Angel Lady Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 There's this bartender, let's call him Bob and Bob is 23. Let's refer to myself as M and I am 19. I've liked Bob for quite a while, truth be told I got him hired and so he owes me big time haha (: My mother recently bought the restaurant that me and Bob work at. Bob is a great employee and embodies what my mother calls "the ideal employee" and he got promoted to being the manager and we share this role. He does certain jobs like dealing with customers and the staff and I deal with the technical aspects of the job. I've just come to realize that in the 8 months that we've worked with each other, my feelings for him haven't changed. It's quite scary dreaming about him which has been happening more frequently now. Our "partnership" has been growing or I guess has been more prominent lately. My question is this: Do you happen to think that he might have some feelings for me? What's going through his mind? Does he like me? Does he have an interest? Here's just a few gestures that Ive noticed that goes on at work. We always eat dinner together He always eats my food, and since I give up fighting about it, we share dinners now Whenever Im sad he cheers me up and when Im happy he always teases/bug me Usually when we're working the restaurant together and our eyes meet, we always smile charmingly at each other across the room A few times he'd give me a hug from behind and wrap his arms around me He always buys me coffee just the way I like it And sometimes when customers aren't looking and Im sitting at the bar eating, I'd feed him some of my food... He even bought me a little cheesecake for my birthday, something I didn't expect There are moments where our eyes lock and we both wont look away from each other. He always has a blank stare, like he's thinking of something but he always turns away... Since I refuse to look away Yet at the same time he comes off as one of those flirtatious type of guys and he takes things very light heartedly. Always talking about his 3 loves in his life, "booze, money, and bitches" as he always refers to them lol. I just wanna know how to interpret his actions Link to post Share on other sites
thehead Posted March 17, 2013 Share Posted March 17, 2013 The hugging you from behind thing indicates interest. The other stuff you listed is open to interpretation. Your own crush might be influencing how you're judging his actions. For instance, I have a group of female friends as well as sisters so I'm used to reading moods and acting accordingly. If they're down, I try and cheer them up. If they're sick, I'll sometimes remember to bring them a juice or something. Point is, he might just be a thoughtful guy. So, as is the case with a lot of these situations, you're just going to have to jump in and take a chance by asking him out. Link to post Share on other sites
Konundrum Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 From a guy who is similarly lighthearted, its from rejection. If he were to ask you and you blew him off, he would only have been joking. If you said yes, he would accept the advance. If you make the first move, he will most likely welcome it if he is anything like me. Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 You guys are going to totally do it after closing hours. Are you thinking the cooler or just on a table? I suppose pool table but try not to leave a stain. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Angel Lady Posted March 18, 2013 Author Share Posted March 18, 2013 TheHead I would go in for the dive but I really don't want to jeopardize our professional relationship. We work and see each other every day but every single day its the same flirting and cute smiles from across the room while being really casual around each other. Maybe it's unrequited romance and its best to stay at the surface... Konundrum You do make a valid point. He has never asked me out... Buuuuut I did make the first move on him on his first day, way before my mother bought the restaurant. I never recall me rejecting him. At least not consciously, I have made it quite obvious that I am interested in him. I guess maybe we have different personalities and its harder for me to interpret his actions correctly? Pogo Stick Haha there are times when we occasionally have one of those intense stares/gazes and I thought he was going to jump out and grab my face but it hasn't happened... At least not yet haha I always secretly hope he does. We hang out after hours at the restaurant every night having dinner together, I give him a back rub, he makes a funny remark or burps to bother me and has a drink before he leaves while keeping me company. I wouldn't mind getting frisky on a barstool though lmao xD 1 Link to post Share on other sites
PogoStick Posted March 18, 2013 Share Posted March 18, 2013 Hell yea total porn style! Hike your skirt up a little and bend over one of the stools. <3 U!! Link to post Share on other sites
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