i have bad people skills and my supervisor treats me badly

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I'm shy and awkward and depressed. that sometimes causes me to give off mannerisms that aren't friendly. I probably look closed off and unfriendly and i don't greet people as much and i don't start small talk and ask about how other people are doing. I also act very nervous and weird sometimes.

 

I feel like some people are friendly to me because they realize that i'm a nice kid, i'm just a little different.

 

but some other people are not so understanding, and they would make jokes at my expense. I'd laugh it off but i get the feeling that they don't think too highly of me at all.

 

One of those people is my supervisor. He's an "alpha male".. everyone likes him, he's on top of the social ladder, and all the women there like him and he gives them special treatment. So he has all this power, and he uses it to just put me down. he'd talk down about me in front of other people and they'd all laugh. He'd make me do extra work and then make me feel guilty when I insinuate that i don't like being treated unfairly. he'd say things like just do me a favor and do this, then when i ask him to help me out with something he'd just say no.

 

this is making me feel way worse than it should. I have thin skin and it's just flat out making me depressed. The idea that this person has soooo much more than me - he has power in his job, and he has way more power socially as well. and he's using it against me and I feel completely powerless..

 

i want to fight back. I want to be able to banter and talk back to him, and not be a nervous wreck. I want to stop feeling so weak and insecure and just be confident in myself as a person. How can I do this?

[Balzac]

First job? Are you a young, recent grad from school? Is this a large corporate job environment or a smaller, more casual company?

 

How long have you had this job?

 

I believe developing your story a bit more will help others here to offer helpful suggestions.

 

Also-sorry you're having this problem.

[UpwardForward]

Your supervisor: It's hard to believe everyone likes a person who humiliates you or others, usually that's a turn-off.

 

Learn your job really well and give good service. The chit-chat w customers can come more easily when you know your job and are able to easily accommodate their needs.

 

Personally when I am making purchases or seeking service, I don't like it when people take my time by asking me how I am. I just want good service, and they usually cannot do both.

 

When I'm assisting customers, I consider of utmost importance to get their specs and needs correct, and in a timely manner. That's usually all they want.

[Ross MwcFan]

Your supervisor: It's hard to believe everyone likes a person who humiliates you or others, usually that's a turn-off.

 

Learn your job really well and give good service. The chit-chat w customers can come more easily when you know your job and are able to easily accommodate their needs.

 

Personally when I am making purchases or seeking service, I don't like it when people take my time by asking me how I am. I just want good service, and they usually cannot do both.

 

When I'm assisting customers, I consider of utmost importance to get their specs and needs correct, and in a timely manner. That's usually all they want.

 

The fact that people like him and find him funny when he puts the OP down, probably means that they aren't nice people themselves.

 

I've experienced the same in life, where there is a particular person who is really popular and liked by eveyone, yet they'll treat people badly (including myself) who they see as being lower than them, usually when they do this, other people will laugh and find it amusing, even so-called friends. I've always noticed that these people aren't exactly genuine nice people themselves.

 

This is how most people are where I used to live.

[JadeBird]

i don't know about your financial state ,so i am not gonna advise you to quit your job but if you are financially capable and adequate, it's a good option.

 

working with someone like that is really a pain in the ass, if i were in your shoes, i would find it hard to control myself from beating the crap out of him if he dared humiliate me in front of everyone.

 

there's so little you can do to change the work environment and social state you are in with people in your workplace right now , but if you wanna survive this and feel happy about going to work every day, the only thing you can do is to make yourself adapted to all the crap they throw at you at work which is almost impossible to achieve for someone like me.

 

some people will say "fight back", trust me it's not gonna help with someone holding enough power that can have you sacked by his will, it will only make it worse.

[Ross MwcFan]

Couldn't you report him? It would be cool if you could get him sacked.

[Radu]

OP, what country are you from ?

 

Honestly this sounds like emotional abuse, bullying ... you might want to consult a lawyer specialising in work law.

The best way to get the smirk off his face might be to destroy his carreer.

But be very carefull, ppl like him will always end up spinning it their way if you don't have good evidence and your own carreer might be damaged.

 

Otherwise, i would collect evidence, talk to lawyer and get a job someplace else ... the evidence and lawyer stuff is in case he badmouths you to future employers.