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Old 24th October 2012, 7:58 AM   #16
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when you are in your early twenties there is a LOT of pressure to have it all figured out. Many people don't fully work out what they want to do til they are much older. At 25 a lot of ppl barely know who you are let alone what career you want. Don't sweat it.

In my case i always knew what i wanted to do, i just had to figure out a way to get there.
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Old 24th October 2012, 8:55 AM   #17
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THANKS so much guys....

I really thought I wanted to be a nutritionist for my adult life, but then in my mid 20's, I did not want to spend it doing maths and science.

The degree was just not worth the torture.

So, I picked another degree I felt equally suited towards.

I don't start until next year in Feb.
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Old 24th October 2012, 11:19 AM   #18
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When I was starting my post high-school life, it was pretty typical for people to start college with "general education" lower level undergrad classes; those that are needed for any degree, and just get going in their higher education. Maybe community college, since it's so much more affordable. The major can be declared later.

It's just the same way now with many of my daughter's friends.

A lot of people go through their entire higher education without a clear idea of what their job goal is for after they graduate. This is not very economically feasible, but it's common. A young friend is about to graduate in Comparative Literature with a minor in Romantic Languages; she's applying for grad school. I think the only job options will be in academia.

It sounds, from your posts, Leigh, that in your country, you have to declare a major before you even begin college? Is this true?
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Old 24th October 2012, 10:20 PM   #19
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I fell into my current career at age 30. It seems to be my "calling" (I'm really good at it, and I find it incredibly rewarding), but I never would have chosen it before it was basically dumped in my lap.
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Old 24th October 2012, 10:26 PM   #20
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I fell into my current career at age 30. It seems to be my "calling" (I'm really good at it, and I find it incredibly rewarding), but I never would have chosen it before it was basically dumped in my lap.
I think this also goes to show that even if you think you know what you're "calling" is at a younger age...life can always throw you a curve ball, dumping something into your lap and it becomes a new passion. It's nice to have things worked out and have a plan of action, but things can always change for you when you least expect it.

So to the O.P., just go with what you love doing NOW.
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Old 24th October 2012, 11:06 PM   #21
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Bit depressed here....

Man, it is SO hard to find part time student jobs for me.

I just messed up another interview. Don't ask how, I know how, and I know how to nail interviews. Sometimes I am not in the right headspace and I am not organised.

And the job I "got" at Subway has fallen through: the manager said " I will set you up online, you will do the training, and then I will call you to come in and work"

..Have not heard from her since. Great.

Sometimes it feels like all I will do is bl00dy study with NO hope of finding part time work, and NO life besides studying

Studying is going to be mighty depressing if I can NEVEr find part time work.

I NEED to look forward to a road trip here and there, and at least ONE overseas trip in 3 bl00dy years of studying hard.

I am at a loss. I cannot see myself finding any part time job, besides the one I start mis November, which ONLY goes for ONE lousy month.





*sigh*. I am friendly, give excellent customer service, customers love me, but I have had SUCH bad luck with finding part time work.



Don't know what to do. If I cannot find part time work I am DOOMED. 3 years of utter HELL here I come.. ( how long my degree takes)

Study studt studying with no chance for extra fun cos NO ONE will hire me.

I am going to go back to crying now seeya guys.









I don't WANT to study full time with NO part time job.


*cries*.

Man, I NEED to earn SOME cash during my studies...


I break down and cry regularly because sometimes if feels like I will be studying with NO part time job, NO cash, and NO travels, music festivals or ANYTHING.



I am so greatful to be able to study what I want, but man, I really really reall reallyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy NEED to save SOME cash while I do it.


All I want is a part time job to afford ONE overseas trip whilst I study.


Anyway, I am going to go and cry more now..

I dream about travelling every night, literally; I dream about studying and saving some cash.

I dream every night
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Old 24th October 2012, 11:07 PM   #22
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*sigh* I was REALLY looking forward to studying and working a student type job part time.

Now it looks like all I will be doing is studying. FUN.

I so needed something to look forward to whilst I study!!!!!!!!!!!

I really do not mind studying if I work and have treats to look forward to.

I would rather go be a cleaner for a year, save, travel, then go study when I have travelled.
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Old 24th October 2012, 11:11 PM   #23
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I would rather go be a cleaner for a year, save, travel, then go study when I have travelled.
Then do so!!! I am sure there are openings for cleaners in Aussie, mainly because unemployment isn't as high there as in some other countries, and even unemployed people don't want to do the dirty work. What is stopping you?

Leigh, to some people, an education is a privilege. It is something that they yearn for. Sure, there are the hard times, the times that you feel bogged down, but if you're approaching tertiary studies in the way you currently are BEFORE YOU HAVE EVEN STARTED THEM, you are just dooming yourself to failure. It's pointless. Save the money, save the spot for the people who want it, and go do a full-time job and then travel!

You should be excited about your studies at least before you begin them! If you aren't, don't do it. Go get the travel bug out of your system first.
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Old 24th October 2012, 11:37 PM   #24
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Don't know what to do. If I cannot find part time work I am DOOMED. 3 years of utter HELL here I come.. ( how long my degree takes)

Study studt studying with no chance for extra fun cos NO ONE will hire me.

I am going to go back to crying now seeya guys.
I agree with El's post; get a cleaning job and travel if that is what you really want to do. School shouldn't feel like drudgery.

But for goodness sake, how have you concluded that you are doomed to 3 years without work? One semester at a time. Stay in the present; remember things never stay the same. Opportunities will present themselves when you least expect it.
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Old 25th October 2012, 11:14 AM   #25
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Any others here who took until age 25 for a career path to really click for them?

Care to share your stories?

It will make me feel better to hear other adults in their mid to late 20's only JUST registering what they need to do in life as their best option (for them, not what others expect or deem worthy)

I have tried working towards different careers, only to see that there were better options. The industries were drying up (as a travel agent/consultant), the pay was terrible (childcare or a travel agent), or I hated the degree so much it was not worth a good job (nutrition).

I have seriously considered about 4 career paths in the past two years. I have truly thought long and hard about my options.
I have given it a great deal of time and thought, I have government benifits and parents who help me a great deal, so I have been given a lot of time to figure out what I really wanted to do.

The best option I feel, is for me to study social sciences and become a social worker. I would be able to help disadvantaged children get back into school, among other people in need or help and direction like I have been myself up until I start my degree.

It is growing industry, the pay is about 70K on average, and I could make a difference to some peoples lives.
The degree is mostly reading, without math or science apart from statistics which is only for ONE semester. If that, I am not even sure if it is needed.

I feel a great sense of relief that I will soon be working towards something meaningfull.
It is a feeling like no other I have experienced; I have been chopping and changing so much I have felt very empty and unfullfilled, without a career I am working towards indefinately.

And I could always do personaltraining part time if I needed to.




Anyone else take a long time before they found a direction they felt at ease with?
The economy made the decision for me...

I had to go back to school to reinvent myself at 25... its tough and exhausting! Best of luck to all who are going or are thinking about going through the process.
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Old 25th October 2012, 11:24 PM   #26
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Then do so!!! I am sure there are openings for cleaners in Aussie, mainly because unemployment isn't as high there as in some other countries, and even unemployed people don't want to do the dirty work. What is stopping you?

Leigh, to some people, an education is a privilege. It is something that they yearn for. Sure, there are the hard times, the times that you feel bogged down, but if you're approaching tertiary studies in the way you currently are BEFORE YOU HAVE EVEN STARTED THEM, you are just dooming yourself to failure. It's pointless. Save the money, save the spot for the people who want it, and go do a full-time job and then travel!

You should be excited about your studies at least before you begin them! If you aren't, don't do it. Go get the travel bug out of your system first.




I cannot GET full time work. Literally.


I deferred my degree to do just what you suggested: I stopped studying so I could WORK full time, in order to travel for a few years, before resuming study.


Unfortunately, no one will employ me, therefore I am forced into my degree with NO prospect of travel or any sort of fun.

I WANT to study, I am so looking forward to it, but I AM NOT looking forward to doing it without part time work.


At this rate, I will not get a part time job during the THREE years I study for.


Sorry, but I have travelled since I was young, and I LOVE music festivals.

As greatful as I am to be alive, healthy, and to be able to study, Life WILL be a little dull with NO job.

I am very excited about my studie
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Old 25th October 2012, 11:29 PM   #27
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*sigh* every one around me says " you will get a job eventually"



Studying to me is not drudgery at all, it is not having part time work that depresseses me.

I do not want to study with NO hope of having a holiday, going to a music festival, or being able to ever buy a new handbag.

I want DESPERATELY to work, so I can afford travel throughout my studies.

I am going to start looking at cleaning jobs.

I actually LOVE any opportunity to keep fit, so a cleaning job would be ideal to just save for a year to travel.

I would really like to study part time, whilst working full time as a cleaner for a year.
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Old 26th October 2012, 12:10 AM   #28
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I cannot GET full time work. Literally.


I deferred my degree to do just what you suggested: I stopped studying so I could WORK full time, in order to travel for a few years, before resuming study.


Unfortunately, no one will employ me, therefore I am forced into my degree with NO prospect of travel or any sort of fun.

I WANT to study, I am so looking forward to it, but I AM NOT looking forward to doing it without part time work.


At this rate, I will not get a part time job during the THREE years I study for.


Sorry, but I have travelled since I was young, and I LOVE music festivals.

As greatful as I am to be alive, healthy, and to be able to study, Life WILL be a little dull with NO job.

I am very excited about my studie
Wait, Leigh. Are you saying you applied for several cleaner positions but were turned down? I don't mean any offense, but I find it difficult to believe that. Cleaner positions, along with factory lines and farm work, are the default positions for even immigrants on temp work visas to get, because they are the only ones that nobody ever seems to want to fill. If an immigrant on a temp visa can get them I really don't see how you, a citizen with no physical disability, would not.

Edit: Oh, just read your last post. Yes, you absolutely should apply. Those are one of the few types of positions that anyone who wants them is fairly likely to get. I will be very surprised if you apply and are turned down.

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Old 26th October 2012, 12:25 AM   #29
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I have not applied for cleaner positions, but I have applied for even the filthiest of food server positions, and despite having ten years food and beverage experience, my resume often did not even get me an interview.




I regularly walk into retail stores with terrible staff; no personality, not a joy to talk to, SLOW at service, and yet I get passed by, when I am great with people ( according to every one I have encountered in my personal life, and all of my parents friends have always lamented at hpw absurd it is that I cannot get a job in customer service)
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Old 28th October 2012, 2:58 PM   #30
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Leigh, I would try and get feedback to find out why, with your background, you can't get a position in the food industry. What is your experience in food? Is it relating to the positions you are applying to now?

Just a FYI, all subways are franchisee owned, and the majority are single owner, so you can find another one and apply there as well. Is your background fast casual, quick service, fine dining, . . . ? Have you been in management?

I would take this information and keep applying. If you don't get hired ask the hiring manager if they can tell you why and if they have any suggestions for you for future hiring? See if they will give you feedback on what prevented you from getting the position. It may be as simple as your times available. If they are doing behavioral assessments see if you can practice any of them with local recruiters. That way you will see what they are saying. That is another idea, link up with some recruiters, there are many in the food industry, and see if they can help you find a position (especially if you have management experience). You can look at other fields as well that are looking for part time help, receptionist, pet care, etc.

There are a lot of opportunities out there, it is just about how to sell yourself correctly and effectively.
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