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Old 27th February 2013, 11:53 PM   #1
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22 years old and LOST!

Hello all,

I am lost in my life. I graduated in 2012 with a B.SC from a decent uni. I don't know what to do now. Should I try and get a job, go to a graduate school, go to a professional school (law or medical), or???

I really have no idea what interests me. Actually, pretty much everything seems "ok" to me, so I don't know what to pick to go on with in life.

I have applied to 40 jobs without even a single interview. I'm getting strongly discouraged. I feel like I will be bored in a job within weeks and will eventually quit.

Motivate me people!!!!

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Old 28th February 2013, 3:28 AM   #2
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You are still young, I am only a year and a half older than you and I only recently within the last year, became firm at what I wanted to do with my life. I would recommend not going to graduate school until you are absolutely sure what you want to do. Try out different jobs (me landing this job helped me decide what I wanted) go to a career center and take a placement test. As for the job search, it takes time before landing the perfect job. With the economy, you have to keep at it, don't get discouraged and eventually you will find something. It's better than giving up and not finding anything, right? Good luck!
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Old 28th February 2013, 3:15 PM   #3
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Your not the only one, I'm 22 pushing 23 this summer and that thought of being 25 soon scares me with no career or prospects.

I had 3jobs last year and dropped out of them all because I never liked one single one! I do get motivation from time to time but then have sudden come downs because I'm bored of life at the moment.

Try not to think about it and take each day as it comes.
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Old 28th February 2013, 6:49 PM   #4
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First off what in tha' Hell does "Like" have to do with anything when it comes to a job? Most jobs I've ever had up to including the Marine Corps I freaking initially hated. Most jobs are like that. It takes a good six months minimum before you can ever get your head wrapped around it enough. Until then you've got to reach down a grab yourself a handful of intenstinal fortnitude each day just to keep from walking out the front door! At your age no matter what job you get? Its going to suck! That's because you're starting out at the bottom.

Law school? Have you watched TV lately. I don't care where you live the Tv is covered up with commercials from ambulance chasing lawyers out trying to get any kind of work they can. My step brother is a lawyer. He's up before the crack of dawn, and on a good day he gets home to catch the 10 o'clock news. His monthly overhead alone is $8000 a month. That's before he can draw a single dime out of his practice for his and his own family use ~ that's just to keep his front doors open. Being a lawyer isn't all its cracked up to be. According to the Alabama Bar Assoication the average member earns about $35K a year.

The road to Hell is paved with good intentions. You may have a degree from here there and every where, from this University or that. But you never know where your going to end up 10,20,30 or even 40 years from now. There are plenty of "professionals" with profesional liscense and degrees that end working jobs that they would never in a million years have worked. S***T happens.

Life is what happens when you make other plans.

At your age? You've got to make the decision ~ You can pay now or you play latter. Or you can play now and pay for the ever-loving rest of your life. Why would want to waste even more years not acquiring and making money, even going into debt, when you can be out there makking money.

There are a lot of jobs that pay really good that don't require a college degree. Senior Auto Technicians (ASE certified mechanics that are certified and experienced auto mechanics on certain makes of cars such as Nissan, Toyota etc) earn around $80K a year. There's not only a demand for them? There's a national shortage of them. And you can go anywhere in the United States and start tomorrow.

My 28 year old DS never went to college, never went to trade school, yet he earns $72K a year, owns his own house, has some serious bucks in the bank. He started out OJT as a electrical lineman working as a gopher and fetcher. Worked his way up into the bucket working on power lines. This lead to his getting a job as a Nuclear Power Plant Operator trainess because he knows a lot about high voltage, how it works, the electrical power grid stations etc.

Eighty percent of the jobs out there don't require a college degree, but they do require addditional training beyond the high school level.

My advice? Get into something that you can always fall back on to no matter what life throws at you. HVAC technician comes to mind. It pays about $19 an hour, you can have your certificate in about a year and half, you can go anywhere in the country you want to and get a job, its something you can fall back on regardless of your age. Its actually simple work.

I guaranteee' you! Some old boy has a wife/GF? And the AC isn't working in the summertime or the heat isn't working in the wintertime? He's going to knoow no end of misery, bitchin', moaning, goaning and complaining until the AC / Furnance gets fixed. He will go and sell his Life blood to come up with the money. Plus he want be gettin' any action from her until it is fixed.

Industrial mechanic/maintenance. Again takes about two years or less, and is another 60 to 70K a year job ~ especially if you know about robots how to program them. Five or ten years in the trenches? You can go anywhere and get a job anywhere in the United States. You won't find these guys standing in the un-employment line I can promise you that!
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I've got to "jet out the tha door to work. I'll post more when I get in from work.
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Old 28th February 2013, 7:09 PM   #6
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First off what in tha' Hell does "Like" have to do with anything when it comes to a job?
This is so true!

Work is called work for a reason...

To the OP -- what did you think you would do after you got your degree? Do not go to graduate school or professional school just because you can't think of anything better to do. It's way too expensive a prospect.

You may need to consider looking for jobs in areas beyond your field or in other parts of the country. Get creative. If you graduated last May, you are coming up on a year unemployed, which doesn't look great on the resume. I assume you are doing something in the meantime?
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Old 2nd March 2013, 2:20 AM   #7
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This is so true!

Work is called work for a reason...

To the OP -- what did you think you would do after you got your degree? Do not go to graduate school or professional school just because you can't think of anything better to do. It's way too expensive a prospect.

You may need to consider looking for jobs in areas beyond your field or in other parts of the country. Get creative. If you graduated last May, you are coming up on a year unemployed, which doesn't look great on the resume. I assume you are doing something in the meantime?

I have to disagree, you have to like your job somewhat to go everyday or you will not be productive. That's what the interviews are for to see if the job fits your needs. Who accepts a job that they don't like??
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Old 2nd March 2013, 7:55 AM   #8
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I have to disagree, you have to like your job somewhat to go everyday or you will not be productive. That's what the interviews are for to see if the job fits your needs. Who accepts a job that they don't like??
Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm? Let me think here?

How about 12 million illegal immigrants in the United States?

Or how about the 2 million plus that are in prison with criminal convictions and records?

Oh! Oh! I know! How about the freaking FORTY-THREE MILLION AMERCIANS THAT CAN'T FIND A JOB!?
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Old 2nd March 2013, 12:15 PM   #9
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm? Let me think here?

How about 12 million illegal immigrants in the United States?

Or how about the 2 million plus that are in prison with criminal convictions and records?

Oh! Oh! I know! How about the freaking FORTY-THREE MILLION AMERCIANS THAT CAN'T FIND A JOB!?
Yep, people do a lot of things they dread, just to make ends meet. Don't you think most people who work a second job would much rather be at home with their families? Any cog biding his time until retirement, loathes his job.
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Old 2nd March 2013, 12:58 PM   #10
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Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm? Let me think here?

How about 12 million illegal immigrants in the United States?

Or how about the 2 million plus that are in prison with criminal convictions and records?

Oh! Oh! I know! How about the freaking FORTY-THREE MILLION AMERCIANS THAT CAN'T FIND A JOB!?

Well those people should have taken full advantage of the interview process. When I was job seeking all through 2012 I knew that I did not want a job that dealt with a lot of public speaking and traveling. When I got to the interview the lady told me the position requires me to be in all the time which was the thing that made me accept the job.

So I don't accept jobs I don't like and never plan to
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Old 2nd March 2013, 1:16 PM   #11
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Well those people should have taken full advantage of the interview process. When I was job seeking all through 2012 I knew that I did not want a job that dealt with a lot of public speaking and traveling. When I got to the interview the lady told me the position requires me to be in all the time which was the thing that made me accept the job.

So I don't accept jobs I don't like and never plan to
Could have, would have, should have...Everyone has a different situation. If you had children that depended on you to keep a roof over their heads, and food in their bellies, you would see the job market differently and realize it's not always about you. You would learn to do whatever job paid you the most to benefit your family, intead of worrying about your personal comfort zone.
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Old 2nd March 2013, 1:27 PM   #12
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Could have, would have, should have...Everyone has a different situation. If you had children that depended on you to keep a roof over their heads, and food in their bellies, you would see the job market differently and realize it's not always about you. You would learn to do whatever job paid you the most to benefit your family, intead of worrying about your personal comfort zone.

You don't APPLY to any job or ACCEPT any job. If you do that then you are putting yourself in position to be miserable.
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Old 2nd March 2013, 2:33 PM   #13
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You don't APPLY to any job or ACCEPT any job. If you do that then you are putting yourself in position to be miserable.
I hope you have a lot of respect for the men and women who signed up to defend our country. Think of what the country would be like if everyone shared your attitude about work.
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I hope you have a lot of respect for the men and women who signed up to defend our country. Think of what the country would be like if everyone shared your attitude about work.

I;m talking about JOBS people say they hate to go to everyday.
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Old 2nd March 2013, 3:55 PM   #15
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Hello all,

I am lost in my life. I graduated in 2012 with a B.SC from a decent uni. I don't know what to do now. Should I try and get a job, go to a graduate school, go to a professional school (law or medical), or???

I really have no idea what interests me. Actually, pretty much everything seems "ok" to me, so I don't know what to pick to go on with in life.

I have applied to 40 jobs without even a single interview. I'm getting strongly discouraged. I feel like I will be bored in a job within weeks and will eventually quit.

Motivate me people!!!!

<3
I think you need to get a job and get out there in the work world. If you have the luxury to, search for jobs that fit the kind of tasks that are suited to your skills and abilities. Forget about interests, focus on what you would actively can and would like to do and skills to build upon. Be willing to start at the bottom in an industry you would like to pursue. And put a focus in what you're applying for and in your resume.

Grad school and beyond are for those who know why they are going (for a specific career purpose) or those who just have the time and money to spend just to educate themselves. Neither of these is you.
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