groups and needed the internet as a specific part of his duties, then yes - he would probably be up for instant dismissal. His job doesn't focus specifically on the essential use of the internet so he would have to go through a disciplinary process; verbal, written, final written Disciplinary meeting, investigation, summary and finally, if all goes against him, dismissal. The above order depends on persistent repetitions of the same offence, and more importantly how long he's worked for the company. But even during the probationary period, it wouldn't warrant being kicked out. At the moment, it's an Employer's market; good jobs are scarce, Employers are getting more and more hours out of their employees without paying overtime, and redundancies are rife; but employees also have rights. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 Yes, seriously. It would have to be specified in the contract. If he worked for example, a Government department involved in say, monitoring the official spread and numbers of different religious groups and needed the internet as a specific part of his duties, then yes - he would probably be up for instant dismissal. His job doesn't focus specifically on the essential use of the internet so he would have to go through a disciplinary process; verbal, written, final written Disciplinary meeting, investigation, summary and finally, if all goes against him, dismissal. The above order depends on persistent repetitions of the same offence, and more importantly how long he's worked for the company. But even during the probationary period, it wouldn't warrant being kicked out. I know employers with unions have to follow those procedures, but even then, in the U.S. with at will employment laws, employers can fire you at any time for any reason just as you are not "required" to give notice when quitting unless you are a contract employee, although you should if you want to leave a job on good terms. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted July 28, 2013 Share Posted July 28, 2013 It's shocking actually, how employment regulations are being changed in law to suit the employer more and more, and the employee less and less. Ostensibly, it's being done to protect the employer from complicated court cases and vexatious litigation, but as with all 'well-intentioned' implementations, they can prove to be a disadvantage to genuine employees.... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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