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Old 1st April 2012, 2:49 AM   #1
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Red face should I have male clients or only female?

i only just finished my massage course and officially became a massage therapist, and my husband is a former massage therapist but he works in computers now. i asked him if its ok for me to do male clients and he said he knows its professional and that it doesnt bother him. but i still am not sure if i should, so do you think its ok or not?
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Old 1st April 2012, 3:11 AM   #2
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If you're both comfortable with it, then yes. Else, no.
good, i think its ok then
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Old 1st April 2012, 3:29 AM   #3
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I'm not entirely sure (your particular profession might have some exception for it), but my gut instinct is that it's unlawful to refuse to provide a service provided to others based on the person's gender, just as its unlawful to refuse to provide a service based on the person's race.
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Old 1st April 2012, 3:45 AM   #4
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The other thing is to revisit this issue every now and again to make sure nothing has changed. Many is the time people decide things early on, then later realise that they have changed their minds only for the other person to hold them to the original decision. It can be a source of friction if not managed correctly.
yep i think i will talk about how its going a lot to by husband so he knows its ok

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I'm not entirely sure (your particular profession might have some exception for it), but my gut instinct is that it's unlawful to refuse to provide a service provided to others based on the person's gender, just as its unlawful to refuse to provide a service based on the person's race.
if its a massage clinic then i agree the clinic has to treat all. but i'm working from home and one of my friiends works from her home too and she advertises that she only does female clients. she had a bad experience with a male one touching himself during. so she plays it safe now
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Old 1st April 2012, 4:40 AM   #5
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you've just qualified and you're only asking this now...?

how long was your course?

Because when I did my 3-year Shiatsu course, the last year also gave us insight, instructions, guidance and advice on how to run our own business.

If your course was a bona-fide extensive thorough course, dealing with anatomy, pathology and physiology, some aspects of medicine, common physical ailments, illnesses and diseases, they should certainly have covered this.

If this was a six-week condensed course, then you should at least have discussed this with your tutor.
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Old 1st April 2012, 4:51 AM   #6
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you've just qualified and you're only asking this now...?

how long was your course?

Because when I did my 3-year Shiatsu course, the last year also gave us insight, instructions, guidance and advice on how to run our own business.

If your course was a bona-fide extensive thorough course, dealing with anatomy, pathology and physiology, some aspects of medicine, common physical ailments, illnesses and diseases, they should certainly have covered this.

If this was a six-week condensed course, then you should at least have discussed this with your tutor.
woah you sound mean

same as my course and my course tutor mentioned how some males can take advantage of female massage therapists, as happened to my friend. its my decision of whether i advertise for male clients. i will but wasnt 100% sure of whether my husband was REALLY ok with it or was just saying it. he wouldnt admit it probably even if it bothered him

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Old 1st April 2012, 5:06 AM   #7
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i'm criticising your course tutors or establishment, not you.
If they don't teach you how - how are you going to know these things?
Teaching establishments have a duty to protect you - you're paying good money for your qualifications, they should be able to provide you with a comprehensive experience which will leave you competent in both your field and as a business-person.

FWIW - I'm in the UK.
I had to abandon my practice of therapy, because 90% of callers were men, asking whether i provided 'other services'.

I tried to name my practice Shiatsu therapy, medical massage, accupressure therapy (nobody knew what that was, so that failed and bombed at the first airing!) and Chinese deep treatment.

no good.


If you're going to set up a clinic, the best advice i can give you - is to hire a male receptionist.
The moment men hear a male voice - they either hang up, or ask "is this the right number for"... and then the male receptionist can put them straight.....
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Old 1st April 2012, 6:06 AM   #8
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I tried at least nine different ways of presenting my professional serious company, but there's only so much you can do to work around the word 'massage'.
It unfortunately has sexual/sensual overtones that men are inexorably unfailingly seek.
I think in my final month, when I just jacked it in, i had received about 700 calls from men - and 12 from women.
i actually ended up seeing all the women - and just 3 of the men.
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Old 1st April 2012, 6:51 AM   #9
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i'm criticising your course tutors or establishment, not you.
If they don't teach you how - how are you going to know these things?
Teaching establishments have a duty to protect you - you're paying good money for your qualifications, they should be able to provide you with a comprehensive experience which will leave you competent in both your field and as a business-person.

FWIW - I'm in the UK.
I had to abandon my practice of therapy, because 90% of callers were men, asking whether i provided 'other services'.

I tried to name my practice Shiatsu therapy, medical massage, accupressure therapy (nobody knew what that was, so that failed and bombed at the first airing!) and Chinese deep treatment.

no good.


If you're going to set up a clinic, the best advice i can give you - is to hire a male receptionist.
The moment men hear a male voice - they either hang up, or ask "is this the right number for"... and then the male receptionist can put them straight.....
thanks tara that sounds good i will try a male receptionist i was not going to even have a receptionist before you said that because it was more a home business and i thought i could answer phones for it instead
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Old 1st April 2012, 7:37 AM   #10
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thanks tara that sounds good i will try a male receptionist i was not going to even have a receptionist before you said that because it was more a home business and i thought i could answer phones for it instead
Just answer the phone in a deep voice. When people show up wear your best fake mustache to greet them. Say the girl will be out in just a moment.
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Old 1st April 2012, 7:48 AM   #11
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Just answer the phone in a deep voice. When people show up wear your best fake mustache to greet them. Say the girl will be out in just a moment.
i doubt that will look good, no way lol.
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Old 1st April 2012, 8:05 AM   #12
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i doubt that will look good, no way lol.
So what happened to your friend anyways?

I'm a man I only got a massage once in my life... that is a professional massage. It was good I think I relaxed so much I was farting.
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Old 1st April 2012, 8:11 AM   #13
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So what happened to your friend anyways?

I'm a man I only got a massage once in my life... that is a professional massage. It was good I think I relaxed so much I was farting.
she threw away that towel and only massaged females after that actually she doesnt advertise now but just has regular female customers and gets a new one sometimes from word of mouths because each customer has female relatives etc.

my husband massaged me a week after we met because he was a massage therapist last year (but not now) and he did not accept my money and we got married this year

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Old 1st April 2012, 8:15 AM   #14
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Interesting story of how you met your hubby... but what happened to your friend? I'm guessing a guy jizzed on her?
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Old 1st April 2012, 8:20 AM   #15
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Interesting story of how you met your hubby... but what happened to your friend? I'm guessing a guy jizzed on her?
she said she was massaging his legs and then then he moved strange, and then she saw his hand was underneath him and there was ooz there
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